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Boundaries

by David M Willis on May 10, 2018 at 12:01 am
  • 03 - Faz Is Great
└ Tags: amber, joyce, sarah

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  1. Ana Chronistic
    Ana Chronistic
    May 10, 2018 at 12:03 am | #

    “Bound… aries? Is that, like, they tied up a ram?”

    • Maveric1984
      Maveric1984
      May 10, 2018 at 12:05 am | #

      No, it’s jumping British people named Harry

      • King Daniel
        King Daniel
        May 10, 2018 at 12:16 am | #

        Or Potter’s into bondage.

        • space
          space
          May 10, 2018 at 12:46 am | #

          Harry Potter and the Chamber of Bondage

          • Koms
            Koms
            May 10, 2018 at 12:51 am | #

            Fifty “wands freed.

          • Jack Spade
            Jack Spade
            May 11, 2018 at 1:31 am | #

            Harry Potter the Prisoner of Ginny

        • Lumino
          Lumino
          May 10, 2018 at 6:24 am | #

          Well, THAT would get Amber’s attention.

        • noiob
          noiob
          May 11, 2018 at 6:07 am | #

          Scared, Potter?

  2. AnvilPro
    AnvilPro
    May 10, 2018 at 12:03 am | #

    Rude Amber

    • Pl0x
      Pl0x
      May 10, 2018 at 2:55 am | #

      Assertive of her wants and needs, and expressing when herself someone is making her uncomfortable.

      • Pl0x
        Pl0x
        May 10, 2018 at 2:56 am | #

        Yikes

        *expressing herself when

      • Eldritch Gentleman
        Eldritch Gentleman
        May 10, 2018 at 3:42 am | #

        Problem is that what she “needs” is being suggested by the stupid part of her brain that is convinced she is a monster and that she should not interact with people at all…

        • Pl0x
          Pl0x
          May 10, 2018 at 9:53 am | #

          Sure, and socializing isn’t going to help when she really doesn’t want to or feels like she doesn’t deserve it.

          • Eldritch Gentleman
            Eldritch Gentleman
            May 10, 2018 at 10:14 am | #

            That’s the problem though. She thinks she does not deserve to socialize, she thinks she does not deserve the attention of those people. If she just secludes herself and people stop kicking her door in she will believe she was right. I just feel that military-grade love and appreciation that Joyce radiates is what she needs.

          • abysswatcher1993
            abysswatcher1993
            May 10, 2018 at 10:41 am | #

            Sometimes we have to intervene when our friends are being self destructive. If people wouldn’t intervene other people would become too depressed to work properly and affect the lives of everyone around. You need good friends who support you when you have screwed up, and also the friends that kick your ass to make you stop screwing up.

            • thejeff
              thejeff
              May 10, 2018 at 1:20 pm | #

              Joyce isn’t a good friend to Amber. Joyce hardly knows Amber. Joyce is not in any position to judge Amber’s level of depression or socialization or to know if she needs an intervention.
              Joyce isn’t actually trying to intervene because she thinks Amber is at risk, she’s just decided that since Amber saved Dorothy, Amber is now family and must be dragged into her social circle regardless of her wishes.

              Amber’s needs and Joyce’s behavior are different questions.

              • Roborat
                Roborat
                May 10, 2018 at 2:38 pm | #

                Or maybe she is just being friendly and hoping to get to know her better by having dinner together?

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 2:54 pm | #

                  In this strip alone without any other context, that wouldn’t be an unreasonable take. Given Joyce’s issues with boundaries in general and given that she just declared a few strips back that Amber was as good as family, which Amber rejected, I doubt it. And of course, given her followup, it’s pretty damn clear it wasn’t a casual invitation.

                • Classic Appa
                  Classic Appa
                  May 11, 2018 at 1:33 am | #

                  Well, basically the most important tenet of Christianity is to love all, even if someone has been a total dingbat to you. (Or killed your family or whatever.) This isn’t license to pry into other peoples affairs, or make peoples decisions for them, but it certainly is license to invite people to dinner and pursue friendships. Joyce isn’t violating anyone’s rights by telling people she cares about them like family.

              • Dark
                Dark
                May 10, 2018 at 11:14 pm | #

                Maybe I need to reread the comic (again), but I seem to remember Joyce and Amber interacting a lot before Becky and the kidnapping.

      • Emily
        Emily
        May 10, 2018 at 5:06 am | #

        Maladaptive coping mechanisms are not “needs.” Amber doesn’t need (or really even want) to live in total isolation she just feels that’s what she deserves.

        • Sigh
          Sigh
          May 10, 2018 at 6:12 am | #

          Sometimes, though, there’s “I am done dealing with people now” or even “You are not the particular people I want to interact with.”

          • thejeff
            thejeff
            May 10, 2018 at 7:55 am | #

            Sometimes, but not here and now. Not with Amber.

            • Jack
              Jack
              May 10, 2018 at 9:21 am | #

              And yet, other people really don’t have the right to decide that you don’t get to be alone, or even part of your life at all. That’s almost the definition of stalking or harassment.

              You could make an argument for that being different when in dire situations (suicidal, etc.), but right here right now does not seem like that case even slightly.

              • Eldritch Gentleman
                Eldritch Gentleman
                May 10, 2018 at 10:19 am | #

                She has a split-personality which just got Worse, is suffering from some severe self-hatred and is doing her damn best to push away all the people who actually care about her. I think it IS a dire situation. If she doesn’t get love and help Now her situation will only get worse.

                • abysswatcher1993
                  abysswatcher1993
                  May 10, 2018 at 10:45 am | #

                  I agree. She needs to reconcile her two personalities and embrace her violent tendencies for good, like using her strength to protect others. If she keeps rejecting her true self she will become more dangerous and unstable than a sexually frustrated Joyce.
                  She needs to be in a loving relationship, to have friends, to practice her hobbies, etc. Maybe put away the mask of Amazigirl and be a super hero without secret identity, like Tony Stark?

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 1:01 pm | #

                  @Eldritch Gentleman: It is a bad situation, though not at a crisis point right now. Joyce doesn’t know or understand that though and is thus both not justified and likely to be unhelpful.

                  @abysswatcher1993: Reconciling her two personalities is likely to be a long process, involving years of therapy. Nor is it really “rejecting her true self”, to the point I’m not even sure what you mean by that.
                  Given that at this point, Amazi-Girl is acting while Amber is sleeping and Amber isn’t remembering what she does, I don’t think putting away the mask is an option.
                  She has serious problems and needs actual professional help, not just friends and hobbies.

                • Inahc
                  Inahc
                  May 10, 2018 at 1:10 pm | #

                  “embrace her violent tendencies”? um, no, she needs some anger management skills, so that it doesn’t come out as violence any more.
                  (but you’re right that rejecting the anger is not a solution)

                • BBCC
                  BBCC
                  May 10, 2018 at 7:32 pm | #

                  Being a secret identity-less superhero would most likely get Amber arrested, also. Cool in comic books with a shared universe full of an established superhero community, but in a slightly more realistic setting its a bad idea.

