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by David M Willis on April 8, 2016 at 12:01 am
  • 03 - When God Closes The Door
└ Tags: becky, jocelyne, joyce

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  1. Ana Chronistic
    Ana Chronistic
    April 8, 2016 at 12:01 am | #

    “the POOPFACEST”

    best adoption EVAR

    • butts
      butts
      April 8, 2016 at 12:08 am | #

      Seriously, that family could use a gingerjection if you know what i’m sayin’

      • Gordon
        Gordon
        April 8, 2016 at 12:32 am | #

        Wouldn’t it just be a gingection?

        • butts
          butts
          April 8, 2016 at 12:57 am | #

          I would’ve said ‘ginjection’ but I wasn’t 100% people would get it

          • ANeM
            ANeM
            April 8, 2016 at 1:11 am | #

            They could use some gin as well.

            • Disloyal Subject
              Disloyal Subject
              April 8, 2016 at 6:02 am | #

              Both is good.

              • Yet_One_More_Idiot
                Yet_One_More_Idiot
                April 8, 2016 at 1:00 pm | #

                A ginjection? I’m sure Billie could supply the goods… ;D

    • Bagge
      Bagge
      April 8, 2016 at 12:10 am | #

      She truly speaks Becky’s language

  2. gkheyf
    gkheyf
    April 8, 2016 at 12:02 am | #

    badassteamupsayswhatwhat!

    • transgressingwaffle
      transgressingwaffle
      April 8, 2016 at 12:13 am | #

      What what!

      • butts
        butts
        April 8, 2016 at 12:15 am | #

        in the butt

      • Tacos
        Tacos
        April 8, 2016 at 12:18 am | #

        In the butt.

      • leadsynth
        leadsynth
        April 8, 2016 at 12:39 am | #

        Samwell opened for me once. It was surreal. Thanks for the memory.

        • ShawnL
          ShawnL
          April 8, 2016 at 8:33 am | #

          “Sawmill opened for me once”… NOOO!!!

          (Sorry Goatse flashback…)

          • davidbreslin101
            davidbreslin101
            April 8, 2016 at 2:15 pm | #

            I have only seen Goatse as drawn in “NSFW Comix”, and that was enough.

  3. Safgaftsa
    Safgaftsa
    April 8, 2016 at 12:02 am | #

    What?

    • heyman
      heyman
      April 8, 2016 at 12:07 am | #

      Say “what” again, motherfucker!

      • Jay Eff
        Jay Eff
        April 8, 2016 at 12:10 am | #

        Do they speak English in “What?”

        • tigikay
          tigikay
          April 8, 2016 at 12:14 am | #

          “What” aint no country I ever heard of!

          • butts
            butts
            April 8, 2016 at 12:16 am | #

            Man, I’ll bet the Browns are just huge fans of Ezekiel 25:17.

            • HMH
              HMH
              April 8, 2016 at 1:21 am | #

              I’m sure they never gave much thought to what it meant. It’s just some cold-blooded shit to say to a motherfucker.

              • AngryBamboo
                AngryBamboo
                April 8, 2016 at 8:13 am | #

                But now they’re thinking, maybe Joyce is the righteous man, and John is the evil man, and mister 9mm is the hand of god protecting Joyce’s righteous ass in the valley of darkness…

                • John
                  John
                  April 8, 2016 at 1:16 pm | #

                  Nah, that’d be Sarah and her bat.

            • dave
              dave
              April 8, 2016 at 11:34 am | #

              That is SO appropriate for this situation: Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness, for he is truly his brother’s keeper and the finder of lost children.

              • impish
                impish
                April 8, 2016 at 6:23 pm | #

                huh?

                Ezekiel 25:17 is “I will carry out great vengeance on them and punish them in my wrath. Then they will know that I am the LORD, when I take vengeance on them.” (NIV)

                • Palamdrone
                  Palamdrone
                  April 8, 2016 at 8:43 pm | #

                  The way Tarantino translated the verse is slightly different.

          • N0083rP00F
            N0083rP00F
            April 8, 2016 at 9:48 am | #

            What is a whole new world.

