“A hug machine, also known as a hug box, a squeeze machine, or a squeeze box, is a therapeutic device designed to calm hypersensitive persons, usually individuals with autism spectrum disorders.”
I used to sleep with one in college. Then I ended up really hurting my foot during the night somehow, so I stopped using it incase it was the causative factor.
Overshare, but–
I should try using mine again. I was liking it, but it turns out it’s not great (for me, at least) to wake up from a trauma dream feeling something on you like that. But that was a flareup that has since subsided, so, could get back to it.
Another unasked for suggestion: Try a weighted plushie! They don’t trap you and generally fall off while you’re sleeping but are great for going to sleep.
No, buy it now!
If you wait until the Winter, the prices are more likely to be higher… or maybe not. I don’t really watch prices for weighted blankets.
I’m pretty sure “autumn” stuff is available (in smaller quantities) at normal prices year-round, and stores just do that thing where they’ll hike it up toward the end of summer so they can put on a “big discount” during peak purchase times, like fall and winter. Or yeah, they crank it up way high and pretend the big price has anything to do with demand or whatever, so you feel like you’re getting a deal.
This is a really random question, but personality wise you remind me of someone I know from a discord server im in… You don’t happen to make electronic music under the name neon, do you? Lol
There was a thing on Twitter, back when Twitter was usable and called Twitter, which asked adult-diagnosis autistics what childhood traits they couldn’t believe nobody saw sooner. And I thought “Well, my entire personality, but…”
But nobody knew. It wasn’t that my parents and teachers didn’t see the traits, it’s that they had no idea that was what autism was. Back when I was a kid, “autism” meant frickin’ Rain Man. I was in my twenties before I even heard the term “Asperger’s”, never mind that it was problematic and we shouldn’t use it.
I’ll never forget a co-worker telling about a TV show he saw where a character had “ass burgers.” I couldn’t correct him because I’d never heard of either.
Joyce continues to impress by not waking up with a hangover. Walky and Dorothy too for that matter. We know Walky was especially thrashed while Amber got drunk and a hangover after seemingly one drink.
It might be genetic or she drank water as frequently as she drank xxx jug liquor or cook herself a large flank steak, pan-fried in salted butter. Then ate that, put on a pair of wet socks and went to sleep.
It’s weird how many people don’t know this, but if you have a headache after drinking you’re just dehydrated. The solution is to drink more water. Works before or after the fact.
I think she may have just been enjoying Joe Cuddles so much that she forgot to continue drinking for the rest of the night, lol. She might be hungover, still, but that feeling gets absolutely dominated by Joe Bliss.
I have just turned 40 and established at my birthday party I can still drink a few glasses of Pimm’s back to back followed by a wine glass because we’d run out of champagne ones of Prosecco, with just a pint of water before turning n, without hangovers…
However, as of yesterday, I have resumed a medication that advises me not to drink at all so should probably double-check why before deciding if an occasional drink is still worth it.
True that. I once misread medication… turned out you couldn’t have alcoholic drinks for 3 days AFTER ceasing use. That was the worst 2 drinks of my life.
we know he keeps in shape/works out at the gym at least but i don’t think there’s a mention of him on any kinda team (tho other than aiming for a sports scholarship i imagine most wouldn’t have time during college on top of studying as well)
Because just because you’re big doesn’t mean you want to play sports.
i was literally harassed by the football coach in high school because he couldn’t understand I didn’t want to play.
Those fuckers get ridiculous, too. At one of my schools, kids would get pulled out of class and basically yelled at if they looked the part but didn’t join a team.
Lol. I’ve been over 6 feet since I was 14. Maxing out at 6 ft 7 inches, which is ultimately only average for the league. I was scouted for basketball by high school coaches too. I can only imagine the disappointment they felt when I told them I was legally blind. Marfan’s which is a genetic disorder that can cause height increases and long limbs. It’s theorized Abraham Lincoln might have had it.
Weird that a coach would care so much versus ppl going to tryouts b/c not like they get paid extra for good players but it would’ve been hilarious if someone tall got dragged into it and sucked in the sport anyways since just being tall doesn’t make you automatically good at a sport versus being able to help grab something on the shelf
Although i remember in my school you had to have a physical? before being able to try out so ppl could’ve easily been like “my parents are too busy to take me to a doctor’s appointment” (tho someone with a heart condition still died on the football team ,surprsied he was allowed on the team with it being known)
He has talked with Jacob about how he used to bodybuild in order to get laid more and now that’s off the table he doesn’t know why he should bother. Though it seems Jacob’s response about maintaining discipline for your own sake had effect.
Very autism-core, yeah, though one of my ADHD friends also has this quirk.
Also, 250 pounds, huh? Goddamn. I mean, I can believe it, Joe’s a big, muscular dude. I wonder how Jacob compares there. I wanna say he’s a touch shorter, but he still seems pretty damn buff.