                • Emily
                  Emily
                  May 10, 2018 at 7:32 pm | #

                  @thejeff I’m pretty sure attacking people with no recollection of it qualifies as a crisis point. Hell, Amber’s vigilantism was a crisis point from day one people don’t dress up in a costume and perpetrate violent vigilantism unless shit is fucked.

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 8:46 pm | #

                  @Emily: Fine. Conceded. (At least for the sake of this discussion. We differ on the nature of Amazi-Girl’s actions.)
                  But that’s neither a crisis Joyce knows anything about, nor one that making her socialize more and making more friends will address. As interventions go, this is about on the same level as her mom’s idea that most of her problems can be traced to low blood sugar.

                  Now if you want to argue that Ethan or Danny or Dorothy or even Dina should be calling the cops on her to get her the help she needs and save people from her dangerous vigilantism, then at least there’s a rational case to be made. To argue that Joyce should ignore her repeatedly expressed desire to be left alone because she’s a dangerous vigilante makes no sense at all. Even more so because Joyce has no clue about that..

                  Which is my problem with most of the support for Joyce here: It’s based both on motivations Joyce doesn’t have and on trivializing the problems Amber has by assuming just becoming friends (or “family”) with Joyce will somehow fix them. Or have any effect on them at all.

              • thejeff
                thejeff
                May 10, 2018 at 12:13 pm | #

                @Jack: Absolutely agreed. I was just countering the idea that Amber just needed a little time away from people or those particular people. Amber has serious issues with isolating herself. It’s a bad coping mechanism, not healthy at all.

                OTOH, you’re right that it’s not Joyce’s place to force herself upon her. And Joyce is very likely the wrong kind of person to actually help Amber here.

                • Eldritch Gentleman
                  Eldritch Gentleman
                  May 10, 2018 at 12:40 pm | #

                  I think the main problem is that the Right people got pushed away. Neither Danny nor Ethan even try even though they were the closest to her. Her mother is giving her space too. Let’s be fair, Joyce is the only one willing to kick her door down in and drag her out. She may be far from perfect but she is the only one willing to go in full force.

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 1:05 pm | #

                  Maybe so, but she’s doing it for the wrong reasons with no idea of what she’s dealing with and no trust from Amber. She’s not going to be able to help.

                • Eldritch Gentleman
                  Eldritch Gentleman
                  May 10, 2018 at 1:07 pm | #

                  Yeah but… what else can be done? Her mother is too meek and useless, same for Danny and Ethan. The end will be probably Amber doing something drastic and the help being Forced on her.

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 1:30 pm | #

                  Perhaps, but just forcing her to socialize isn’t what she needs. And Joyce isn’t trying to stage an intervention because she understands Amber is in crisis, she’s just being Joyce and running over boundaries without any good reason.

                • Pl0x
                  Pl0x
                  May 10, 2018 at 1:39 pm | #

                  And what exactly would Joyce be able to do? Keep telling Amber she’s not a monster, keep trying to eat meals with her, while in Amber’s mind the thought that she’s a monster is quite fixed? I feel like it’s been brewing for a long time too, growing and growing in her subconscious until this recent incident that made the idea emerge. She has to want to change her mind first in order for it to start changing and get better. Idk how Joyce is gonna help with that. Unless, Idk, making her go see a trained professional somehow.

                • Inahc
                  Inahc
                  May 10, 2018 at 3:39 pm | #

                  Ruth is still checking up on amber too, so Joyce isn’t the only one who can “save” her. :/

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 4:11 pm | #

                  And Dina’s there and Ethan does check in. She’s not that isolated.

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 4:42 pm | #

                  Oh and Walky up on the garbage roof.

                • abysswatcher1993
                  abysswatcher1993
                  May 10, 2018 at 10:01 pm | #

                  @thejeff: Walky is terrible at giving advice! He is as clueless as Dany and Joyce, and has the attention span of a small kid in the toy store of Shortpacked. They are buddies because they empathize about their self loathing, but they aren’t really helping each other to improve.

                  Also, if Amber goes to therapy the doctor would probably just give her some antidepressants, listen to her dark secrets and tell her everything that a person with common sense would say: “you aren’t a monster”. All of that while they put their notes in a file with Amber’s name. All therapists only give you drugs and/or counsel you in what way to socialize, so having friends and hobbies is part of the therapy of recovery.

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  May 10, 2018 at 11:02 pm | #

                  Okay. I got nothing. I don’t even know how to respond.

                  Amber has real serious mental problems. They’re not going to be touched by just having friends and hobbies. She’s got (or at least had) friends and hobbies. She kept getting worse – disassociating further until now she doesn’t even share memories.
                  I’m no expert and I’m not sure what proper treatment for DID and the rest of her problems is, but I know they can do a whole lot more than you suggest.

                • Inahc
                  Inahc
                  May 11, 2018 at 12:13 am | #

                  wow.

                  walky doesn’t know how to help with improvement, but they *did* help each other cope. that’s important too.

                  therapists actually cannot prescribe any medication. that’s psychiatrists (I admit, I had to doublecheck that with google).

                  counselling covers a hell of a lot more than “what way to socialize”. In amber’s case, it’d probably be a mix of anger management training, grounding exercises, CBT/DBT, and some DID-specific things my brain is reluctant to remember atm.

    • JoeCovenant
      JoeCovenant
      May 10, 2018 at 3:00 am | #

      There’s assertive, then there’s rude.
      That was rude.

      • Pl0x
        Pl0x
        May 10, 2018 at 3:36 am | #

        I guess I don’t care.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        May 10, 2018 at 7:54 am | #

        Yeah, but sometimes rude is needed. Given Joyce’s lack of appreciation for boundaries, it might be warranted. Given Joyce’s follow up line, implying she’s not back off and leave Amber alone as requested, it might not have been rude enough.

        Of course, the other side of that is that it’s Amber’s brain weasels that make her so emphatic about wanting that isolation. It is something she needs to overcome, but it’s not Joyce’s place to do so. Nor, I suspect, is Joyce’s approach one that would help her.

        • Jack
          Jack
          May 10, 2018 at 9:22 am | #

          Agreed.

          This also *feels* a bit sexist. If a guy was saying, “I want to be alone” I feel like it would be respected more. (I mean, probably not by Joyce, but that’s Joyce’s problem.)

  3. DailyBrad
    DailyBrad
    May 10, 2018 at 12:04 am | #

    Okay, so the implicit understanding is now explicit. Good to know.

    • StClair
      StClair
      May 10, 2018 at 12:17 am | #

      Yup.

