maggie read this one and sighed and said 'i'm so very tired' and i wonder why

For Love! And Shower.


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137 thoughts on “For Love! And Shower.

  1. SOMEONE GET JOYCE PILL POCKETS STAT

    1. The pills are tiny, I bet you could slip one in a piece of EasyMac.

      1. It’s either that or throw it in her mouth, hold her down, and stroke her neck until she swallows.
         
        Or maybe until she does the other thing that she’d probably do if Dorothy did that.
         
        Whatever gets the pill down.

        1. Try stuffing the pill in some lubricating goop to swallow.
          Yoghurt, mashed banana, even a spoonful of raw cookie dough or meat patty – dependent on pill-receiver – have been known to work well with pill-shy animals and sick folk. Feed with soft plastic spoon and “force” recipient to suck the food off the bowl, the pill reliably follows suit.
          Home nurse Lore….

        2. Try stuffing the pill in some lubricating goop to swallow.
           
          You’re aware not everyone drinks dough, meat patties (!?!), or even yoghurt, right? Some people eat those. As in “chew”.
           
          What really surprises me is that Joyce is canonically able to swallow sushi rolls whole. Apparently it really freaks her out to have something… tiny in her mouth? Or her hands even?

        3. My go-to for the first ~17 years of my life was apple sauce. Eventually I managed to (fairly) reliably take with just water. Half-fill mouth with water, then put pill in, then swallow with more water. In an absolute pinch, a build-up of saliva can work, but isn’t 100% and doesn’t feel good at all even when it does.

      2. honestly tho’ the easy mac is a good idea, that would totally work
         
        i mean i was joking about the pill pockets but only so much

      3. Heck, you could stuff one of those lil’ things inside a single piece of elbow macaroni. Cheese it up, and swallow whole.

      4. I mean, Joyce swallowed an entire california roll without issue, I’m sure you could hide the pill in *something*.

        1. this is extremely relevant and I’m not sure why Dorothy hasn’t thought of it yet XD

        2. At the risk of ruining a bit, I’m not sure how seriously to take that moment, because it was definitely also a comedic beat.
          .
          But I think a crucial element was that in the moment Joyce forced herself to swallow the sushi whole, it was either that or:
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          1. Bite into the sushi and risk tasting it
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          2. Admit “defeat”, which would have ramped up Walky’s teasing, as well as disappointing Dorothy, both of whom were present (and Dorothy had paid for the sushi).
          .
          If I were Joyce, I think I’d feel like: there’s a difference between what I was willing to make myself do back before I understood that some of these issues AREN’T just me being dumb and weird, when I was both trying to avoid mockery on one side and only somewhat consciously trying to impress a crush on the other side.
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          And, of course, the sushi was also a one-time thing. Whereas she’s going to be taking these pills every day for, like, at least the next 30 years (and there will be more pills along the way)….
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          Or, TL;DR: did she really swallow the sushi without issue, or was that just a one-time feat of strength made under several types of duress, heh.


        3. .
          “there’s a difference between what I was willing to make myself do back before [blahblahblah], and now, when I know my issues aren’t just that, when Walky ISN’T watching, and when I have Secured My Crush as a girlfriend”
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          or something like that, didn’t mean to leave my sentence hanging that way.

        4. If it’s not physical difficulty swallowing things, but specifically about tiny things like this strip suggests (along with the previous mention of mini-m&ms), then she might not have a problem taking a pill wrapped up in something. Not so much hidden as just big enough not to trigger this particular reaction.

          The issue with the sushi at the time then would have been more her known issues with unfamiliar or touching foods.

        5. @thejeff: good point!

      5. That sounds like mixing food i fear

    2. Joyce would KNOW that there was an extra ingredient mixed in. As much as she hates taking pills, she hates having complicated meals even more.

  2. Ms. Maggie, we thank you for your service.

    1. And your patience!

      1. Particularly the patience.

  3. Pills don’t bother me, but there definitely are things that bother me like this, and so I really sympathize with Joyce. However, there’s got to be something better than 2 liters of Sprite every day.

    1. Two liters of Dr. Pepper is infinitely superior.

      1. If you like Kidney Stones, maybe.

        I swear, every Doctor Pepper fan fan I’ve known has had serious recurring issues with those until they switched up to other, equally unhealthy but less kidney-stoney beverages.