Yeah, ADHD here (and not AuDHD confirmed) and I love just a good squish. When my husband finds me laying on the floor he just lays on top of me instinctively at this point rofl I also know several other ADHDers who do this kind of thing.
It’s occasionally a neurotypical thing as well, albeit probably much more rarely. My family is full of ND (and diagnosed) so we can all be pretty sure that I am not (because no diagnosis) but I love weight on me and smooshing/squeezing.
be nice to have partners/platonic friends to help with that since “i want your full weight on top of me” can come off as sexual otherwise XD of not just joking around , i remember ‘massaging’ some friends by stepping on their back/standing since i was light enough versus just sitting on top of someone while they do pushups
Now I want a weighted blanket. Maybe I’ll ask for one for my birthday. Any recommendations, either about a specific one or just what to look for/avoid?
I made my own out of old band tees and can fine the tutorial I used. I recommend looking for textures that work for you, preferably natural fibres like cotton. If you prefer acrylics, that’s cool, but they’re less cool in the literal sense because they don’t breathe as well.
Natural fibres (cotton, bamboo) are the best. Plastic fibres (polyester, “minky”, acrylic) may make you all sweaty.
Get a washable cover, too.
(Many weighted blankets are washable in an industrial laundromat-type washing machine, but they can totally break your home laundry machine.)
I knew I’d love a weighted blanket because my body relaxed under the protective vest when getting x-rays.
Make sure to calculate out how heavy it is compared to your weight! The rule of thumb is 10% of body weight. I got a 15 pound one when I was 130, which was kind of pushing it even then, but I lost that weight when I changed medications, and now it hurts to have the weighted blanket on me for more than a few minutes
Probably air on the side of too light rather than too heavy. If it’s too light, you can add other blankets on top, but if it’s too heavy, you can hurt yourself.
Ohhhhhhhh 250 pounds of pure muscle right on top…. that sounds so soothing. Genuinely not even in a horny way. (I mean. Contextually, also, just my first thought is ‘oh i could take a NAP’)
Can confirm the venn diagram is a circle. As someone both autistic and kinky, there are a /lot/ of us because BDSM involves clear roles and communication, structures, sensory play decided by your own needs, and sometimes someone else making decisions. Most of the littles, pets and slaves I know are ADHD/autistic/both because their big/handler/master will do the adulting stuff they struggle with.
A psychologist friend o’ mind strongly suspects there is direct and strong correlation between humanity’s history with autism and our development and exploration of various kinks. (She even suspects the Marquis de Sade of being on the spectrum.)
Huh. Not the same thing (I think), but I wonder how closely related is wanting to be smooshed to wanting to (almost) always wanting to sleep with a cover.
If the two are related at all.
I know that’s an autistic… (does stereotype work here?), but why?
What is it about being under something like a weighted blanket that makes things easier?
It helps center the mind and reconfigure yourself in the space. I don’t understand the big-word science behind it, but that’s the gist. It helps to have a strong direct stimulus to the body, when the other senses are being overwhelmed.
i obvs don’t speak for Every Autistic Person, but for me and for a lot of folks I know it’s just very comforting to have that kind of pressure. It’s a big sensory thing, it feels like it smooshes the anxiety right out. And weighted blankets are great for folks who like the feeling but don’t enjoy human interaction!
I think it’s similar to the feeling of being all bundled up just right, like you’re all curled up in your favorite blanket. Snug as a bug in a super heavy rug <3
Stereotypes are usually oversimplistic, but they can help overall society to become aware of certain concepts for minority groups. After that, further education helps to refine society’s knowledge. But, yes, stereotypes can often lead to negative ideas and behaviors, and we must help educate society to watch out for that.
Dunno. It’s really never been a job, per-se. But being part of society does come with implied expectations and responsibilities about communicating to others about ethical behavior and healthy needs. Society works best when everyone’s paying attention and open to learning. That’s the best variant, though….in reality, it’s just gritty and messy about it all.
For me, I have thought about what I like more than why. It’s just pleasant! Autistic folks are wired differently in regards to stimulus. We have special relationships to how we experience the world.
It’s called deep pressure and it’s my jam. Autistic brains tend to have issues with proprioceptive input, which is like an awareness of the body’s position and place within space. Our brains often don’t have enough of it which is part of why we can seem uncoordinated, clumsy or have difficulty with some fine motor movements. Proprioceptive input seekers often sit oddly (like I need my legs crossed or under my body) or wear tight/heavy clothing like leggings, jackets or possibly sweater vests, Joyce.
Deep pressure gives a lot of PI so it can be calming and help with emotion regulation and attention. My family and partners have been briefed that if I’m dysregulated/melting down to take me somewhere quiet/dark and lie on me.
Your mileage may vary. My husband has the same type of ADHD that I do, but he can’t stand my weighted blanket. Just makes him feel trapped. Meanwhile I fold it in half so I get twice the recommended weight.