  4. Kathleen
    Kathleen
    May 10, 2018 at 12:05 am | #

    I wonder what storyline we’ll cut to next.

    • newllend(henryvolt)
      newllend(henryvolt)
      May 10, 2018 at 1:17 am | #

      Let’s see we just got done with walky and Jason, that he wasn’t doing much that day and neither was Bellie. So I’m predicting a panel with either Joe and Danny or a panel with Sal.

    • Ainara
      Ainara
      May 10, 2018 at 2:31 am | #

      Mary

    • Inahc
      Inahc
      May 10, 2018 at 1:12 pm | #

      Mike.

    • Roborat
      Roborat
      May 10, 2018 at 2:41 pm | #

      Raidah.

  5. Stephen Bierce
    Stephen Bierce
    May 10, 2018 at 12:05 am | #

    *cues up some Rod Stewart for the hacked Muzak*

    • Opus the Poet
      Opus the Poet
      May 10, 2018 at 1:06 am | #

      Nahh, Rolling Stones “Can’t Always Get What You Want”

      • Deanatay
        Deanatay
        May 10, 2018 at 8:40 am | #

        S.B. doesn’t always go for the obvious… that’s our job. 🙂

  6. Zathras10
    Zathras10
    May 10, 2018 at 12:05 am | #

    Mmmm. Pie.

    • BrokenEye, the True False Prophet
      BrokenEye, the True False Prophet
      May 11, 2018 at 4:36 am | #

      What kind of pie?

      • Zathras10
        Zathras10
        May 11, 2018 at 4:38 pm | #

        Pumpkin, of course.

        http://www.shortpacked.com/2010/comic/book-12/05-neww-2010-comics/thanksgiving/

  7. Passchendaele
    Passchendaele
    May 10, 2018 at 12:05 am | #

    *insert obligatory “you sunk my battleship!” joke*

    • Screwball
      Screwball
      May 10, 2018 at 1:33 am | #

      But Faz kept his pants done up the whole time…

  8. Stu
    Stu
    May 10, 2018 at 12:06 am | #

    So I gotta wonder – how the hell would Jacob react to all this, aside from being pissed at Sarah? He obviously does enjoy spending time with Joyce, after all.

    • Inahc
      Inahc
      May 10, 2018 at 12:08 am | #

      Very, very disappointed?

    • Puckish Rogue
      Puckish Rogue
      May 10, 2018 at 12:11 am | #

      My guess is that he’d feel pretty damn with both Joyce and Sarah for trying to break him and Raidah up, especially since all hes ever been is nice to both of them

      • Puckish Rogue
        Puckish Rogue
        May 10, 2018 at 12:13 am | #

        Grrr, I mean pretty damn angry

        I shouldn’t really post while at work

        • 3oranges
          3oranges
          May 10, 2018 at 12:32 am | #

          I took “feel pretty damn” as some new but entirely intelligible slang. 🙂

          • King Daniel
            King Daniel
            May 10, 2018 at 12:38 am | #

            I’ll just drop this here: https://i.imgur.com/twfa1kL.png

      • Victor
        Victor
        May 10, 2018 at 12:20 am | #

        Huh? I mean, Joyce was pretty upfront with him about talking Sarah up. I think if he was going to be angry about it, he’d already be angry about it.

        • Kathleen
          Kathleen
          May 10, 2018 at 12:40 am | #

          I don’t think he knew she was talking Sarah up… so that it would ruin his relationship. A relationship he talks about how happy he is in. I don’t think he would take kindly to that.

    • Charlotte
      Charlotte
      May 10, 2018 at 10:19 am | #

      What I’m sad about is that this probably means Joyce will not want to hang out with Jacob anymore at all, and I think they were really good for each other (as friends; completely independent of anything that was going on with Raidah).
      I hope that they can somehow salvage their friendship.

  9. Puckish Rogue
    Puckish Rogue
    May 10, 2018 at 12:07 am | #

    I guess Joyce now has trust in what Joe says which is interesting

    • cbwroses
      cbwroses
      May 10, 2018 at 1:15 am | #

      She said awhile ago that Joe is on the ball about a lot of things, so she does have a certain amount of trust in what he says.

    • HeySo
      HeySo
      May 10, 2018 at 2:41 am | #

      Other than Sarah and Dorothy, he’s probably Joyce’s closest friend. They’ve regularly been seen texting each other. It looks like they’ve built up a healthy respect for one another.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        May 10, 2018 at 7:56 am | #

        I’m interested to see how him falling off the wagon (and ditching her with Faz) affects that.

        • HeySo
          HeySo
          May 11, 2018 at 3:39 am | #

          Well, I mean, they’ve been texting since well before “the list”.
          In fact, since they were still friends after her “negative zero” rating, along with lasting through her blaming him for her toe injury, I don’t see her taking it too hard.

  10. Reltzik
    Reltzik
    May 10, 2018 at 12:07 am | #

    Joyce, you should know that you’ll never get closure without boundaries.

    ….

    *waits for, like, the only two people who will get that to get that, and then runs for dear punning life*

    • vlademir1
      vlademir1
      May 10, 2018 at 12:13 am | #

      *shakes head and walks away reading a Spider Robinson novel*

    • StClair
      StClair
      May 10, 2018 at 12:18 am | #

      this is a math joke, isn’t it.
      I’ve read enough xkcd strips to recognize the form, if not understand the content.

    • Schpoonman
      Schpoonman
      May 10, 2018 at 12:23 am | #

      So, I want to be mad, but I think that’s a pretty profound statement, so I suppose I’m okay with it.

      • Reltzik
        Reltzik
        May 10, 2018 at 4:57 pm | #

        Gravatar win.

    • UniqueSnowflake2
      UniqueSnowflake2
      May 10, 2018 at 12:50 am | #

      Yeah, you better run. If I catch you in this neighborhood again, I’ll kick you in the balls.

      • Reltzik
        Reltzik
        May 10, 2018 at 1:01 am | #

        Wow, I always thought neighborhoods were more open and accepting than that. I guess their tolerance for puns is shrinking.

        • Needfuldoer
          Needfuldoer
          May 10, 2018 at 2:16 am | #

          Puns must be respected and handled responsibly.

          • Clif
            Clif
            May 10, 2018 at 7:35 am | #

            Balls are only one way to define closure of sets.

            • Clif
              Clif
              May 10, 2018 at 7:45 am | #

              Also neighborhood. Well done.

              • Clif
                Clif
                May 10, 2018 at 7:49 am | #

                Thought neighborhoods were more open … okay, I’m slow sometimes.

                • Reltzik
                  Reltzik
                  May 10, 2018 at 4:28 pm | #

                  Also, you find boundaries using limits — shrinking the tolerance of the neighborhood.

                • Reltzik
                  Reltzik
                  May 10, 2018 at 4:49 pm | #

                  …. okay, didn’t phrase that quite right. Technically it’s not a limit, but you still shrink the neighborhood around each boundary point to the infinitesimal and show that it still contains part of the set. Close enough for pun work.

