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  1. no bowling and sad Asma on anotha lonely Valentines Day
    waaaaaaaaaa TT~TT

    1. oh shit thanks for reminding me to put stuff out for valentine’s

      1. I’m not expecting anyone to come down the chimney

        but if you’re suggesting that I should put some chocolates out anyway, just in case…?

        1. If you just start leaving flowers and chocolate around, who knows? You may find a lover. But you also may find ants.

        2. But we all know which is more likely.

      2. What are you trapping? And what do you use for bait?

  2. That’ll teach her to act selfishly!/s

  3. I choose to be normal and say Asma’s so valid for deciding to lay back down after that

    1. On this, we fully agree.

      1. On the other hand, I’m not sure we’re prepared to deal with a normal Taffy. It just seems wrong somehow.

        1. Taffy is so weird that even being normal manages to weird us out.

  4. The existential dread of realizing you’ve become plot-relevant.

    1. The horror of it all.

    2. My gaming group used to joke about NPC townsfolk realizing that they’re suddenly in COLOR, which means that player characters are somewhere around, and reacting with appropriate fear/panic.

      1. At best, the PC’s loot all their chests, cupboards and barrels. And hopefully buy out the local tavern.

        At worst, it means the demon king is going to destroy their town to motivate the PCs.

        1. “I don’t WANT to be part of someone’s tragic backstory!” :O

      2. If you don’t watch it already, I recommend Epic NPC Man on Youtube (it’s been out for ages, now, so there’s a pretty good backlog). Most of it is exactly this sort of humor–the NPCs in a videogame dealing with the weirdness that comes from being NPCs in a videogame.

    3. Everyone is the hero of their own story. Except for me. I can’t confirm it, but I am pretty sure that I am just the muggle character that occasionally shows up as the comedic relief between key plot points in my friend’s secret magical adventures.

      1. it’s an underrated niche to occupy.

      2. Hey, plucky comic relief is good, you’ve got a solid 50-50 chance of making it to the end.

      3. I’m the hero of my story, but the problem is it’s some dumb noir thing where even if the hero wins in the end, he still doesn’t get any reward.

  5. Here’s my prediction: Asma does ultimately end up with Alice because Jennifer isn’t romantically interested in Alice, and this results in a split between Jennifer and Alice that results in Billie getting back together with Ruth who unceremoniously dumps whats-his-face.

    I have no bias here due to being a Billie/Ruth fan I swear

    1. I live to see whats-his-face dumped to make way for the return of Billie.

      1. Why? Ruth is bi, Billie/Jennifer is bi, no reason he can’t be involved too.

        1. Jason in the cuck chair

        2. No one actually told Jason to sit in the cuck chair; he just assumed that was his role.

      2. But I LIKE whatshisface!
        He seems much better for Ruth, too. Dry, resigned toleration instead of drunken drama.

    2. As someone who also has no bias i can confirm this theory as sound.

      1. I anxiously await the Ruth is cheating on Jason meltdown.

        1. Can it be with Alice, Asma, or both? Would Jennifer then notice?

    3. I kind of like what’s his face.

  6. (Can someone explain the last panel to me? Is this an “Aunt Flo came early” joke? Sorry, I am quite dense.)

    1. More likely referring to emotional turmoil over biological, probably distress over Alice not showing and thus prompting Asma to realize “Oh fuck I’ve caught feelings.”

    2. Asma appears to be lamenting having added romantic travails to the existing genocides and fascist raids and so on.

    3. External problems: Cops, genocide, politics in general, trying to live

      Internal problems: Feeling like she made a fool of herself trying to ‘casually’ connect with Alice. Possibly also anxiety over her sexuality, depending whether that’s a thing she already knew about and is comfortable with, which is unclear at this time.