Joe and Jacob look to be about my height. My heaviest was 215 (I’m lighter now because I do lean-muscle exercising, not body building), and I’m nowhere near as ripped as they are. I fully believe Joe is 250lbs.
Boxing has weight classes, so boxers will be very careful to control excess weight and be very lean. Without that constraint the would weigh more easily and frequently shed excess weight before bouts.
Could just be muscle density. I’m 270 and 5’8″. I’m 40% body fat, but I don’t really look it; my chest and waste are about 1:1. If I got as big as Tyson, I might weigh even more.
That feels like some dedicated bulking. I know he’s a taller guy too which adds to that but still feels a bit more, especially considering he doesn’t play any sports?
Joe is something of a gentle giant. If he’d hit Mike, he could have broken him in half…. he’s probably used to getting the blame fur the outcome, regardless of the reason.
Mike didn’t punch him out, he just hit him repeatedly. And what would you have preferred to see, if Joe not retaliating somehow isn’t doing it for you?
Joe looks around my height. My heaviest was 215 (I’m lighter now because I do lean-muscle exercising, not body building), and I’m nowhere near as ripped as him. I believe Joe is 250lbs.
Joe isn’t really ripped though. He’s broad, but he doesn’t have abs or any noticeably bulging muscle groups (other than maybe a butt).
If he was a powerlifter maybe, but it doesn’t seem like he’s really doing any concentrated weight program other than ‘go to the gym occasionally’.
He’s basically ‘college level metabolism and maybe some genetics blessing’, which is usually to look to be in good shape but not Jacob-level (who I could see being 250).
250 lbs of muscle requires either constant training or steroids or both. The Rock wrestled at a billed weight of 260 and Joe is neither that tall nor that muscular. No way in hell is Joe more than 225 and that’s giving him the benefit of the doubt.
Re: hover text – She’s like, what? 18? And grew up with a mom who likely “didn’t believe in mental health” and a Dad who wasn’t speaking up much. If she had heard of autism before college, it was probably about those with high needs traits only. Of course she’s only figuring it out now and it’s not that late in life.
Now to my personal feelings on weight. I do like my boyfriend to be a weighted blanket, but I don’t think I would like a real one. I do have a weighted plushie that I love. Helps me fall asleep.
Had a brief thing with a girl who loved it when I wrapped my legs around her midsection and squeezed with all my strength. I can max out an adductor machine without even attempting to try to, I have no idea how she enjoyed it so much.
Gimme dat deep pressure, baby. Deeper.
Every partner Ive had has done this for me at some point. Every one has worried they’d crush me. I want to be flattened like a bug.
Every autistic woman I know (with whom I’ve discussed this) enjoys being smooshed by heavy weighted blankets or other people. ‘Tis relaxing. Both lengthwise and crosswise. And about half the autistic men I know (wwIdt). It’s a thing.
I feel Joyce so hard in this strip. I need weight on me when I sleep, and it’s usually a pile of heavy blankets, which means I overheat a bit in summer, but I can’t sleep without it. (I do not have a weighted blanket because I know in my soul that I would just add it to the existing pile and not solve the problem.)
Wait a minute. In that last panel, is she still in the kneeling position she’s in in panel 4? That’s not just a nice pressure, but an incredibly deep hip stretch.
And if not, where do her legs go? That’s a dorm bed. There’s wall there.
I haven’t enjoyed weighted blankets the little bit I’ve tried to use one before, but I certainly do enjoy somebody just squeezing me tight. (I’m diagnosed autistic too, just to be 100% clear.)
Somehow i really enjoy seeing that while Joyce is now *at least in theory* free to have sexual intimacy with Joe, she’s using that freedom to have WEIRD intimacy with him. This is great because she has stopped following the “ALL PRE-MARITAL PHYSICAL TOUCH IS EVIL“ but is NOT falling into a “I’M GOING TO DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF EVERYTHING I’VE LEARNED OUT OF SPITE“ pattern (ok, in some ways she is, but this here is different), she is allowing herself to be herself and be weird (i use this word lovingly because it has described my neurodivergent, queer experiences long before i knew any of that was the case).
YAYYYYY!!! this was the strip someone showed me that made me interested in the walkyverse/dumbiverse. the commentary was about how awesome it was that amazigirl was “just real plural.” (i am also plural.)
this comic was AWESOME, it took me SEVERAL DAYS TO BINGE, my friends were WORRIED ABOUT ME, but it was WORTH IT.
i absolutely fell in love with these characters. joyces autism, ambers plurality, so much gay shit i wouldnt even BELIEVE, its so fucking wonderful. dina is a standout. ive been liveblogging these comics to my friends and literally all of them are like “dina is the perfect woman”
thank u so much for making these comics :33 it was great!!!
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Good for her!
There’s that possible autism showing through. Joyce would do very well with a weighted blanket.
I feel like Joe is the type to 100% research into something like that and buy her one for Christmas or her birthday.