        • HeySo
          HeySo
          May 10, 2018 at 2:42 am | #

          Let’s be honest- Mary was just looking for an excuse to threaten someone’s testicles.

    • Minim
      Minim
      May 10, 2018 at 10:41 am | #

      That brightened my day. Maybe we could have our own pun group.

      • Reltzik
        Reltzik
        May 10, 2018 at 6:54 pm | #

        Well, since we’ve already dealt with closure, and forming a group would give our association identity. But I’m not sure how I’d go about getting an inverse of myself.

  11. Mr D
    Mr D
    May 10, 2018 at 12:07 am | #

    You knopw, much as I happen to enojy my solitude, if not for people like Joyce, I wouldn’t have friends.

    By which I mean, people like Joyce befriend everyone and thus create a circle around them, and I happen to befriend people on that circle.

  12. Mr D
    Mr D
    May 10, 2018 at 12:09 am | #

    WAIFU WARS:
    YUKIKIO/CHIE/NAOTO/RISE
    CHOOSE ONE.

    • Sam
      Sam
      May 10, 2018 at 3:13 am | #

      Rise. I was Chie at the very start, then Naoto, but now I’m at a Rise stage of my life. XD

    • Clif
      Clif
      May 10, 2018 at 7:53 am | #

      One does not choose one’s true WAIFU. The WAIFU chooses you.

  13. Fart Captor
    Fart Captor
    May 10, 2018 at 12:15 am | #

    Okay, NOW Joyce is making the decision for Amber. I still approve tho. Grumpypants will be loved and that’s FINAL

    • Zathras10
      Zathras10
      May 10, 2018 at 12:22 am | #

      Yeah. I mean, she does go about it a little transgressively, but actually isn’t wrong. Later Walkyverse Joyce was often this combination too.

    • BBCC
      BBCC
      May 10, 2018 at 12:31 am | #

      Can she love her from a distance?

      • Fart Captor
        Fart Captor
        May 10, 2018 at 12:40 am | #

        Probably. Like a love sniper. High caliber love blasting through windows from a clock tower down the street

        • Mr D phone posting
          Mr D phone posting
          May 10, 2018 at 12:54 am | #

          Definition: ‘Love’ is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometers away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope… Love is knowing your target, putting them in your targeting reticule, and together, achieving a singular purpose against statistically long odds.

          • BBCC
            BBCC
            May 10, 2018 at 1:01 am | #

            I understood that reference! 😀

      • Deanatay
        Deanatay
        May 10, 2018 at 8:45 am | #

        Meme between me and my spouse:

        I love you, dear.

        Over there.

        I love you WAAAY over there.

  14. Rabid Rabbit
    Rabid Rabbit
    May 10, 2018 at 12:20 am | #

    Good lord but Joyce is lucky to have escaped a punch in the third panel.

    And as someone who really, really loathes people who try to force others to socialise, not to mention that appalling mother-knows-best smugness Joyce has got going, I would have cheered if she hadn’t.

    • Tom T.
      Tom T.
      May 10, 2018 at 12:59 am | #

      Amber declined awfully rudely, though. I can’t begrudge Joyce a little retaliation.

      • Pl0x
        Pl0x
        May 10, 2018 at 3:25 am | #

        I feel like someone like Joyce needs a straightforward and assertive refusal to get them to really back off.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        May 10, 2018 at 8:00 am | #

        She’d already declined the “family” offer more subtly a couple strips ago. Sometimes you need to escalate to bluntness.

        And it seems this wasn’t enough to actually get Joyce to really back off.

      • Jack
        Jack
        May 10, 2018 at 9:28 am | #

        I’m kind of bothered how many people think Amber was rude here. She was quite straight-forward. You don’t have to agree with her (she is kind of broken). But it’s her right to associate or not associate with people. Joyce claims she’s trying to be a friend (or family!), but you don’t get to unilaterally decide on that.

        Basically, Joyce is being an ass here. It’s victim-blaming to pin this on Amber. (Surrounding context matters, of course. The first panel here doesn’t look like Joyce is being an ass, out of context.)

  15. Derek
    Derek
    May 10, 2018 at 12:20 am | #

    “I want boundaries” “well we don’t always get what we want” UMMMMMMMMMM highly concerning

    • Fart Captor
      Fart Captor
      May 10, 2018 at 12:33 am | #

      It would be if that were what happened. She was responding to Amber saying she didn’t want to be part of Joyce’s family, not Sarah pointing out that she should respect other people’s boundaries.

      Deciding to continue seeing Amber as family and inviting her to join them despite Amber’s desire to be alone is really, really tame, since all she had to do was decline the invitation

      • BBCC
        BBCC
        May 10, 2018 at 12:47 am | #

        I’m still a little annoyed with her little ‘we don’t always get what we want’ about Amber saying she didn’t want to be part of her family. If I thought Joyce would only continue to invite her places and respectfully back off after told no, I wouldn’t be bothered but I have a feeling that’s not how this is going to go.

        I will say I agree Joyce has every right to see Amber as family. Amber has every right not to reciprocate, but Joyce can think of people how she likes.

        • GoblinScribe
          GoblinScribe
          May 10, 2018 at 1:41 am | #

          From That 70s Show:
          Lori: “I HATE YOU!”
          Kitty: “Well, that’s just too bad, because I love you!”

          This is more that, I think. But it’s good that Sarah calls her out on it a little, even if it’s a bit hypocritical.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        May 10, 2018 at 8:12 am | #

        It is what happened. Amber set a boundary. Joyce said she was going to ignore it. “I don’t want to be family. I want to be alone.” “We don’t always get what we want.”
        If Joyce wants to continue thinking of Amber as family in the privacy of her own head, that’s fine. Even if she continues to invite Amber to join them when they happen to see each other, that’s not so bad. If she starts a project of getting Amber to come out and be more social, against Amber’s expressed wishes, she’s going well over the line.

        She’s not there yet, but one of those sounds more like Joyce to me than the other.
        Luckily they don’t share a half-bath, because I don’t think Amber would react as well to Joyce as Sal does. 🙂

        • Fart Captor
          Fart Captor
          May 10, 2018 at 10:00 am | #

          Joyce does not seem to be kidnapping Amber and forcing her to join them?

          Like, yeah, Sarah is right about Joyce needing to respect boundaries, but Derek made it sound as if THAT was what Joyce was responding to when she said “we don’t always get what we want”, which would have been orders of magnitude worse than what actually happened.