        1. I have never ever, in 76, going on 77 years, had kidney stones. I will admit that would be enough to take me off Dr. Pepper if it was an issue.

          I’m not at all sure it’s related, but the doctors do tell me that I’m in the earliest stage of kidney failure, but not to worry about it on account of there’s bound to be something else that kills me before it’s an actual problem.

    2. Yeah, this really made me realize the ‘feeling’ Joyce is experiencing at the moment, very familiar.

  4. oh dear XD

    how much longer we have till the NRE REALLY starts waning? o3o

    1. It’s probably going to take more than three days.

    2. We’re gonna be in this for a while

    3. I mean. Check the alt text.
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      I don’t think this specific thing is gonna be a breaking point for Dorothy.

  5. One time I got strep throat and had to do the usual round of antibiotics for a week, as you do. I was really proud of myself because I was able to swallow the pill every time… except for the very last day where, while I was at work, I took my pill with a swig of water and it just! It got caught right at the back of my throat. Awful feeling. I hacked the pill up along with the water I drank, at the same time that a coworker walked into the room. This was during the height of COVID so she immediately freaked and grabbed the manager, who fearfully poked her head in and asked “You’re not sick are you…?” Thankfully her husband has similar troubles swallowing pills so she understood the situation. All this to say, Joyce is me and I am Joyce.

    1. Those things are horse pills. I can swallow any normal pill, but antibiotics come in these half inch pills that are as fat as my pinky. I got some for a case of pneumonia recently and they were awful. If you ever want to get rid of your gag reflex take those for a month.

  6. …I mean sure, it’s not perfect, but just by touching the pill at all Joyce has completed Parts One through Three of The Pill-Box Master Plan. That’s progress!

  7. it’s a work… in progress.

  8. I think it might be time for our girl to look into a subdermal implant

    1. Or at least disposable latex gloves. My wife works with resin, so we order them in boxfuls.

  9. mouthful of water, at least. It’s not that bad if you’re not taking it dry.

  10. Joyce, my dear, my dearest dear, you’re gonna be a right ass-pain as a student learning oral sex.

    1. Funnily enough, I feel like she’ll take to that long before she gets comfortable with pills, and weird foods.

      1. Apparently one’s ability to overcome feelings of disgust can be directly proportional to how horny someone is. If that wasn’t the case, very little sex would be had, I think.

        So, clearly, Joyce needs to develop a pill-swallowing fetish. Problem solved!

        1. I’m sure Dorothy can pull some Pavlov-esque training with Joyce. I don’t know if she will or not, but she’s certainly capable.

    2. I dunno about that one, she didn’t seem to have any issues with Dorothy or Joe as far as oral goes.

  11. I wanna sympathize with Joyce’s pill problem, but that’s kind of difficult. Almost as difficult as it is for Joyce to take a pill.

    1. I don’t have any trouble swallowing pills at all. But I find it extremely easy to sympathize with. My own strong aversion to heights is every bit as irrational. And just as arbitrary, as airplanes don’t count. But basically, humans are like that so what are you going to do?

      Now it’s possible that Joyce’s issues in total may be too much for Dorothy to cope with, but we’ll have to see. It’s equally possible that Joyce may perfectly fit Dorothy’s need to be needed. Nothing like unaccustomed closeness to stress test a relationship.

  12. don’t be self-aware about swallowing pills don’t be self-aware about swallowing pills don’t be self-aware about swallowing pills

  13. Joyce I can sympathize with not wanting to take a pill, but flinging it across the room isn’t helping anyone.
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    On the bright side Dorothy agrees to the shower, so hopefully we’ll see some new nsfw work in the near future. Right?

    1. I am reasonably sure that flinging it across the room was not a conscious decision.

  14. How do you live, Joyce? Literally, how do you stay alive with this kind of neurosis about putting things in your mouth? Do survival instincts override the disgust if you get hungry enough? Is being alive, ultimately, more important to you than feeling a momentary discomfort about touching things with the inside of your mouth? It’s a question of priorities.

    1. The fun thing about texture issues like this is that sometimes if you put too much food in your mouth, or the wrong kind of food, or hell, just going to the dentist and they put the x-ray pad in your mouth the wrong way or pop in the silicone putty in your mouth without a warning, it will indeed trigger a gagging response. Ask me how I know.