“A hug machine, also known as a hug box, a squeeze machine, or a squeeze box, is a therapeutic device designed to calm hypersensitive persons, usually individuals with autism spectrum disorders.”
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hug_machine
smoosh
smooosh
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Squish that
catJoyce.Ha! I know this one.
That is adorable adwubdiwbatyvqycqyrhfsv
In the end, it won’t be Dorothy OR Joe who turns out to be Joyce’s true love. She’ll leave both for a weighted blanket.
if it’s like mine, it’s less fun to cuddle and also, despite its unwieldiness, not weighty enough
250 lbs. sounds like an improvement
More Ana lore!
Moranalore!
Well now, I think we’ve narrowed down the topic of their Slipshine.
“Joyce Gets a Smoosh”
“Joe Performs a Smoosh”
“Joe and Joyce Play Smoosh or Woosh”
Nailed it.
Pun intended.
Joyce has her corn ground to a fine paste, apparently
Not sayin’ some people are into corn-bred, but some people are into corn-bred.
Me & my Fiance do this, its funny. They call me their Big Ol’ Teddy Bear.
That is exactly what Joyce called Joe one time! It was foreshadowing!
Joyce just reminded me I need a new weighted blanket. It’s summer though. Should probably wait a bit before buying.
I have one with a removable washable bamboo cover, and the bamboo fabric stays nice m cold all year long, even in 35c temps
I used to sleep with one in college. Then I ended up really hurting my foot during the night somehow, so I stopped using it incase it was the causative factor.
Overshare, but–
I should try using mine again. I was liking it, but it turns out it’s not great (for me, at least) to wake up from a trauma dream feeling something on you like that. But that was a flareup that has since subsided, so, could get back to it.
Would it help if you only had it on your torso? I find I dislike it when my legs are pinned, but it’s great on my upper body.
Another unasked for suggestion: Try a weighted plushie! They don’t trap you and generally fall off while you’re sleeping but are great for going to sleep.
No, buy it now!
If you wait until the Winter, the prices are more likely to be higher… or maybe not. I don’t really watch prices for weighted blankets.
I’m pretty sure “autumn” stuff is available (in smaller quantities) at normal prices year-round, and stores just do that thing where they’ll hike it up toward the end of summer so they can put on a “big discount” during peak purchase times, like fall and winter. Or yeah, they crank it up way high and pretend the big price has anything to do with demand or whatever, so you feel like you’re getting a deal.
Advanced weighted blanket.
Yeah. In panels 1-3 I was thinking, “cool. Like me she likes weight on her when trying to sleep.”
In panels 4-6, I realized this may be something else.
Given that it’s Joyce… I’d say 50/50 chance of being one or the other. Or both.
I’m thinking both.
Temple Grandin but make it horny.
Aaaaah the autistic urge for ***pressure*** lmao
. This is so relatable
right?
Joyce is probably melting in place right now 🫠🥰
This is a really random question, but personality wise you remind me of someone I know from a discord server im in… You don’t happen to make electronic music under the name neon, do you? Lol
Erm, no?
But I do work on several indie game dev teams via discord, im a programmer (my handle is just my name here lowercase LOL)
Joyce kink revealed
Joyce gettin lucky.
Boy, you’re gonna Carry That Weight/Carry That Weight a long time
I had a song in mind too … “He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My ⃥B⃥r⃥o⃥t⃥h⃥e⃥r⃥ Lover”.
I was thinking if the song “under pressure” by queen.
Hover text is, once again, a vibe.
Diagnosed autistic at 29 (meaning… this year), and having frequent moments of “Damn, really has been this whole time…”
I’m right there with you. No idea how I didn’t realise it before.
Adhd, not autism, for me, but same!
There was a thing on Twitter, back when Twitter was usable and called Twitter, which asked adult-diagnosis autistics what childhood traits they couldn’t believe nobody saw sooner. And I thought “Well, my entire personality, but…”
But nobody knew. It wasn’t that my parents and teachers didn’t see the traits, it’s that they had no idea that was what autism was. Back when I was a kid, “autism” meant frickin’ Rain Man. I was in my twenties before I even heard the term “Asperger’s”, never mind that it was problematic and we shouldn’t use it.
I’ll never forget a co-worker telling about a TV show he saw where a character had “ass burgers.” I couldn’t correct him because I’d never heard of either.
Wasn’t that an episode of South Park? I haven’t seen it, but I have a vague memory of someone saying that in a Cartman voice.
Joyce continues to impress by not waking up with a hangover. Walky and Dorothy too for that matter. We know Walky was especially thrashed while Amber got drunk and a hangover after seemingly one drink.
It might be genetic or she drank water as frequently as she drank xxx jug liquor or cook herself a large flank steak, pan-fried in salted butter. Then ate that, put on a pair of wet socks and went to sleep.