          • Derek
            Derek
            May 10, 2018 at 12:40 pm | #

            yeah I kind of read the panels out of order in my head and I thought Joyce was responding to Sarah’s boundaries remark. Re-reading it, Joyce’s statement is not AS bad but still rustles my jimmies

          • thejeff
            thejeff
            May 10, 2018 at 1:12 pm | #

            Honestly, I think it’s not as bad that way. Responding to Amber’s “I don’t want to be your family. I want to be alone.” with “We don’t always get what we want.” strongly implies that she isn’t going to accept that. That she isn’t going to leave Amber alone. No, she’s not actually kidnapping Amber, but I’ll bet she does keep pushing those boundaries over Amber’s protests.
            She as much as says she will – and hints at it again in the end with how good it is that she didn’t respect Sarah’s boundaries.

            • Fart Captor
              Fart Captor
              May 10, 2018 at 3:01 pm | #

              As Emily has noted in another thread, Amber probably doesn’t ACTUALLY want to be totally alone. Isolating herself is one of her unhealthy coping mechanisms. She obviously DOES need her space, and can be overwhelmed by too much socialization, but she doesn’t need to shut people out completely in order to have that.

              Hopefully, Joyce will continue to reach out to Amber like she just did, while also not pushing too hard. If she demonstrates that she’s able to give her space and go away when that’s what she needs, Amber *might* actually let her in willingly.

              This being Joyce, I expect her to screw at least some of that up. She’ll probablyattempt the same strategy that worked on Sarah and not realize that Amber isn’t the same kind of antisocial until something that will make me sad has happened

              • Inahc
                Inahc
                May 10, 2018 at 4:23 pm | #

                yeah… amber needs help, and it’ll probably end up necessitating *some* boundary-crossing, but it’s not an excuse for the kind of wholesale boundary-trampling that joyce practices.

                this is one of those hard social problems that doesn’t have a simple black-and-white answer like “respect all boundaries 100% always” or “ignore any boundary that seems dumb”.

              • thejeff
                thejeff
                May 10, 2018 at 4:41 pm | #

                Hopefully. Giving space isn’t exactly something Joyce is good at.

                • Fart Captor
                  Fart Captor
                  May 10, 2018 at 5:16 pm | #

                  Honestly, if Amber and Sarah ended up being friends somehow, that would probably be a more ideal result. Joyce wants to smother the people she loves with affection and I love her for that, but Amber isn’t gonna be able to handle that any time soon. Sarah’s level of tolerance for other humans is closer to Amber’s

                  Amber could totally join Sarah and Dina as they eat together in silent friendship

                  it will never happen but it’d be so adorable

      • Chris Phoenix
        Chris Phoenix
        May 11, 2018 at 3:44 am | #

        Um… turn that around – what if it were Joe, deciding to continue seeing Sara as desirable, and inviting her to date him despite her declining? I don’t think you would say it was tame since all she has to do is decline the invitation.

        Yes, offers of unwanted friendship are not usually as fraught and perilous as offers of unwanted dating. But still.

    • CJ
      CJ
      May 10, 2018 at 5:02 am | #

      I don’t know. It’s not quite so clear cut.
      Respecting Ruth’s boundaries would have meant to let her die. Both Billie and Carla didn’t respect her boundaries and saved her life.
      Respecting Sarah’s boundaries would have meant to let her dig down into books and have no connection to anyone. Yes, Joyce does not easily take “no” for an answer. That can be annoying. If her not taking no for an answer extended to the topic of sex, it would be downright scary.
      But.
      Lots of people currently annoy me with asking me to go dancing with them which I decline because I’m too physically exhausted. That is, since they caught on to the fact that I’m not well. The person I had most contact with since being exhausted started to be so bad, has kept texting and calling even if I occasionally brushed here of rather grumpyly, while most of my close friends respected my boundaries and left me alone.
      (Was I acting stupidly by not asking for help sooner? Sure. )
      So yes, respect people’s boundaries but not the lies they tell themselves.

      • Eldritch Gentleman
        Eldritch Gentleman
        May 10, 2018 at 9:05 am | #

        Quite. Amber should, under no circumstances, be treated as a healthy example of introversion. There is Nothing healthy about Amber, she is a mess and she needs help.

      • Derek
        Derek
        May 10, 2018 at 12:42 pm | #

        forgive me for understanding, but are you annoyed by the friend checking up on you with texts or you prefer that treatment?

        • CJ
          CJ
          May 10, 2018 at 5:45 pm | #

          I was also sometimes annoyed with that friend for making regular contact and actually asking if I was ok when I didn’t react to texts for several days. That was at the time I slept 14 hours a day and still felt exhausted the other 10 and answering a text took more energy than I had.
          I retrospect, I’m thankful.
          What she did is different from what the others do. I never had the feeling I had to smooth over not wanting to do stuff like with others who manage to take “sorry, I won’t come to the ball, I’m too exhausted ” personally. And part of me knows that the others mean well, they are offering activities that I like to do. They are just not very good at offering support to someone who’s exhausted.

  16. BBCC
    BBCC
    May 10, 2018 at 12:22 am | #

    …Damn it, they’re both right. Joyce needs to respect boundaries, but Sarah has absolutely ZERO right to all after this Joyce/Jacob nonsense.

    • Koms
      Koms
      May 10, 2018 at 12:55 am | #

      She preachcc but not practicecc

  17. Marsh Maryrose
    Marsh Maryrose
    May 10, 2018 at 12:29 am | #

    Nitpicks, we got nitpicks.

    Joyce, you don’t point cruise missiles anywhere. You do target them, but the whole raison d’etre of cruise missiles is, even if you see them in flight, you don’t know where they’re going.

    • Peruhain
      Peruhain
      May 10, 2018 at 12:51 am | #

      Precisely the point. Sarah was trying to use Joyce to take revenge on Raidah without seeming to be the source of the hostile act.

  18. Foxhack
    Foxhack
    May 10, 2018 at 12:56 am | #

    [[ Plays The Incredible Hulk’s closing theme on the hacked-up muzak ]]

    And yes I know it’s not meant to be used this way but it’s the only Hulk song I know.

  19. Keulen
    Keulen
    May 10, 2018 at 12:59 am | #

    Is Joyce trying to quote the Rolling Stones in the 3rd panel? You can’t always get what you want?

  20. TemporalShrew
    TemporalShrew
    May 10, 2018 at 12:59 am | #

    When someone appears to be basically *snarling* that they want nothing to do with me after I propose something, I don’t think “respect” is the most natural thing to expect in return.

    Amber’s extra-edgy “leave me alone” attitude is really quite grating, even if I completely understand why she has it.

    • thejeff
      thejeff
      May 10, 2018 at 8:03 am | #

      Not necessarily respecting them, but respecting their wish to have nothing to do with you.

    • Inahc
      Inahc
      May 10, 2018 at 3:35 pm | #

      um, no, basic human respect is not something you should withdraw just because someone was mildly rude.

      but perhaps we’re thinking of very different definitions of “respect”.