      • Tacos
        Tacos
        April 8, 2016 at 12:12 am | #

        Que?

      • Chaucer59
        Chaucer59
        April 8, 2016 at 12:47 am | #

        what?

  4. David Herbert
    David Herbert
    April 8, 2016 at 12:02 am | #

    And remember to feed her and take her for walks.

    • Bagge
      Bagge
      April 8, 2016 at 12:37 am | #

      She is potty trained
      http://www.dumbingofage.com/2014/comic/book-5/01-when-somebody-loved-me/forevers/

      • Opus the Poet
        Opus the Poet
        April 8, 2016 at 2:20 am | #

        Still needs regular exercise.

    • Griffinguy24
      Griffinguy24
      April 8, 2016 at 8:54 am | #

      Of course the problem is when she starts humping someone’s leg.

  5. Stephen R. Bierce
    Stephen R. Bierce
    April 8, 2016 at 12:02 am | #

    *plays Run-DMC’s “Run’s House” on the jukebox*

    • Stephen R. Bierce
      Stephen R. Bierce
      April 8, 2016 at 12:04 am | #

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xMJZHrG_94 <- Of all the things to become a TV series!

      • ChrisHerself
        ChrisHerself
        April 8, 2016 at 12:20 am | #

        Is it too early to request “We Are Family”?

        • Stephen R. Bierce
          Stephen R. Bierce
          April 8, 2016 at 12:39 am | #

          From an old Pittsburgh kid like me? No sweat.
          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oMVe_HcyP9Y

          • ChrisHerself
            ChrisHerself
            April 8, 2016 at 2:52 am | #

            HOORAY! *dancing for realz in chair to this*

  6. Danlin
    Danlin
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    New little sister? Jocelyn, you are too amazing

    • Screwball
      Screwball
      April 8, 2016 at 1:14 am | #

      Seems Joyce now has that sister she always wanted but knows about, as opposed to 1 she still thinks is her brother…

      I got that right, didn’t I?

      • Disloyal Subject
        Disloyal Subject
        April 8, 2016 at 6:22 am | #

        She also has Sarah.

        • Clif
          Clif
          April 8, 2016 at 8:16 am | #

          He’s calling Becky “new little sister” to indicate she’s part of the family. Joyce has no reason to know she has one less brother.

          Or no reason in what was just said.

  7. Southern Belle
    Southern Belle
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    Ah I love Jocelyne so much! <3

    BEST reaction to new sister Becky.

  8. Doctor_Who
    Doctor_Who
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    Really hoping Jocelyn comes out to them. Probably the most supportive family environment she’s ever going to get.

    • Anon-ish
      Anon-ish
      April 8, 2016 at 12:08 am | #

      Agreed, so wondering if she will

    • Hannah
      Hannah
      April 8, 2016 at 12:09 am | #

      I dunno about that. Just because somebody’s okay with gayness doesn’t mean that they’ll be accepting of transgenderness. Hell, even gay people can be downright rotten to trans people. Some of the worst treatment I’ve received since beginning my own transition has been from gay men, and drag queens in particular. Some of them can be real jerks.

      That being said, I do HOPE that Becky and Joyce are more open minded than that, but you never know when it comes to this particular subject. :l

      • Tommy Fresh
        Tommy Fresh
        April 8, 2016 at 12:10 am | #

        I’ve been wondering if at some point Joss will feel comfortable coming out to Becky specifically, at which point we’ll see if that leads to comfort confiding in Joyce or not.

      • transgressingwaffle
        transgressingwaffle
        April 8, 2016 at 12:15 am | #

        I love your QC avatar!!! She is one of my favorites

      • Mika
        Mika
        April 8, 2016 at 12:32 am | #

        Yeah. Unfortunately true. The cruelest people I’ve ever met have been ‘political lesbians’, also called TERFs, who have made sport out of hunting and outing and destroying the lives of trans women. Some of them keep public databases of us, to destroy our ability to find work, or shelter. There are true, genuine monsters out there, and they aren’t all in the form you might expect. :/

        • Dellaran
          Dellaran
          April 8, 2016 at 12:44 am | #

          WTF. I never would have imagined people like that could exist. Fortunately my opinion of humanity couldn’t go much lower…

          • Chris2315
            Chris2315
            April 8, 2016 at 1:39 am | #

            Good lesson to remember: any movement, without the ability to police itself, will eventually be hijacked by assholes. No exceptions. Sadly, feminism is no exception.