      1. Ugh, I have to pre-apologize to the dentist every time I need an x-ray or anything needs to go in there past my pre-molars, I have such bad gag reflex issues. It’s so friggin embarrassing

      2. This is 100%. i can’t eat mashed potatoes or baked potatoes or pumpkin pie or even really thick french fries. I LOVE baked apples, my roommate used to make them for me, and one time she cooked them just a little too long and they got that texture and my tongue was like YUMMY and my throat was like ABSOLUTELY NOT NOPE!

    2. She doesn’t have an issue with putting things in her mouth. She has an issue with swallowing pills, which I completely understand as someone who likewise started college being unable/barely able to do it! But at the same time, I did eat food multiple times a day, gasp gasp shock. Pills can be difficult for an autistic overthinker because you are deliberately skipping the “chewing” step of ingesting things. Your brain is yelling at you YOU’RE GONNA CHOKE BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T CHEW IT!!!! even though the pill is objectively smaller than mouthfuls of chewed food you’ve swallowed before.

      I don’t know why people are being so weird and judgemental about this. Some people have a hard time with pills, it’s not a dumb trait Willis made up without thinking through.

      1. When I was young, I struggled to get used to swallowing pills. I also, for unrelated reasons, built up my pain tolerance. The latter was easier.
        That’s not a boast about me being tough — I’m just a wimp about pills. I try to swallow mine when I’m at least a little thirsty, because they’re not going down remotely dry.

      2. I suspect it may be more about who is having the issue than what the issue is, frankly.

    3. Like most sensory issues and texture squicks, this is not a rational thing you can simply decide to overcome. Joyce is merely vocalizing all of her internal disgust and revulsion and anxiety that she has no control over. If you watch TADC, there’s no actual logic behind Jax’s fear of corn, other than that it “looks gross.” The only solution is to confront the phobia and find out the world doesn’t end.

    4. She doesn’t have a neurosis about putting things in her mouth. We’ve seen her put things in her mouth happily, like mac & cheese, chicken fingers, and her partners’ genitals. She has a neurosis about putting *tiny* things in her mouth, like pills and M&M minis.

    5. Can you cut down on the condescending tone please? There are actual autistic people in this comment section you know.

  15. Willis, Yeeting Maggies Birth Control

  16. Dorothy can work her down to a cup of apple juice, I believe in her

  17. Joyce had a lot of little somethings going down her throat when she gave Joe that blowjob as thanks for a weighted blanket. Just pretend you’re swallowing more of that. Problem solved.

    1. 1) To be a bit crude, we don’t know that she swallowed.
      2) Given Joyce’s total lack of sex ed, she may not know those tiny things exist.
      3) Even if she does and did, neuroses are not logical and can’t be overcome by logic.

      1. I imagine that if she knows they exist, it’s the same as something she or Mx Willis expressed a while back with regards to some sort of beloved fast food: “no no that’s not different ingredients touching, it’s all one homogenous thing, and I will Not accept thinking of it otherwise.”
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        If one could control this mental categorization, it would help a lot, but my understanding is that it doesn’t work that way.

  18. Maybe she’d be better off putting it in some food. Something small enough to swallow whole but large enough to not have that “small thing in my throat” feeling.

    Personally I always try to eat something after taking any pills.

    1. It’s so odd to me how some folks would apparently rather swallow a big horse pill than an “eensy small” one.

  19. I can only imagine what Joyce would think of something like Contac C capsules. When I was a kid in the ’70s I wanted to get my hands on them, because a pill with a bunch of tiny little balls in it was cool. In the end I never took one before they were pulled from the market in 2000 because one ingredient could cause strokes.

  20. I find it crazy that so many people voted for Joyce having “no idea and doesn’t think about” what’s in her burrito knowing all her aversions like this.

    1. The option wasn’t “doesn’t think about it.” It was *TRIES* not to think about it.
      An important distinction.

    2. I think her food aversions were exactly why people picked the “tries not to think about it” option.

    3. We have literally seen that she considers certain things like casserole not as separate ingredients so it makes complete sense to me, that she may do this with other things at times, where she doesn’t know what’s in it, and tries not to think about it.

    4. It is made of burrito.

      That is the real answer, and “doesn’t think about it” is close enough.