  21. newllend(henryvolt)
    newllend(henryvolt)
    May 10, 2018 at 1:00 am | #

    Simple no then storming off before she haggled you down to doing something else would have sufficed.

  22. Opus the Poet
    Opus the Poet
    May 10, 2018 at 1:06 am | #

    [Billy]”I like pie!”[/Billy]

  23. Josh Spicer
    Josh Spicer
    May 10, 2018 at 1:08 am | #

    That seemed pretty god damn random there Amber.

    • JessWitt
      JessWitt
      May 10, 2018 at 1:25 am | #

      She had a trying day, keeping her pervy step-brother in line, and then a frantic search for him over campus.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        May 10, 2018 at 8:04 am | #

        And she’d already told Joyce she had no interest in the family thing.

  24. Bagge
    Bagge
    May 10, 2018 at 1:10 am | #

    …Sarah said, while following Joyce around like a particularly cranky puppy.

  25. JessWitt
    JessWitt
    May 10, 2018 at 1:24 am | #

    Oh is it raining? I can’t tell if that’s foreboding or just part of the milieu.

    At least Joyce circled back to the Jacob issue with Sarah.

  26. BenRG
    BenRG
    May 10, 2018 at 1:54 am | #

    It’s curious isn’t it? Most of Joyce’s proudest achievements come from what could be considered a character flaw!

    That aside, here comes the rain that I predicted Walky needed for his melancholy trip back to the dorms!

    • Mr D
      Mr D
      May 10, 2018 at 2:12 am | #

      I suddenly remember what was the question that began this AU:

      If their circumstances had been different, and had they met on a regular universe, would Joyce and Walky have fallen in love anyway?

      http://www.joyceandwalky.com/comics/20100904last.png

  27. Iain
    Iain
    May 10, 2018 at 2:42 am | #

    Literally. The worst.

  28. Pl0x
    Pl0x
    May 10, 2018 at 3:29 am | #

    I am, as always, firmly on the side of ‘having personal boundaries’, ‘being assertive about your boundaries when you need to’, and also ‘shouldn’t have to care if your boundaries offend anyone’. Also I guess I kind of really dislike Joyce, soz.

    • Classic Appa
      Classic Appa
      May 10, 2018 at 6:58 am | #

      Amber was pretty assertive of her personal boundaries with Danny, but she came to regret it. I think their is a difference between a cool headed approach to interpersonal relationships and lashing out because you are in a bad head-space.

      • Pl0x
        Pl0x
        May 10, 2018 at 10:33 am | #

        If you’re talking about when Amber insulted Danny for talking to Sal, I actually don’t consider that a personal boundary, because that’s an unreasonable thing to require of someone. Amber can’t restrict who Danny can or can’t talk to. In fact that’s a violation of the boundaries that Danny should have (but hasn’t thought about).

    • Eldritch Gentleman
      Eldritch Gentleman
      May 10, 2018 at 9:10 am | #

      Which works great for healthy people, which Amber is not, her seclusion will only worsen her psychological state.

      • Pl0x
        Pl0x
        May 10, 2018 at 10:11 am | #

        I agree that she is unhealthy. But forcing her to do socialize isn’t going to work, because she will probably feel like an outsider.

        • timemonkey
          timemonkey
          May 10, 2018 at 10:43 am | #

          She already does anyway.

          • Pl0x
            Pl0x
            May 10, 2018 at 1:43 pm | #

            More reason not to socialize then!

            • Needfuldoer
              Needfuldoer
              May 10, 2018 at 5:47 pm | #

              It’s a self-fulfilling prophesy!

      • Sir_Naff
        Sir_Naff
        May 10, 2018 at 3:59 pm | #

        @eldritch gentleman

        Joyce has almost no inkling of the issues Amber is working through. Joyce is a high energy person who can be exhausting to be around even for people who like her (e.g. Becky). Joyce and Amber’s main interactions have been during traumatic events, which means that Joyce is probably an unwelcome reminder of said events, and also Amber’s own perceived failures – Sarah blamed Amazi-Girl for Scarface getting away in the first place, which set off a chain of events culminating in Amber stabbing the guy. All of these myriad issues are “reasons” that Amber is “allowed” to not want to hang out with Joyce, but…

        NONE OF THAT MATTERS, BECAUSE AMBER IS A HUMAN WHO HAS AGENCY AND CAN MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS ABOUT WHOM SHE MAKES HERSELF VULNERABLE TO.

        (after this is probably TL;DR but I spent a lot of time writing this and then rewriting it when my computer decided it was bored of this website suddenly so I’m keeping it – but consider yourself warned)

        Your earlier comment – “Yeah, but what else can be done?” is an intractable problem – we hate to see people suffering, so when we think we can fix it we try our god-damnedest to do so, even over their protests. When a sufferer finally gets through to their would-be savior that what they are doing is not helping, and perhaps even hurting, the savior faces serious cognitive dissonance as they think that what they’re doing is helping but are getting the opposite feedback. There are two common responses to this: “Oh, well I guess they’re just acting this way for attention” (denying the suffering of the victim), and “They just don’t know what is best for them!” (denying the victim their agency). Both are untrue – in actuality the sufferer is fully – possibly even hyper – aware of how others perceive their “I need help now fuck off” attitude, and of course this can cause additional feelings of guilt and hopelessness: “I’m dangerous to other people and now this nice person is trying to be my friend I’m going to hurt them I don’t want to do that so I must push them away oh but now I feel bad because I’m being mean to the nice person.” Sometimes would-be saviors just have to accept “You can’t help this person right now,” which people obviously have a lot of difficulty with – nobody wants to be helpless. But we can’t control other people and we can’t fix other people’s problems unilaterally. Trying to force the other person to the table to fix their problems so that you can feel like you’ve accomplished something is selfishness of the highest order.

        TL;DR: Not all problems have simple solutions.

  29. Ainara
    Ainara
    May 10, 2018 at 6:11 am | #

    A simple “no” would’ve sufficed, sheesh

    • Clif
      Clif
      May 10, 2018 at 7:42 am | #

      Really. We see that a strong “no” really didn’t suffice.

      • BenRG
        BenRG
        May 10, 2018 at 7:44 am | #

        Well, in fairness, Amber turned a polite invitation into an unprovoked attack on Joyce. Amber could have addressed the boundaries issue only if Joyce didn’t take her ‘no’ for an answer.

        • thejeff
          thejeff
          May 10, 2018 at 8:19 am | #

          It’s a bit rude, but I’m not seeing how it’s an “attack on Joyce”. Joyce said a couple strips back she now considered Amber family. Amber pushed back then and does so more strongly here. She’s making it clear that not only is she not interested in dinner right now, she’s not interested in the whole “family” project. Seems to me she read Joyce correctly and as Clif said, even that wasn’t enough.