It’s weird how many people don’t know this, but if you have a headache after drinking you’re just dehydrated. The solution is to drink more water. Works before or after the fact.
Wet socks?
I think she may have just been enjoying Joe Cuddles so much that she forgot to continue drinking for the rest of the night, lol. She might be hungover, still, but that feeling gets absolutely dominated by Joe Bliss.
I have just turned 40 and established at my birthday party I can still drink a few glasses of Pimm’s back to back followed by a wine glass because we’d run out of champagne ones of Prosecco, with just a pint of water before turning n, without hangovers…
However, as of yesterday, I have resumed a medication that advises me not to drink at all so should probably double-check why before deciding if an occasional drink is still worth it.
Please do check
Turns out the reason is “it gives you telepathy” and they’re worried you’ll go all Tetsuo on everything.
they really need better labeling, to distinguish between “makes you much drunker than you expect” and “will turn off your liver and kill you”
True that. I once misread medication… turned out you couldn’t have alcoholic drinks for 3 days AFTER ceasing use. That was the worst 2 drinks of my life.
filing this under “wow, relatable! oh wait that’s more autism”
Ayup.
Why hasn’t Joe played football? Or has he, and we just don’t know it?
Probably because his dad is a doctor.
I don’t think he does sports in general.
Could be. “Original Joe” seemed like “jerk jock”
I think he said one time that he mostly exercise to look attractive so I don’t think he particularly about sports.
we know he keeps in shape/works out at the gym at least but i don’t think there’s a mention of him on any kinda team (tho other than aiming for a sports scholarship i imagine most wouldn’t have time during college on top of studying as well)
Because just because you’re big doesn’t mean you want to play sports.
i was literally harassed by the football coach in high school because he couldn’t understand I didn’t want to play.
Those fuckers get ridiculous, too. At one of my schools, kids would get pulled out of class and basically yelled at if they looked the part but didn’t join a team.
At my height, I had a HS coach approach me out of the blue and ask me about basketball. He desisted once I explained about my knees.
Lol. I’ve been over 6 feet since I was 14. Maxing out at 6 ft 7 inches, which is ultimately only average for the league. I was scouted for basketball by high school coaches too. I can only imagine the disappointment they felt when I told them I was legally blind. Marfan’s which is a genetic disorder that can cause height increases and long limbs. It’s theorized Abraham Lincoln might have had it.
Interesting example. Have we ever seen Sirksome and Abraham Lincoln in the same room? I’m onto you, Mr. President.
Ever notice how Sirksome avoids stage theatres? You’ve never seen them at such a place. Coincidence? I think not!
I was visualizing the coach harassing your cute icon and thinking, “Different playing.”
Weird that a coach would care so much versus ppl going to tryouts b/c not like they get paid extra for good players but it would’ve been hilarious if someone tall got dragged into it and sucked in the sport anyways since just being tall doesn’t make you automatically good at a sport versus being able to help grab something on the shelf
Although i remember in my school you had to have a physical? before being able to try out so ppl could’ve easily been like “my parents are too busy to take me to a doctor’s appointment” (tho someone with a heart condition still died on the football team ,surprsied he was allowed on the team with it being known)
He has talked with Jacob about how he used to bodybuild in order to get laid more and now that’s off the table he doesn’t know why he should bother. Though it seems Jacob’s response about maintaining discipline for your own sake had effect.
Very autism-core, yeah, though one of my ADHD friends also has this quirk.
Also, 250 pounds, huh? Goddamn. I mean, I can believe it, Joe’s a big, muscular dude. I wonder how Jacob compares there. I wanna say he’s a touch shorter, but he still seems pretty damn buff.
Yeah, ADHD here (and not AuDHD confirmed) and I love just a good squish. When my husband finds me laying on the floor he just lays on top of me instinctively at this point rofl I also know several other ADHDers who do this kind of thing.
Can confirm, smooshing is a thing we neurodivergent folk do
It’s occasionally a neurotypical thing as well, albeit probably much more rarely. My family is full of ND (and diagnosed) so we can all be pretty sure that I am not (because no diagnosis) but I love weight on me and smooshing/squeezing.
This situation takes me back.
Yehs.
Hsmush me.
be nice to have partners/platonic friends to help with that since “i want your full weight on top of me” can come off as sexual otherwise XD of not just joking around , i remember ‘massaging’ some friends by stepping on their back/standing since i was light enough versus just sitting on top of someone while they do pushups
Joyce is going to rock Joe’s six foot world when she decides to unleash
Now I want a weighted blanket. Maybe I’ll ask for one for my birthday. Any recommendations, either about a specific one or just what to look for/avoid?
I made my own out of old band tees and can fine the tutorial I used. I recommend looking for textures that work for you, preferably natural fibres like cotton. If you prefer acrylics, that’s cool, but they’re less cool in the literal sense because they don’t breathe as well.
Natural fibres (cotton, bamboo) are the best. Plastic fibres (polyester, “minky”, acrylic) may make you all sweaty.