            • Nerd Patrol
              Nerd Patrol
              April 8, 2016 at 9:32 am | #

              I’d argue that that specific example is less “hijacking” and more “radical splinter group”. Not to say that you’re entirely wrong, though…hell, look at what happened to Occupy Wall Street.

              • Chris2315
                Chris2315
                April 8, 2016 at 4:25 pm | #

                It is radical splinter groups… who are doing a pretty damn good job of hijacking the movement. Feminism seems to leave a sour taste in the mouths of many, many people who would normally agree with feminist ideas, and that’s mostly because the term has been dragged through the mud by extremists.

                That’s why I don’t like relying on labels. I prefer simply saying exactly what I mean. You can hijack feminism because it’s not self-explanatory. Try doing the same with gender equality. Movements against racism and homophobia have never had to deal with those issues because they don’t have labels… and the moment they try to have a label (Black Lives Matter), it instantly gets sullied by its most moronic members.

        • Orion Fury
          Orion Fury
          April 8, 2016 at 1:04 am | #

          That’s so horrifying my sheltered little mind can’t believe it’s true. Those that have been forced to the fringes of society for being nothing more than themselves, which brings no harm to anyone, should at the least have solidarity. Why do people have to be such…people.

          • Kinoko
            Kinoko
            April 8, 2016 at 1:53 am | #

            Hate sometimes breeds hate, I guess? Some people, when marginalized, feel a need to lash out and marginalize others in turn. Obviously I say “some”, because a lot of folks are better human beings than that, but it definitely happens. I went through a number of traumatic bullying experiences at school as a kid, and when it got really bad (and no adults, however well-meaning, could do shit to fix it), I started taking my misery out on other girls at school who were even more emotionally vulnerable than me, just because it meant I wasn’t the bottom of the pecking order if I did. When I realized what I was doing I was disgusted with myself, and I forced myself to stop. Feeling marginalized can twist and warp your mind, to the point that you end up rationalizing actions you aren’t proud of. It is never, EVER an excuse to treat someone else poorly. But, having done it, I totally understand the impulse. 🙁

          • StClair
            StClair
            April 8, 2016 at 4:35 am | #

            A lot of people – a lot – don’t really want the system to change. They just want to be the ones on top, in charge, punching down.

            • Mika
              Mika
              April 8, 2016 at 11:08 am | #

              That seems like exactly it, unfortunately, yeah. They don’t really want to dismantle patriarchy – they just want to take on it’s authority for themselves, and use it to punch down. It’d be sickly hilarious if it wasn’t so horrible.

              • thejeff
                thejeff
                April 8, 2016 at 1:44 pm | #

                Well, historically, regardless of what you want, one of the best ways to stop from being hit yourself, is to join the authority in beating on those even lower down.
                Think various waves of immigrants to the US becoming “white” partly by joining in on abusing the blacks. Especially the Irish, but Italians and others follow similar patterns.
                Or for that matter the average elementary school bullying dynamics.

                People suck.
                When they’re not surprising you with how wonderful they can be.

            • Cerberus
              Cerberus
              April 8, 2016 at 2:55 pm | #

              *cough cough* See harassing sexism in nerd culture *cough cough*

          • Boxilar
            Boxilar
            April 8, 2016 at 6:31 pm | #

            A lot.of it is about, “Well, my life is.complete shit, but at least I’m better than THEM.” Whoever “they” happen to be.

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 2:17 pm | #

          Yup, one of those carefully coached my family on standard TERF talking points and they used that authority to feel justified in all the awfulness they threw at me including trying to angle me to reparative therapy. And I got out lucky for an encounter with a TERF given how many are fond of harassing trans kids with their dead names and trying to get them fired/kill themselves.

          TERFs suck.