      1. I’m betting “knew about”–we’ve seen enough of her thoughts to know she knows she is interested in Alice.
        “Is comfortable with” is harder to say, even before considering the possible religious aspect. American Muslims actually poll pretty close to American Christians on the issue of gay rights, broadly speaking, but that’s “all American Muslims”, and strict hijab wearers may be likely to be more conservative on the subject, or at least from more conservative families. Strict hijab wearers account for only about 40% of Muslim women (many more probably wear it only for Mosque attendance or other religious or family events).

  7. When are we going to get back to Carla? I miss her god-like arrogance, and beauty.

    1. Did I say god-like arrogance? I meant to say confidence, and charm. :P

      1. No, no. You had it right the first time.

    2. And the daughter of war profiteers! Cute war profiteers!

  8. I got 99 problems

    but I started one

    I hereby declare cheese slices to be the food of single people… WHERE’S ROSE

    1. don’t forget the crackers :9
      and i don’t mean white people either i mean actual crackers XD

      1. Especially if you’re planning a trip to the moon with your dog.

  9. Oh so is Asma in denial about being attracted women? With all the gay characters in the comic I sometimes forget heteronormativity is still supposed to be the standard like it is in the real world.

    1. Trying to set up a bowling date with a girl makes me think she’s probably aware of it, but it seems very likely that she’s never actually dated anyone before.

    2. I thought she meant anxiety or something like that. But if it’s an Egyptian River situation, it could add a new dimension to her saying that it’s “all been a mistake”.

      And if *that* is her problem, she bloody well deserves someone better than Alice ^^u

    3. I think she’s more just stressed and embarrassed, she set up a hang out with two people she don’t even like to get to know a new crush who’s name she doesn’t have. They didn’t work out, there was a misunderstanding, and I think she realized what a bad idea the scenario is and it’s feeling some type of way about it. Imma need some more concrete evidence before I believe the “Asma had internalized homophobia/is struggling with the sudden realization she’s gay” train

      1. Yeah this feels like the actual thing. It’s not some sort of crippling identity crisis as much as it is “I did something with people I don’t like that much and it was a complete waste of time because I didn’t even see the cute girl I was hoping to talk to, and now I’m feeling utterly humiliated that I even tried.” Feels like since we’re getting the comic slowly people are just picking *the* most dramatic conclusion from today’s update.

      2. Yeah, she clearly has been aware of her interest in women. She doesn’t seem to have any internalized homophobia (though she might have some envy of the white girls who seem to have less issue with being out that she might have–she’s a strict hijab wearer, putting her in the more conservative wing of Muslim women, and thus is likely from a more conservative Muslim family, at least. The notion that some of her family, in turn, follow the stricter interpretations of prohibitions on homosexuality is fairly likely though by no means certain.)

  10. I am going to be honest, it feels strange to me that Asma is getting a character arc. She was always an ancilary character – one that was sometimes there but never really part of the larger story line or dynamic. Her suddenly getting an entire arc afte over 15 years in just seems off some how? It feels like if Filch suddenly become a POV character halfway through the Half-Blood Prince. I not complaining, as I am enjoying the story and its a treat to get more of her snarky humor and attitude, and I don’t belive it is breaking any narrative rules to include her more (even though the cast is already pretty full – we haven’t seen Ethan if forever). There is something about it that just feels off about it – I have no idea what.

    1. I don’t see why that would be?
      It’s a pretty well-trod path, with long-format stortelling, to give focus to a smaller character and investigate more about what’s going on with them in an arc.

      Less so in a story that is a single book or movie, where the narrative needs to be tighter and more focused.
      But in a daily comic strip still going after 10+ years, the writer is very likely going to become interested in stories and side characters that didn’t have the same attention at first.

      1. yeah and im all for it
        after all Dina was once just a side character
        and who knows? Asma may also wind up being someones most favorite in the world :’)

    2. I suspect it feels weird because it wasn’t really the plan. I think we’re still in territory where Asma strips are being inserted into the buffer after the chapter was mostly done, which isn’t ideal but it’d feel worse if after her role in the protests, she just disappeared back into the chorus making an appearance a year, especially since she’s the most prominent member of the cast representing the group most directly affected by the real world thing the protest was a stand-in for.