Get a washable cover, too.
(Many weighted blankets are washable in an industrial laundromat-type washing machine, but they can totally break your home laundry machine.)
I knew I’d love a weighted blanket because my body relaxed under the protective vest when getting x-rays.
Make sure to calculate out how heavy it is compared to your weight! The rule of thumb is 10% of body weight. I got a 15 pound one when I was 130, which was kind of pushing it even then, but I lost that weight when I changed medications, and now it hurts to have the weighted blanket on me for more than a few minutes
Probably air on the side of too light rather than too heavy. If it’s too light, you can add other blankets on top, but if it’s too heavy, you can hurt yourself.
Ohhhhhhhh 250 pounds of pure muscle right on top…. that sounds so soothing. Genuinely not even in a horny way. (I mean. Contextually, also, just my first thought is ‘oh i could take a NAP’)
Oh yet another ’tism trait
Seems to be a “why not both?” case on the whole autistic/kink debate.
REminds me of that chart/venn diagram lol
https://www.reddit.com/r/tumblr/comments/1056q5x/autism_and_bdsm/
Can confirm the venn diagram is a circle. As someone both autistic and kinky, there are a /lot/ of us because BDSM involves clear roles and communication, structures, sensory play decided by your own needs, and sometimes someone else making decisions. Most of the littles, pets and slaves I know are ADHD/autistic/both because their big/handler/master will do the adulting stuff they struggle with.
very much so, autistas also make great doms!
(for instance in Becky x Dina it is very clear who the dom is XD)
A psychologist friend o’ mind strongly suspects there is direct and strong correlation between humanity’s history with autism and our development and exploration of various kinks. (She even suspects the Marquis de Sade of being on the spectrum.)
I was gonna just leave this here but then I read the title text and dammit I got beaten to the punch.
On an unrelated note it’s around 30°C where I live and I can’t sleep without a very heavy blanket on me send help.
I just checked on Google, and apparently cooling weighted blankets are a thing.
oh fuck yeah
Now this is pod racing.
That’s a really beautiful Joe-face in panel 5 <3 ^_^
Is “wholesomely kinky” a thing? I feel like that’s a thing.
For sure!
Absolutely! Best category of kink ever!
Huh. Not the same thing (I think), but I wonder how closely related is wanting to be smooshed to wanting to (almost) always wanting to sleep with a cover.
If the two are related at all.
I know that’s an autistic… (does stereotype work here?), but why?
What is it about being under something like a weighted blanket that makes things easier?
It helps center the mind and reconfigure yourself in the space. I don’t understand the big-word science behind it, but that’s the gist. It helps to have a strong direct stimulus to the body, when the other senses are being overwhelmed.
i obvs don’t speak for Every Autistic Person, but for me and for a lot of folks I know it’s just very comforting to have that kind of pressure. It’s a big sensory thing, it feels like it smooshes the anxiety right out. And weighted blankets are great for folks who like the feeling but don’t enjoy human interaction!
I think it’s similar to the feeling of being all bundled up just right, like you’re all curled up in your favorite blanket. Snug as a bug in a super heavy rug <3
must be great when you have a cat /dog napping on you as long as you don’t need to get up halfway to use the bathroom lol
I’ll confirm this. It’s very pleasant when our little grey dipshit lays on my chest and gets settled in.
From my personal experience, I don’t like sleeping with weighted things on me, but I enjoy the sensory experience of it in a more wakeful sense.
I’m touch-starved, touch-averse, and my therapist was like, “Have you considered a weighted blanket?”
Stereotype most definitely is not the word you want to use here, and would, in fact, be offensive.
I don’t know if it’s necessarily offensive by default. Suboptimal maybe, but it’s alright.
Stereotypes are usually oversimplistic, but they can help overall society to become aware of certain concepts for minority groups. After that, further education helps to refine society’s knowledge. But, yes, stereotypes can often lead to negative ideas and behaviors, and we must help educate society to watch out for that.
Are we finally off that “It’s not my job to educate you” stuff?
Dunno. It’s really never been a job, per-se. But being part of society does come with implied expectations and responsibilities about communicating to others about ethical behavior and healthy needs. Society works best when everyone’s paying attention and open to learning. That’s the best variant, though….in reality, it’s just gritty and messy about it all.
For me, I have thought about what I like more than why. It’s just pleasant! Autistic folks are wired differently in regards to stimulus. We have special relationships to how we experience the world.
I’d go for “trait” rather than “stereotype” but I can explain with my science degree: It squishies all the bad out.
It’s called deep pressure and it’s my jam. Autistic brains tend to have issues with proprioceptive input, which is like an awareness of the body’s position and place within space. Our brains often don’t have enough of it which is part of why we can seem uncoordinated, clumsy or have difficulty with some fine motor movements. Proprioceptive input seekers often sit oddly (like I need my legs crossed or under my body) or wear tight/heavy clothing like leggings, jackets or possibly sweater vests, Joyce.