          • Mika
            Mika
            April 8, 2016 at 6:00 pm | #

            Yeah. I dated a promiment figure in the trans activism scene for a while, and as soon as it became known that I was her girlfriend, I started getting a fucking *blizzard* of hate and stalking from them, because TERFs are so gross that they’ll happily attack the loved ones of their targets to cause them pain. Anonymous accounts started popping up to attack my appearance, declare that I couldn’t have been a victim of sexual abuse because I was “unrapeable”, and more, and it went on, literally, for a fucking year. It was just fucking ceaseless, every damn day. That’s what those fuckers are like. :/

            • Cerberus
              Cerberus
              April 8, 2016 at 9:52 pm | #

              *appropriate gesture of support*

              Fucking TERFs.

              • Leorale
                Leorale
                April 8, 2016 at 11:18 pm | #

                Damn, that’s friggin’ awful.

    • Mollyscribbles
      Mollyscribbles
      April 8, 2016 at 1:52 am | #

      I think she will, but not now. This isn’t the time for it. For one, Becky’s the focus right now and bringing up the whole “BTW I’m actually female” thing would make it into one of those situations where you’re trying to show you can relate (and/or wish to reciprocate their gesture of trust in telling you whatever) but it ends up coming across like you’re trying to make it about you. For another, they’re in public and while Becky is fine with yelling “HEY I’M A LESBIAN” in public Joss doesn’t want to risk someone overhearing her and word getting back to their parents.

      • Needfuldoer
        Needfuldoer
        April 8, 2016 at 3:17 am | #

        On top of that, Joyce is already at full mental capacity. She’s fighting through her personal crisis of faith, her ideas of good and evil aren’t comfortably definite, and the real world has taken away the rose colored glasses she saw her entire life through. With all these moving parts, she needs a stable “known” to fall back on. Fortunately for her, she has an sibling on her side who’s experienced many of the same obstacles and found a balance.

        Joss should absolutely not stay closeted forever, but for now she can crack the door and wait for the right time. Joyce has proven she follows the values of her faith, not the memes. She’ll be there to reciprocate the support.

        • showler
          showler
          April 8, 2016 at 4:14 pm | #

          I’m curious whether her telling Ethan, ostensibly Joyce’s boyfriend and certainly a friend of Joyce’s, was some kind of attempt to get outed to Joyce without having to come out herself.

          Given what has been said here about not being able to count on gay men to be allies, it seems like she took a big risk with that text to Ethan.

          • thejeff
            thejeff
            April 8, 2016 at 4:55 pm | #

            It does. Honestly though, I suspect there was a lot of meta at work there. She came out to Ethan mostly because Willis needed an in-world way to have her come out to us.

        • Boxilar
          Boxilar
          April 8, 2016 at 6:49 pm | #

          Seconding Needful. Considering where she started, Joyce has made huge strides. But she’s pretty much up against her limits. I recognize the sense of anger and betrayal she is displaying that comes when what was once a rock solid world view starts crumbling. Dumping the knowledge that her brother is actually her sister on her at this moment in time would be a bridge to far for her. Also Jocelyn’s advice is sound. When you’re fighting what amounts to an emotional guerrilla war, you want to avoid frontal assaults. And as much as it might gall her to compromise her principles, she and Becky need resources.

          Besides which, she has the full support of Jocelyn. Her father is actually trying to be more accepting and seems to be succeeding to a degree. She may not be as alone.as she thinks.

  9. phildog
    phildog
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    Yeah! Bleed those bigots dry for all their worth!

  10. Some1
    Some1
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    Wait, thinking about it…would Dumbing of Age count as satire? In the same vein as something like Huckleberry Finn or The Great Gatsby?

    • rachel
      rachel
      April 8, 2016 at 12:05 am | #

      No, it’s not satire. It’s slice of life young adult fiction. Nothing is satirical or hyperbolic, if occasionally exaggerated.

      • Briny
        Briny
        April 8, 2016 at 12:58 am | #

        Pretty sure the superhero stuff, carchases etc is meant to be _little_ hyperbolic.