  21. I have chronic health issues and have to take a LOT of pills every day. In the morning I have to take five, two tiny, one small, one regular size, and one horse pill. I can take them all at once (normally with a swallow of diet Pepsi through a straw to wash it down. But occasionally I will unknowingly have an empty cup, and I discovered that I can swallow them just fine using the ANTICIPATION of swallowing the Pepsi. Note, this will not work if I KNOW the cup is empty, or even have substantial doubt. The swallow reflex has to be COMPLETELY hoodwinked.

  22. I… but… the teeny ones are so small you can’t even feel them go down! They’re easy!

    Those pentagonal fuckers, on the other hand, like amlodipine comes in? Hate those assholes. They have corners and hurt.

    1. Wait, what? Why would anyone make a tablet like that?
       
      So.. looked it up. According to https://ftloscience.com/drug-tablet-design/ one reason for stupid pill shapes is brand recognition and an expected resulting increase in brand loyalty. You might want to prove them wrong and switch to generics? Looks like they tend to be sensibly round.

      1. The problem is that the pentagonal ones /were/ a generic as far as I know, haha.

        It ultimately doesn’t matter much because my usual blood pressure med is a normal-sized extended release case that I have no problems with. I only had to face the amlodipine devils again last time I was in the hospital and they gave me those instead of my usual even though I had my usual on me, lol.

  23. If I curl my fingers around tablets, inevitably one sticks to my middle finger… which often refuses to open when the other fingers do, then suddenly pops open really fast, trebucheting the tablet across the room. It is very frustrating.

    1. Yeah, arthritis is a bongo. And it doesn’t even have the courtesy to wait until you’re old to strike, despite all the cliches.

  24. I’m autistic and I’ve never had much trouble with taking pills. I just swallow them with a little bit of water.

    1. Well, you know the old saying – if you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person. When I went to goth clubs with my then-fiancee back in the day, my favorite place was standing right in front of one of the speakers so I could feel the bass beating through me, but if my daughter had been around and present she’d have fled all the noise screaming. We may get similar issues, but they’re often different in detail.

  25. Wait… Was Joyce not touching the pill before? Did she psych herself out of it? I thought she was trying to follow her usual procedure but with drinking less soda.
    Food repulsion so powerful it overrode her desire to shower with Dorothy.

    1. Nope, she dumped the pill directly from the container into the soda, then drank the soda.

      1. Maybe. I know she put it in the bottle, I don’t think it was clear that she didn’t touch it.

        It might be different to touch it if she’s not thinking about putting it directly into her mouth. Regardless, the easiest solution for the moment would be to do the same thing but into a glass of water or even soda.

  26. I’m with Joyce here. Swallowing pills is so hard. Even with water I struggle, I gag and nearly throw up a lot

  27. …and the cracks begin to appear…
    (Sooner than expected!! :) )

  28. This is absurd. I’m beginning to wonder a) how Joyce ever survived into some kind of adulthood and b) how Dorothy can put up with this unhinged nonsense, let alone love her.

    1. As someone with bad OCD, generally with great difficulty and pissing off everyone around you eventually after they help you. When people with issues like that find a partner it works with its rare and likely involved getting at least somewhat better through therapy etc (im never going to be that well)

    2. After I read this, I found my wife and thanked her for continuing to love me.

      1. It’s really great that you two have eachother

      2. I’m sorry that some people are so ignorant.

      3. if its any consolation, i think my partner and i say “thank u for loving me” about 3 times a day each on average

    3. I wonder the same thing about how anyone could put up or love an asshole like yourself, some of life mysteries i guess.

    4. Excuse you, fucklet. Some people are just attracted to unhinged nonsense, as evidenced by the fact that I’ve been in a dedicated and loving relationship for 13 years (in June), and I’m me. I’m sorry your heart and soul are empty.

      1. the great thing about being niche content is that, while you may not have broad appeal, you’re definitely gonna be SOMEBODY’S favorite thing, and that’s way better, actually

        1. “Oh, you’re dating Taffy? Name five of their albums.”

  29. So… how did that ‘one (1) shower’ sound verbally?

    1. one – one – shower

  30. Joyce, the water doesn’t have to be plain water. It can be sparkling flavored water. I’m a fan of Sparkling Ice myself.