Deep pressure gives a lot of PI so it can be calming and help with emotion regulation and attention. My family and partners have been briefed that if I’m dysregulated/melting down to take me somewhere quiet/dark and lie on me.
Often great for ADHD, too!
Your mileage may vary. My husband has the same type of ADHD that I do, but he can’t stand my weighted blanket. Just makes him feel trapped. Meanwhile I fold it in half so I get twice the recommended weight.
Yes thank you. I was being silly.
When Joyce says “getting laid” she actually means “getting laid upon”
“I wish Joyce would get all freaky in bed” someone once said, and a finger on a monkey’s paw curled ominously
250?? Man peak Mike Tyson was 220, you aint *that* big, Joe.
Well Mike Tyson was around the 5’10 Mark and Joe looks at least 6’2, 6’3 and he’s probably not as ripped as Mike was
Joe and Jacob look to be about my height. My heaviest was 215 (I’m lighter now because I do lean-muscle exercising, not body building), and I’m nowhere near as ripped as they are. I fully believe Joe is 250lbs.
Boxing has weight classes, so boxers will be very careful to control excess weight and be very lean. Without that constraint the would weigh more easily and frequently shed excess weight before bouts.
Could just be muscle density. I’m 270 and 5’8″. I’m 40% body fat, but I don’t really look it; my chest and waste are about 1:1. If I got as big as Tyson, I might weigh even more.
Friendship ended with [mating press]
Now [hydraulic press] is my [boy]friend
i love having a weighted blanket and a large partner being smooshed is the BEST
shes SO real for that
You know, like a cat.
Joe’s 113kg?
That feels like some dedicated bulking. I know he’s a taller guy too which adds to that but still feels a bit more, especially considering he doesn’t play any sports?
That’s a big lad all right, especially for (I think) 19
Makes it all the more perplexing he allowed himself to be punched out by Mike
Joe is something of a gentle giant. If he’d hit Mike, he could have broken him in half…. he’s probably used to getting the blame fur the outcome, regardless of the reason.
To be fair most of that weight isn’t somehow specifically protecting him from getting concussed.
Doesn’t matter. Just because you’re bigger shouldn’t mean someone else kind physically assault you and not suffer any repercussions
Mike didn’t punch him out, he just hit him repeatedly. And what would you have preferred to see, if Joe not retaliating somehow isn’t doing it for you?
Sorry I meant punching out meaning taking lots of punches and not retaliating not being punched unconscious
I’d prefer to see Joe punching Mike, like I’d prefer to see anyone defending themselves against physical assault
Actually I’d prefer the physical assault didn’t happen in the first place
Of course you’d advocate for the baboon response.
Joe looks around my height. My heaviest was 215 (I’m lighter now because I do lean-muscle exercising, not body building), and I’m nowhere near as ripped as him. I believe Joe is 250lbs.
Joe isn’t really ripped though. He’s broad, but he doesn’t have abs or any noticeably bulging muscle groups (other than maybe a butt).
If he was a powerlifter maybe, but it doesn’t seem like he’s really doing any concentrated weight program other than ‘go to the gym occasionally’.
He’s basically ‘college level metabolism and maybe some genetics blessing’, which is usually to look to be in good shape but not Jacob-level (who I could see being 250).
250 lbs of muscle requires either constant training or steroids or both. The Rock wrestled at a billed weight of 260 and Joe is neither that tall nor that muscular. No way in hell is Joe more than 225 and that’s giving him the benefit of the doubt.
Thank you for converted his weight.
What is 250 pounds? Wallops.
113Kg. Gosh, he IS heavy.
Re: hover text – She’s like, what? 18? And grew up with a mom who likely “didn’t believe in mental health” and a Dad who wasn’t speaking up much. If she had heard of autism before college, it was probably about those with high needs traits only. Of course she’s only figuring it out now and it’s not that late in life.
Now to my personal feelings on weight. I do like my boyfriend to be a weighted blanket, but I don’t think I would like a real one. I do have a weighted plushie that I love. Helps me fall asleep.
JOYCE: AUTISM POWERS ACTIVATE.
“Autista Power, MAKE UP!!!!”
Weighted blanket, orgasmic grade.
that’s what all those stuffed animals were for
I wonder where those stuffed animals are, now. We don’t see much (or any?) in her room.
I think we’ve seen one or two in her bed before, but I could not tell you when. That’s pretty far from 3+ bags though
Weighted
blanketboyfriend 8DHad a brief thing with a girl who loved it when I wrapped my legs around her midsection and squeezed with all my strength. I can max out an adductor machine without even attempting to try to, I have no idea how she enjoyed it so much.
I can confirm men also like being smooshed by a big woman.
I’ll throw in for the “other” category and say we’d also like a 7’3″ muscular green woman to flatten us, categorically.