        • Michael Haneline
          Michael Haneline
          April 8, 2016 at 2:13 am | #

          Like the time chamber that Goku and Gohan went into?

          • Deanatay
            Deanatay
            April 8, 2016 at 9:05 am | #

            It’s an overused term.

    • Bruceski
      Bruceski
      April 8, 2016 at 12:09 am | #

      Huck Finn and Gatsby? Either you don’t know what satire means or I don’t know what satire means.

      • Bagge
        Bagge
        April 8, 2016 at 12:12 am | #

        I DO subscribe to the theory that everything ever written by Mark Twain is probably satire somehow.

        • figureaddict
          figureaddict
          April 8, 2016 at 12:16 am | #

          It was ment to be

          • Bruceski
            Bruceski
            April 8, 2016 at 2:28 am | #

            Yeah, in that moment I was focused on the slave stuff and forgot the whole rest of the book (which I WOULD call satire). Once I started remembering the thing it fit.

      • Some1
        Some1
        April 8, 2016 at 12:13 am | #

        Satire is described as introducing issues in society to scorn or ridicule.

        Huck Finn mocks slavery and racism

        Gatsby mocks rich people

        DOA mocks fundamentalism

        • Lou
          Lou
          April 8, 2016 at 12:23 am | #

          Well, sure, if you want to miss the point of 90% of each text, yeah.

        • 1234
          1234
          April 8, 2016 at 12:25 am | #

          Satire usually “pretends” to support the issue it’s ridiculing. “Pretends” is in quotes since the pretending is often intentionally unconvincing.

          For example, Colbert back when he hosted the “Colbert Report” was being satirical since he was pretending to be an extreme conservative. Just outright mocking conservatives wouldn’t be satire.

          Dumbing Of Age doesn’t “pretend” to support Christian fundamentalism. It outright criticizes certain aspects of fundamentalism. That means it isn’t satire.

        • Bruceski
          Bruceski
          April 8, 2016 at 12:27 am | #

          I donno, I think that only works if you water down “mock” to levels where pretty much anything could be a satire. Huck Finn addresses slavery, and Gatsby criticizes the idle rich, but there isn’t the element of exaggeration that’s typically in place for satire. Huck Finn’s satire is things like the people from the town he left, where “civilized” folks feud, steal, and other vices. Or how Huck and company can be just fine around murderers, but get into jams when pursiong storybook adventure hijinks.

          • Some1
            Some1
            April 8, 2016 at 12:40 am | #

            I think a lot of the problem is that definitions change over time, like no one would consider The Divine Comedy to be funny

            • maarvarq
              maarvarq
              April 8, 2016 at 2:04 am | #

              “The Divine Comedy” is a comedy in the old sense of having a happy ending – see the second and particularly third definitions in https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/comedy .

              • chiscii
                chiscii
                April 8, 2016 at 4:23 pm | #

                https://i.imgur.com/tyTc1Nl.jpg

          • Some1
            Some1
            April 8, 2016 at 12:50 am | #

            Really though, pretty much all stories are either satirical or romantic (not in the love sense, but in the literary sense)
            One Punch man is satirical

            Batman is romantic

            Star Wars is romantic

            Simpsons is satire

            Its Walky is romantic

            Shortpacked is satire

            Princess Bride manages to be both!

            Basically comedies, mockeries, and ironically romantic comedies all fall under satire. While true romances and adventure tend to fall under romance.

            I am using the broadest of terms here though.

            • Falling Star
              Falling Star
              April 8, 2016 at 9:58 am | #

              When they fall under both or aren’t either but tease at one or the other is the best part.

            • Badgermole
              Badgermole
              April 8, 2016 at 3:39 pm | #

              Are you also a Northrop Frye fan?

    • DSL
      DSL
      April 8, 2016 at 7:44 am | #

      A useful rule of thumb is to ask: “Can someone take this literally and therefore angrily miss, often comically, the point the work’s creator is attempting to make?” If yes, you’ve probably got a bit of satire on your hands.

      • Boxilar
        Boxilar
        April 8, 2016 at 6:55 pm | #

        I’m sorry, but the “rule of.thumb” scene from Boondock Saints just ran through my head.