  31. Can’t it be hidden in a piece of cheese?

    1. Do you think Joyce swallows pieces of cheese whole?
       
      It’s gonna have to be a sushi roll…

      1. It sounds like a joke, but this strip does suggest it’s not a physical problem swallowing, but something about the pill being eensy small. Putting it in something bigger (and different texture like the sushi roll) might really make it easier.

  32. Do you think an arm implant would be more or less upsetting for her?

    1. My guess is eventually less, but it would take a whiiiiile to get over.

      1. Do the implants affect the endocrine system the same way? It’s not for pregnancy, after all, but to avoid massive cramps during her period. I ask because I really don’t know if the implants help with that.

        1. An implant can help in the same way, yes. Though some people respond better to one method or another.

        2. The only medical long term birth control that doesn’t affect you hormonally is the copper t coil and, whatever other similar things are still in use, cuz those are based on physical reactions. There are many different methods, almost all of them are just releasing progestin and/or estrogen into the body in one way or another. But based on my research (tbh I’d love to not have to rely on a pill I can forget to take and need a prescription to refill each month, sometimes leading to me just raw risking the endometriosis getting bad again for a month), the long term implants are less reliable than just finding the right pill

  33. I swear sometimes this comic treats “is autistic” like it means “has the emotional maturity, and impulse control of a literal toddler”

    1. Joyce isn’t the only autistic character in the comic, you know. She is, however, the only one who acts like this.

      1. I’m glad other people had better responses than I did.
        I’m also glad other people had better support than I did.
        I wonder if the latter helped them produce the former, perhaps due to better emotional health and the ability to objectively evaluate actions that resemble things less fortunate people had been punished and judged harshly for?
        Regardless, for the good people in this comment section: thank you for being you, however you got to be that way.

    2. Things that are just so cool and normal to say about comics created by autistic people that showcase traits they’ve said they themselves have.

    3. As an autistic person whose favourite fictional representation is Sterling Archer, I strongly feel the need to say: Please stop thinking you’re helping.

      1. Deadass, “wait a second – am I autistic?” was one of the funniest punchlines in that entire show’s run. it was so earned

    4. The one doing that it’s you.

    5. Sensory issues aren’t related to emotional maturity. As an autistic person, this would not be an unusual reaction to me if you made me hold a Bad Texture for longer than my stress tolerance for it, and it wouldn’t be a conscious thought, it would simply be escaping the emotional torment.

      Like, it’s not the level of dislike of having to fill out a boring form to an autistic person, it’s a level of dislike more like walking home in heavy rain without a jacket and yet people expect you to just do it every day like it’s nothing because they don’t get the actual level of emotional strain it is for you to do things your nervous system despises and that are quite unpleasant for you.

      I am fine with taking pills, but, other autistic people find it much less pleasant. There are things I find unpleasant, that won’t bother other autistic people like slime is a big thing a lot enjoy and I just… I can’t. The texture grosses me out so bad that if you forced it in my hand, I would be yeeting it just like Joyce yeeted that pill.

      1. The pills thing causes me no problem, but just today I had to wash my hands in the public bathroom, and the over-bearing soap they use in those fuckers had me desperately trying to remember to keep my hands at least 2 feet from my face the entire walk home, because if I smelled that smell too much, I was going to have a splitting headache.

  34. Rewarding with sex isn’t going to cut it, Joyce needs therapy for the severity of her sensory issues. Not ABA, though. Fuck ABA.

  35. Sensory issues are not immaturity, being stubborn, or acting like a toddler. It is part of being neurodivergent. These are literally things people cannot help. Other texture issues can be touch related (The wrong fabric or sensation can feel so wrong it is akin to pain, unwanted physical contact being very uncomfortable or painful), smell (chemical smells, perfume, etc can cause nausea or headaches), sight (bright lights triggering headaches, too much visual stimuli causing disorientation), hearing (loud noises or crowded areas becoming overstimulating, causing irritability and fatigue) and taste (literally can cause people to vomit). I understand that to some people this is strange or weird, but it is beneficial to try to understand others. I myself have taste, hearing, and sensitivities to bright lights. Realizing the average person doesn’t have these struggles was paramount to me learning and embracing that I wasn’t neurotypical. I have better coping methods now for when I am feeling overstimulated and the people in my life are understanding.

    1. And that last thing: it’s not asking for the moon! It’s actually not that hard to be understanding!
      .
      Having been on both sides of this. It’s not that hard. It’s not a superhuman feat. If you have severe texture issues, you are still fully lovable.