    3. Yep. Since Booster is now a main character that means ONE OF THE CHARACTERS MUST DIE.

      Will it be Ruth? Rachel? Sarah?

      *DUM DUM DUM*

      1. Penny died on the way back to her home planet.

  11. She is one of my favorite lesser characters who now getting more Spotlight time

  12. This… feels weirdly intimate to see her without the hijab. For half a second, I almost wanted to look away.

    1. Does feel a bit like I’m intruding.

    2. I both understand this impulse, and have issues with it, in turn. After all, this is the same comic that has an ancillary strip where we can watch just about the entire cast perform numerous sexual acts. Even in the main strip, we regularly see characters in their underwear, which would be a similar invasion of privacy if these were actual people we were spying on.
      Treating Muslim characters differently than others would also feel a bit off to me, maybe even a bit patronizing. So long as her conduct is what would seem reasonable for a hijab-wearing Muslim, then the portrayal is fine, and any issues readers have with it is a result of our own baggage.

  13. I wonder if this is implying Asma is having a queer awakening.

    1. Given this whole interaction I feel like we’re a bit beyond that. Like she feels pretty solidly awake

      1. Maybe. But this is all related to Alice.

  14. Ohhh, pink and purple *and* green. Where are we going with these colours?
    I hear you, Asma, I do. But it’s OK.

  15. It would be nice if we knew more about Asma. We know she’s a Muslim and wears a hijab when not sleeping in her room, we know she was at the anti-genocide protest so she probably cares about that a lot, and we know she likes girls, specifically Alice. And apparently she assumed Joyce and Dorothy would know who Alice was by a kinda vague description of her that would also apply to other girls like Sal. I guess my point is that I’d like to see more of her backstory in the future so I can better figure out how I feel about her as a character.

  16. so t his week’s Valentine is about Asma after all

  17. I’ve got IBS and my first thought in the last panel was that all the stress had given Asma an upset stomach. I agree that it’s more likely emotional turmoil but if it turns out Asma has IBS I called it.

  18. In case anybody was confused, a little birdie told me that Asma’s “internal problem” is diarrhea. She’s lactose intolerant and absentmindedly ate some dairy, and now her inside guts are being evil at her. It’s not anything to do with religion or gayness (two things very foreign to this comic), it’s mozzarella.

    1. Even the best laid plans of mice and men oft go awry, as someone once said. And truly, mozzarella is the most treacherous cheese.

  19. ASMA…. NO….. the betrayal of the guts.

    (My guess is period, stress can lit bring one on early. Or make you skip one. Would anyone like a free uterus.)

  20. Honestly with everything going on right now, I kinda expected a harsher valentines day.

    And… huh. Is this a queer awakening? I was under the assumption that she realized she had a crush on Alice and was just, acting on that information. But I can’t think specifically of what might have made me think this, and this does seem to imply otherwise. Unless the internal problem is just “didn’t want to deal with having a crush right now”, i guess

  21. I’ll say it: Damn you, Willis!!!

  22. Lotta people figuring out they’re gay these days

    1. Nah, she already seemed to know that. What she may not have wanted to deal with was the idea of actually pursuing a relationship at this time, and having her attempt at doing so ‘subtly’ pretty clearly flopped, making her feel embarrassed.

  23. Damn Willis, on Valentine’s day?

    That’s fucked up

    1. Aww that’s right, this is your first Valentine’s day here

  24. So many chars Willis could choose to be “Damn you, Willis”ed, and he choose specifically Asma…

  25. “Slaps roof of car”: This bad boy with external problems can only start if you kickstart it with internal ones!

  26. Wait, why do so many people think Asma’s in the closet? Has that been established? At the moment, it looks to me like she feels stupid for stressing on a crush, and putting so much effort trying to get with her, when there’s so many other more important things to stress about.
    Personally, I think that if she was in the closet, she wouldn’t have been so obvious in trying to meet Alice. I don’t think she’d have gone to the extremes of asking to hang out with Dorothy and Joyce of all people.
    That’s how I’m reading this.