    • Tom T.
      Tom T.
      May 10, 2018 at 8:16 am | #

      Yes, this seems like borderline verbal abuse. Amber is lucky to have so many people willing to forgive her hostility.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        May 10, 2018 at 8:20 am | #

        Really? How?
        She doesn’t insult Joyce. She doesn’t say anything about Joyce. She just states what she wants. What’s abusive about it?

      • Derek
        Derek
        May 10, 2018 at 1:04 pm | #

        “I don’t want to be your family” is not verbal abuse. The one time Amber did verbally abuse someone was when she was scolding Danny for not keeping her alters separate and then getting chummy with Sal

      • Sam
        Sam
        May 10, 2018 at 2:04 pm | #

        No it’s not??? Not even close??? Making her preference of being alone and not being part of Joyce’s family isn’t an attack on Joyce or an attempt to manipulate Joyce or part of a pattern to control Joyce. Her face might imply her tone is a bit rude, but we all know Joyce tends to be too pushy with people sometimes and that can make people grumpy when dealing with her! Amber doesn’t have to always be friendly and polite with someone who tries to push their way into her life and be more involved than she is comfortable with.

  30. pienapp1e
    pienapp1e
    May 10, 2018 at 8:19 am | #

    i like that it’s raining in a comic- both the fact of and the simplicity that doesn’t interfere with the characters while still getting point across. nice artwork, beyond your usual good job 🙂

  31. pienapp1e
    pienapp1e
    May 10, 2018 at 8:21 am | #

    i like that it’s raining, something rare in comics. nicely done- simple and non-interfering but evident 🙂

  32. Deanatay
    Deanatay
    May 10, 2018 at 8:47 am | #

    Joyce is surrounded by antisocial introverts.

    She could learn a great deal from them.

    She refuses to.

  33. Deanatay
    Deanatay
    May 10, 2018 at 8:51 am | #

    *pulls out pie*

    *eats pie*

    AWL BUH MUH SEWF

  34. abysswatcher1993
    abysswatcher1993
    May 10, 2018 at 10:37 am | #

    Sometimes you have to break those boundaries when a person is being a reclusive anti social jerk. Someone needs to talk to Amber and say “You aren’t like Blaine. You two are violent, but he is violent for his selfish desires and you are violent because you care for other people’s lives. Screw passive pacifism and fight for what you believe!”
    As for Sarah, that girl has trust issues and it’s good that she has Joyce in her life. It is true that people have hurt Sarah before, but she can’t apply her skepticism to everyone she meets.

    • BBCC
      BBCC
      May 10, 2018 at 12:46 pm | #

      No. No you do not. You do not get to decide what is best for other people unless you are their caregiver. Joyce is neither Amber’s nor Sarah’s. If they told her to go away, she needs to go away. Breaking boundaries is probably going to make them more reclusive and anti social because whoops, you’ve shown them that what they want does not matter to you and you are definitely a person to be avoided.

      • Eldritch Gentleman
        Eldritch Gentleman
        May 10, 2018 at 12:51 pm | #

        Problem is Amber’s caregiver doesn’t know how thoroughly mentally ill she is and is giving her way too much space. If they did what you are saying Ruth might have been dead by now. Who knows what Amber’s illness and self-loathing might drive her to. She already almost died when saving Becky. A noble and praise-worthy act but still she almost got herself killed.

        • BBCC
          BBCC
          May 10, 2018 at 2:44 pm | #

          A) Amber doesn’t currently have a caregiver. She’s an adult and not one who’s been ruled incompetent to care for themselves.

          B) Ruth never asked Billie to leave except once when she was saying she wasn’t good for Billie. Billie said she didn’t care whether Ruth was good for her and they could be ‘poison together’. Ruth accepted those terms. She also didn’t ask Carla to leave her alone when Carla came to check in on her.

          Something definitely needs to give with Amber, but saying ‘we don’t always get what we want’ when she says she doesn’t want to be part of Joyce’s family is almost assuredly not the way to go about it.

      • JepMZ
        JepMZ
        May 10, 2018 at 7:42 pm | #

        Is amber suicidal? I can agree with this if she’s suicidal

        I don’t think Joyce is gonna become a problem solver but there’s nothing wrong with somebody wanting to become a friend.

        • thejeff
          thejeff
          May 10, 2018 at 8:50 pm | #

          No signs of. More signs of homicidal, honestly, though I don’t that’s actually likely. “Danger to others” more than “danger to self” though.

          Nothing wrong with Joyce wanting to make friends, but there is something wrong if she continues to ignore Amber’s clear rejection of the idea.

          • Fart Captor
            Fart Captor
            May 11, 2018 at 10:50 am | #

            Despite what Amber thinks, she’s not a “danger to others”, much less fucking h homicidal. She’s defended herself and her friends. She WANTED to kill Ryan, but she didn’t. Nobody stopped her except HER.

            It could be argued that Amazi-Girl is a danger to others, though even that violence has been restrained and/or limited to people committing acts of violence. She needs healthier, less violent and less dangerous outlets, but it’s not as if it’s dangerous to be around her

      • abysswatcher1993
        abysswatcher1993
        May 10, 2018 at 10:07 pm | #

        If a person you love is in constant pain and is using that pain as justification to indirectly cause harm to others, you have to do whatever it takes to make them feel better. Just because Joyce is naive doesn’t mean that she can’t be nice, and just because Amber is angry doesn’t mean she can be rude to Joyce.

        • BBCC
          BBCC
          May 12, 2018 at 12:21 am | #

          A) Joyce has no idea that Amber’s ‘in constant pain’.

          B) No, no Joyce is not justified doing whatever she feels necessary to make her feel better. It depends entirely what Joyce plans to do.

          C) Again, Joyce has the right to continue loving Amber. She does not have the right to continue forcing her company on Amber though.

    • thejeff
      thejeff
      May 10, 2018 at 1:27 pm | #

      Someone may need to, but that someone isn’t Joyce. Joyce doesn’t know anything about Blaine and damn near nothing about Amber. People like that trying to play amateur therapist are likely to do more harm than good.
      Joyce doesn’t have the first clue about Amber’s anger and self-loathing issues, much less the DID. She couldn’t even begin to make that little speech to her, because she doesn’t know enough to start it.

      And Joyce is rather overwhelming, which isn’t always the best approach even with recluse’s whose issues don’t run as deep as Amber’s do.

      • abysswatcher1993
        abysswatcher1993
        May 10, 2018 at 10:13 pm | #

        Joyce do have issues! She was almost raped, roofied and told to not tell the police (*sarcasm mode* thank you, Sal)! She was threatened with a shotgun! She was roofied! Her worldview shattered! She realized about the bigotry in her family and had to stand up for her lesbian friend and her atheist friend! She was roofied! She had to break up with her gay boyfriend because of realizing how much of a jerk she was! She willingly rode a motorcycle to save her lesbian friend! She WAS ROOFIED!