      1. Exactly! My best friend has texture related sensitivities so whenever I bought her, say, a t-shirt or something as a gift I’ve either stuck with fabrics I know she likes (such as heather t-shirt material) or I’ll tell her “hey I’d like to give you a shirt from blank”, she goes and touch-tests the shirts in-store and lets me know which are best. As a gift, the point is for her to enjoy it.

        1. meant to say touch related not texture related lmao

        2. Haha it was clear, no worries.
          .
          I genuinely just think this is a mindset thing. Where you either decide to treat someone’s neurospice exactly the way you’d treat anything else you know about their needs and preferences — no harder to keep track of than a pizza topping you know they can’t stand! — or you put it into this passive-aggressive mental category, where it’s some weird rude thing they’re doing to make your life harder.
          .
          It’s genuinely so easy and rewarding to keep track of this stuff for people you love.
          .
          Is it gonna be exasperating sometimes? Inconvenient sometimes? Sure! Obviously! But so are we. So is everything we love. Your favorite video game has that one level you always sigh when you reach. Every cat I’ve ever lived with has thrown up on something I cared about at one point. Being in it for the long haul with another human being (or beings) means you’re gonna see some gross stuff eventually! Life is just like that, we are all gonna get on each other’s nerves now and then.
          .
          A really strong texture aversion is no harder to deal with, from the outside, as a friend or loved one, than an allergy. And it’s often no more controllable. Certainly no more something that is being done “to” you as the friend or loved one. :/
          .
          So yeah. It’s a mindset. You either take it as just something to remember about Jake, or you take it as an affront, and if you’re gonna do that second thing? There’s one person who sucks in that situation, and it’s not Jake.

        3. I agree 100% with everything you’re saying here, and I’m really enjoying the dialogue! As I mentioned, I have sensory issues related to hearing. I grew up with captions on the tv because my mom was partially deaf, but even after moving out I kept the captions on my tv because otherwise I just couldn’t always hear what was said. One of the moments with two of my friends (one of which was the besty mentioned above) that made me feel most seen and understood, we went to a restaurant after a long day at a con. I was tired and quickly got overstimulated because it was a busy Friday night and the place was packed with people and, as you can imagine, a LOT of noise. What made me feel understood was that my friends noticed that I’d gone quiet and was spacing out, did a quick check-in of “Are you okay?” and I let them know it was loud. They asked if I wanted to go outside, I said no, so what they did from there was quietly converse amongst themselves and let me have space. With a bit of time, and a fidget I had in my backpack, I was able to decompress and feel better and return to the conversation at hand. In contrast, whenever I’ve gotten overstimulated at gatherings with my grandma, it’s included her repeatedly following me when I try to go somewhere else to get space, repeatedly asking me if I’m okay, hugging me without permission, and trying to involve me even more with whatever conversation is happening. It’s different for everyone but for me, it definitely helps to just give me some space.

        4. Right back at you ❤️
          .
          Also: yeah, the difference it makes when someone is willing to do what actually makes YOU feel better, versus what… makes them feel better about you… is huge. 😞

      2. I think this sort of thing can be particularly frustrating to read for those of us not given that amount of grace. A lotta people do not have people that ease you into this stuff or accommodate you and are forced to conform or be shamed, shunned or mistreated. So it can be somewhat frustrating to see people who have the support system to be allowed to ease their way into this stuff. Especially when you have significant others and loved ones who support you because it feels like bragging. You spend your whole life working on yourself trying to figure out what’s wrong with you and fixing it because nobody will put up with you and you watch people with supporting loving partners who do it all. Everyone deserves love but that doesnt mean everyone gets to have it. And it feels real unfair.

        1. I can see that point of view. It’s only in my adult life that I’ve been able to get understanding and support. When I was a child and had difficulty eating certain food, my mom would yell at me. Sometimes she’d force me to sit at the table for hours until I ate whatever I was refusing to eat. Other times she’d literally force my mouth open, force a spoonful of it in my mouth, and again, force me to stay at the table until I swallowed what she’d forced in my mouth. My friends and their parents made fun of me for it, it was a frequent topic of conversation and jokes, because they thought I was being difficult for “no reason” and just needed to “get over it” because they could eat that stuff no problem. When I’ve become overstimulated at social gatherings, I’d sometimes lash out which resulted in the natural consequences you can expect. Lashing out is partially my own fault which is why I try to advocate for myself now to do what I know needs to be done to come back down from being overstimulated. The difference for me is that BECAUSE I have experienced being misunderstood and ridiculed for things I couldn’t control, I hate seeing others be treated similarly. It makes me wish people could be more empathetic and try to bridge the gap where I can. If someone else is doing better with more support than I did at that time, I think that’s something that should be celebrated. I’m sorry you weren’t given the support and care you needed in your life, and I hope that things are better for you now, or can get better in the future.