    1. I can only speak for myself. Up to this point, I was assuming that Asma was OK with being gay, but today’s strip seems to suggest that things might not be so simple.

      1. My interpretation is that it more has to do with the instability, chaos, and confusion that can happen with a crush.

        The dopamine rush can be overwhelming and take over a lot of your focus. This can feel really unbalanced, and “too much” if you’re also trying to handle external issues.

  27. “Set goals. Remember your goals. Don’t get sidetracked … ever.”
    https://www.dumbingofage.com/comic/asma/
    https://www.dumbingofage.com/comic/nexttime/
    Still wondering what protest goal involve ten pounds of bolt cutters. and whether they were unexpectedly sidetracked by Amazing Girl, Joyce and Dorothy.

    1. And yes, I’m connecting this to the “eternal problems”

    2. And yes, I’m connecting this to the “external problems”

    3. > Still wondering what protest goal involve ten pounds of bolt cutters.

      The goal of “not getting illegally arrested by thugs stomping on your first amendment right to protest by walling you into an area”, I presume. Anyone protesting anything in the US in the 2020s is wise to prepare for fascist cops who give 0 shits about anyone’s rights to do anything but obey.

  28. I’ve been interpreting it, particularly given the interaction with her boss earlier, as Asma’s conflict is a *professionalism and focus*-based one. Asma’s been depicted as the type to keep her nose to the grindstone and not… really focus on maintaining a *personal life*. Think the Anti-Walky.

    Her looking for a meet cute is an upset to *that* status quo; it’s allowing herself something she normally wouldn’t because it breaks the focus of her professionalism. Remember her interaction with Chloe earlier in the day: heavily focused on *justifying* taking off work when she didn’t need to justify it, first the weekend of the protest (including picking up additional shifts as an unnecessary compensation to the job) and coding her rationale for taking the (then upcoming) evening off for bowling as being “Frivolous” and “dorky.” It gives the vibe of either being a workaholic or that there’s some pressure in her life that makes her feel like she *has* to commit to work over a personal life.

    I think that’s probably the key here: Asma (I swear to god autocorrect if you “correct” that name one more time…) is struggling with her self-perception that she shouldn’t allow herself to have this more carefree aspect to her life. The implication seems that she had a fairly set way of life when it came to her scholastic career: focus on school, focus on the part time job… and then she breaks that flow in the name of following a crush that didn’t even take off because the girl she’s crushing on didn’t show up when Asma was emotionally investing in the potential of the bowling meet-cute. She’s kicking herself for breaking out of that self-imposed shell for nothing, reinforcing the idea she just should have stuck to what she’d been doing: Work at school, work at work, a “life” can come later on once your responsibilities are handled.

    1. 1. I agree.
      2. Does that remind any of us of a certain bony poindexter nemesis dorky white girl who recently had an epic crashout when she realized that her even more extreme version of that lifestyle wouldn’t actually get her what she wanted?
      (IMO, Asma’s version is probably overall much healthier and more reasonable, but that doesn’t mean she’s not vulnerable to self-recrimination when she “fails” at it.)

  29. Happy Rio Carnival to all the singles here in desperate need of a holiday where we can feel valid despite being single 🥲
    (thanks @Amos heehee)

    1. Hell yeah
      (Confirmed: Rio > São Paulo hahah)

  30. yeah that is the valentine’s day vibe

  31. asma’s hair looks nice tho if i was her and had to wear a hijab i’d make mine as short as psosible if not just shave

  32. Lots of others have said this so I shall umpteenth it: I really wish that it was possible to ‘hide’ certain people from my view in the comments. Some people I disagree with and that’s fine. Many are funny or boring or insightful or whatever and that’s fine. But some make me want to react in a way that is probably unkind, pretty much every single time I see their comments. And sometimes my restraint is not good. But they should absolutely be able to comment. It would just be easier to remain kind if a few people could be hidden!

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