Seconded from the ‘others’
Gimme dat deep pressure, baby. Deeper.
Every partner Ive had has done this for me at some point. Every one has worried they’d crush me. I want to be flattened like a bug.
Joe using one of his movies “Boyfriend Press!”
Joe used Heavy Slam!
It’s super effective!
Whatever this is, I’m kinkshaming it.
Farmer_10 used kinkshaming.
It’s not very effective.
It isn’t a kink. It’s a sensory thing with autism.
Por que no los dos?
Well… at least Joyce will be a fan of missionary?
Joe should keep that in mind because it seems to be coming sooner rather than later.
Joyce, please breathe.
She accepted the price and consider it worth it.
or
– hear me out –
just lie on your stomach
It’s not the same.
That doesn’t even a little bit have the same effect. I crave the crush.
Speaking as a homosexual, Joyce is so real for this
Every autistic woman I know (with whom I’ve discussed this) enjoys being smooshed by heavy weighted blankets or other people. ‘Tis relaxing. Both lengthwise and crosswise. And about half the autistic men I know (wwIdt). It’s a thing.
I feel Joyce so hard in this strip. I need weight on me when I sleep, and it’s usually a pile of heavy blankets, which means I overheat a bit in summer, but I can’t sleep without it. (I do not have a weighted blanket because I know in my soul that I would just add it to the existing pile and not solve the problem.)
Aw, I’ve missed “wakey wakey!”
I’m betting an internet point that Joe is gonna hear that a _lot_.
These two are just way too adorable.
SMOOSH
Please crush my soul back into my body lol
it may not be every punchline going forward, but a solid 10% should be fine
also my brainrot immediately pulled out the mating press file, siiiigh
It’s absolutely impossible to do what they are doing right now on a dorm bed but I love it!
It’s a weighted manket.
*Claps*
Joyce is one finger running down her back away from orgasming.
Dorothy wishes Joyce responded to her like she does to Joe.
Dorothy can’t compete. She’s not 250 lbs.
Wait a minute. In that last panel, is she still in the kneeling position she’s in in panel 4? That’s not just a nice pressure, but an incredibly deep hip stretch.
And if not, where do her legs go? That’s a dorm bed. There’s wall there.
Autism compression go brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
~Pikaaaaaaaaaaah~
Joyce needs herself a weighted blanket. They are awesome.
What are you talking about she just did.
I’m super happy for Joyce. Not jealous at all.
That hovertext is my husband to me on daily basis
it’s official, Joyce is so absurd that anything she does ends up being cute. Joe just became a comfort blanket for an autistic. ~<3
#relatable
Joyce noticing something poking her from the right in 5…4…
Joyce ;__; she like me for real…….
Not a kink I was familiar with but okay…
It is also an autism thing
Ah, I thought from Joyce biting her lip in panel 4 it was a horny thing.
It can be both.
Almost as good as being crammed into an area close to the size of my body. Some people have claustrophobia, I have claustrophilia.
I literally just say “weighted blanket wife” when I want my wife to lay on me just like this. nothing is better
They are so cute i hope Joe doesn’t stop liking her for her eccentricities
If there’s anything I’m not worried about with regards to their relationship it’s that. Joe’s been super good and understanding about that stuff.
I haven’t enjoyed weighted blankets the little bit I’ve tried to use one before, but I certainly do enjoy somebody just squeezing me tight. (I’m diagnosed autistic too, just to be 100% clear.)
Head-mate? No, not a head-mate. However, my first term in the dorms I learned to sleep with earplugs.
Somehow i really enjoy seeing that while Joyce is now *at least in theory* free to have sexual intimacy with Joe, she’s using that freedom to have WEIRD intimacy with him. This is great because she has stopped following the “ALL PRE-MARITAL PHYSICAL TOUCH IS EVIL“ but is NOT falling into a “I’M GOING TO DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF EVERYTHING I’VE LEARNED OUT OF SPITE“ pattern (ok, in some ways she is, but this here is different), she is allowing herself to be herself and be weird (i use this word lovingly because it has described my neurodivergent, queer experiences long before i knew any of that was the case).
YAYYYYY!!! this was the strip someone showed me that made me interested in the walkyverse/dumbiverse. the commentary was about how awesome it was that amazigirl was “just real plural.” (i am also plural.)
this comic was AWESOME, it took me SEVERAL DAYS TO BINGE, my friends were WORRIED ABOUT ME, but it was WORTH IT.
i absolutely fell in love with these characters. joyces autism, ambers plurality, so much gay shit i wouldnt even BELIEVE, its so fucking wonderful. dina is a standout. ive been liveblogging these comics to my friends and literally all of them are like “dina is the perfect woman”
thank u so much for making these comics :33 it was great!!!
oops i just realized i posted this on the wrong comic.
PRETEND THAT THIS IS ON TOMORROWS STRIP AND NOT HERE
You and me both, Joyce, hell yeah