        • thejeff
          thejeff
          May 10, 2018 at 10:35 pm | #

          I don’t believe I said anything about Joyce’s issues. I said she didn’t know anything about Amber’s.

  35. Kelli217
    Kelli217
    May 10, 2018 at 3:32 pm | #

    Amber beats herself up — and sadly, continues to do so — in ways that are even more insidious than the ways Blaine used to beat her up.

  36. Sir_Naff
    Sir_Naff
    May 10, 2018 at 4:03 pm | #

    In other news and hopefully I can keep this one shorter – Joyce is apparently entirely unaware of the irony in denying Amber a choice about being part of a “family you can choose.”

    • Sir_Naff
      Sir_Naff
      May 10, 2018 at 4:05 pm | #

      Also can we get a “like” button because seriously “thejeff” is on point. Even if they spell their name wrong #GeoffisBetter

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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 13h
one of my favorite things is when a commenter explodes WHEN DO THESE CHARACTERS GET THERAPY but directed towards a character who canonically has a regular therapist
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 14h
www.ebay.com/itm/23609624... Three hours left on this murder machine
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He's been opened, stood on a shelf for a while, and placed back inside.
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 14h
mary: dawn says your girlfriend is trying to murder her wilbur: but what about MY happiness okay can we kill wilbur now
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 1d
help I had a big yawny stretch after I got into bed and threw out my back
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 1d
Dumbing of Age: "Dotty" www.dumbingofage.com/2025/comic/b... #webcomics #webcomic
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Dotty
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Brandy Jensen @brandyjensen.bsky.social ⋅ 1d
fuck off
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 1d
Phew, they made NoHo Hank wear pants.
A McFarlane Toys action figure of Metamorpho, from James Gunn's Superman movie.  He's wearing pants.
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 1d
where's my hour loop of Vader fist-dancing
preternia.com's user avatarpreternia @preternia.com ⋅ 1d
Hot Toys Star Wars: Revenge of the Sith 1/6 Scale Darth Vader Deluxe ($495) & Standard ($315) is up for preorder at Sideshow - shrsl.com/4wcx6 #ad If you preorder make sure to hit the Exclusive versions since they include a commemorative plaque and cost the same.
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Ryan North @ryannorth.ca ⋅ 1d
hey, FANTASTIC FOUR got an Eisner nomination for best ongoing series!! I think this news is... really great! Fantastic even :0
the cover of FF #1 featuring some beautiful art of said Fantastic Four
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 1d
oh no, new content over at the nsfw patreon joe introduces joyce to fingers that aren't breaded chicken www.patreon.com/posts/joe-fi...
tastefully cropped art of joe and joyce discovering the joys of fingers
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 1d
I may have to pin this
damnyouwillis.bsky.social's user avatarDavid M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 4d
btw if you're one of those rando bluesky weirdos who doesn't know me but sees me in the wild being sarcastic and don't know i'm being sarcastic because you haven't taken like 30 seconds to, like, maybe look at my user profile or something, keep walking, you're not going to score internet points here
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
#relatable
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ALT: a man in a hospital gown says " stop pooping " to another man
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OSMOTE @osmote.net ⋅ 2d
Screenshot of Jonathan Frakes on the set of Beyond Belief
brendelbored.bsky.social's user avatarBrendel @brendelbored.bsky.social ⋅ 1y
Politico: Ever been slapped by breasts?
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Joshua J. Friedman @joshuajfriedman.com ⋅ 2d
Here's an entertaining cite at the bottom of the first page
The problems with this prosecution are legion, but most immediately, the
government cannot prosecute Judge Dugan because she is entitled to judicial immunity for her official acts. Immunity is not a defense to the prosecution to be determined later by a jury or court; it is an absolute bar to the prosecution at the outset. See Trump v. United States,
603 U.S. 593, 630 (2024).
joshgerstein.bsky.social's user avatarJosh Gerstein @joshgerstein.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
JUST IN: Milwaukee Judge Hannah Dugan moves to dismiss federal criminal case against her for allegedly helping immigrant hide from ICE. Her lawyers say she's protected by official acts & judicial immunity and 10th Amendment. Doc: storage.courtlistener.com/recap/gov.us...
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
Dumbing of Age: "Up, continued" www.dumbingofage.com/2025/comic/b... #webcomic #webcomics
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Up, continued
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The Onion @theonion.com ⋅ 2d
Where did Hollywood go so wrong? I thought movies were supposed to be an escape from reality, a chance to put your worries aside and not have to think about any underlying ideas or concepts. Well, not anymore. theonion.com/you-can...
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You Can’t Even Watch A Movie Anymore Without Seeing Some Theme Explored
I’ve loved movies ever since I was a little kid. Just stepping into that dark theater, with the smell of fresh popcorn, was like being transported to a whole other world. It used to be so magical. But now I’m thinking about boycotting movies altogether. Why? Because I can’t seem to watch one anymore without […]
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
GOTTEM
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geoffrey @parsnip.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
the 90s were a wild time. if i told you how many magazines there were you wouldnt even believe me
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Aubrey Gilleran @aubreygilleran.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
It's not a new argument, of course, but Chesterton dismissed it effectively in 1908. "You will hear everlastingly... this argument that the rich man cannot be bribed. The fact is, of course, that the rich man is bribed; he has been bribed already. That is why he is a rich man."
atrupar.com's user avatarAaron Rupar @atrupar.com ⋅ 2d
Hawley dismisses Trump lining his pockets with his memecoin: "Listen, I think nobody believes that Donald Trump can be bought. I mean, what does Donald Trump need more money for?"
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Cat Manning @catacalypto.bsky.social ⋅ 11d
1984 calendar meme reading 1529, the year of the first Ottoman siege of Vienna
spavel.bsky.social's user avatarPavel🐀 @spavel.bsky.social ⋅ 11d
Who can forget the Swiss-Austrian Union, or its famous capital - Istanbul.
AI generated ad by a company called Travello showing the 10 most visited cities in Europe, except the cities are hilariously poorly placed. London is in Wales, Paris is in Ireland, Rome is in France, Rom (yes like Rome but without an E) is in Spain, Barcelona is in Morocco, Prague is in Germany, Vienna is in Italy, Istanbul is in Austria, Milan is in Libya, and Antalya is correctly shown as in Turkey but is in the wrong place. Also a few of the borders like Switzerland and Austria or Hungary and Slovenia are missing.
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
*at the very end of Andor, cassian travels through a vortex that makes everyone look a decade younger*
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
(May 14, 2026)
a bemused lucy watches as somebody collapses on her dorm room floor
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David M Willis! @damnyouwillis.bsky.social ⋅ 2d
wilbur, savvy enough to know he's in a comic strip but still not a great actor, awkwardly lifts a muffin up into frame so that we, the audience, understand that he has a muffin right now, which is very important narratively, but he's not really selling it well as an organic, human action
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