        2. I am genuinely so sorry you haven’t received these kinds of affirmations. But it isn’t because you don’t deserve them.
          .
          I’m just going to reiterate: you are not that hard to accommodate. You are not that hard to “put up with”. You are not that hard to love.
          .
          And no, I don’t know you personally. But yes I’m still confident on this.
          .
          You deserve more support than you are getting. You deserve to NOT feel like a huge burden. And I really truly hope that you meet more people who will help reaffirm that for you more meaningfully than a stranger on the internet ever could, because I know it’s not easy to believe when you’re being treated crappily.
          .
          From experience: I know it’s not easy. I’m in a better place now, but yeah. I’ve been in worse places and I’ve felt much, much worse about myself.

  36. I take it she doesn’t like Pez, M&Ms, or any other small candies

    1. She doesn’t like M&Ms minis! We don’t know if it extends to other M&Ms, but she specifically got some minis in an effort to prepare for pills and struggled to make herself eat them, IIRC.

  37. If the title of the next volume is not “I Will Do This Thing! For Love! And Shower.” I will experience some small level of disappointment.

  38. Joyce worries about pills more than my cat does.
    (Though less than other cats I’ve had.)

    1. My dog is on Simparica Trio to prevent parasites (it’s hard to avoid heartworm if you go outside at all, as it’s transmitted by mosquitoes among other methods and the local dragonflies can only do so much). Theoretically, it’s a beef-flavored chewable tablet. In practice, she refuses to chew them and I have to literally push them down her throat. Some things are just unacceptable tastes or textures no matter what you do, and all there is to do at that point is find a workaround. At least Dorothy doesn’t have to put her fingers all the way into the back of Joyce’s mouth and massage her throat (unless that’s what they’re both into…).

  39. I would have thought that conditioning Joyce to associate birth control pills with sex would be a slam dunk. The connection is obvious. But this is Joyce and so here we are.

  40. So which of Joyce’s parents do we think is neurodivergent?

  41. I’m sorry, I can’t stop giggling at “I’m so very tired”.

  42. Aww, Love is helping your partner overcome an obstacle…and then accepting that you’re going to have to clean up the aftereffects from every attempt it takes to get them there. Been there, done that.

    Frankly, if anyone is gonna have the chops for this quest, I think it’s Dorothy.

  43. Have you ever picked up a non-fragile object, felt some unidentified texture on it that was either wet or sticky, and dropped that shit like it was on fire while making a very undignified noise of pure disgust? Well, congratulations, you have a basic understanding of the way the human body and mind respond to a situation that your entire being tells you “absolutely not” when it wants to protect you from an experience that you might regret. The likelihood of that substance being fatal didn’t matter in the least – you still wanted nothing to do with it.
    .
    Now take that general concept and apply it to the idea that “human beings are extremely complex creatures capable of things that are perfectly logical but also completely illogical”. Ask someone who has a fear of public speaking if their mind and body are always in a logic-only mode when they feel like talking in front of a small crowd will lead to full social collapse? Or someone who doesn’t like non-lethal insects whose only response when asked is that they creep them all the way out?
    .

    Human beings can have things they struggle with. You don’t have to understand it or analyze it. You see their struggles, you accept their struggles, and you respect their struggles. That is all you really have to do.

  44. Ahhhhhhh, autistic texture issues. I have a pal with a pill issue for different reasons and the quest to find liquid formulations is a hell of a thing.

    Lemme tell ya, anyone with a bad enough texture issue ALSO wishes it wasn’t a goddamn problem.

  45. Hrm. What I am understanding from this comment section is that this is yet another sign I should see about getting tested for autism. I am 27 and have never been able to swallow pills.

  46. “Love and Showers” sounds like the name of an indie hipster band from the 2000s

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