        • DSL
          DSL
          April 8, 2016 at 9:24 pm | #

          Should I want to have any idea what you’re talking about?

        • PrincessPoeDameron
          PrincessPoeDameron
          April 9, 2016 at 12:01 am | #

          Great fucking film that has literally ruined the phrase for me cause I can only think of that scene when I hear it.

      • Leorale
        Leorale
        April 8, 2016 at 11:24 pm | #

        I think satire also includes absurd exaggerations of reality, in order to hold up those things to ridicule. DoA has picked topics that are already sufficiently crazypants without having to exaggerate them.

  11. TWAC
    TWAC
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    if joyce keeps up all this progress she might gain another sister soon! 😀

    • Orion Fury
      Orion Fury
      April 8, 2016 at 1:08 am | #

      What, she’s gonna kick Johnathan in the groin so hard he’ll become Joan?

      • fogel
        fogel
        April 8, 2016 at 5:14 am | #

        As Ramona Flowers said to Gideon Graves …

  12. JessWitt
    JessWitt
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    Vote Joss for new legal guardian.

    • AutobotDen
      AutobotDen
      April 8, 2016 at 12:04 am | #

      Seconded!

      • hueloovoo
        hueloovoo
        April 8, 2016 at 12:13 am | #

        Seconded again, let the motion proceed!

    • John
      John
      April 8, 2016 at 12:06 am | #

      Becky and Joyce are themselves legal adults.

      • JessWitt
        JessWitt
        April 8, 2016 at 12:08 am | #

        Whoops, didn’t think this through enough. Just so excited!

      • heyman
        heyman
        April 8, 2016 at 12:08 am | #

        Apparently not if Joyce still orders from the kid’s menu.

        • Opus the Poet
          Opus the Poet
          April 8, 2016 at 12:21 am | #

          Adults with tiny appetites can still order from the children’s menu.

          • Disloyal Subject
            Disloyal Subject
            April 8, 2016 at 6:28 am | #

            They can try. Some restaurants take exception.

            • Kryss LaBryn
              Kryss LaBryn
              April 8, 2016 at 7:36 am | #

              “Ten and under.” At which point you switch to the senior’s menu. Or order half portions. Or take home a doggy bag. 😀

            • Random832
              Random832
              April 8, 2016 at 10:44 am | #

              The only possible reason for them to do so is if they’re selling those items at a loss in order to get people with kids to come to their restaurant (and are expected to order overpriced appetizers and steak for the parents). So clearly this can be solved by asking to pay full price.

              • thejeff
                thejeff
                April 8, 2016 at 1:37 pm | #

                As I said in a previous strip, actual food is one of the smallest factors in the cost of providing a restaurant meal. Overhead and staffing and the like are a far larger factor and don’t vary much depending on the amount of food ordered. Yet customers, for understandable reasons don’t like paying nearly as much for the half size portions. Which is why restaurant portions tend to be so huge – food is cheap and it looks like you’re getting more for your money, even if you can’t (or shouldn’t) eat it all.

                So, while they’re not likely selling them quite at a loss, they’re probably going out of business if too many people take advantage of the cheap kids menu.

    • Slartibeast Button, BIA
      Slartibeast Button, BIA
      April 8, 2016 at 6:52 am | #

      Be a good time here for another .hack//SIGN if I still had my old avatar.

      • Slartibeast Button, BIA
        Slartibeast Button, BIA
        April 8, 2016 at 7:03 am | #

        Be a good time here for another .hack//SIGN reference if I still had my old avatar.

  13. Wheelpath
    Wheelpath
    April 8, 2016 at 12:03 am | #

    Can Jocelyne stop being the best, please?

    • butts
      butts
      April 8, 2016 at 12:12 am | #

      I don’t know, I mean, what she’s saying is certainly the practical solution (and comes directly from her own experiences), but it seems like Jocelyn’s encouraging Joyce to hide her opinions from her family, which may not be entirely healthy for her given the amount of shame and trauma she’s already repressing.

      • Tommy Fresh
        Tommy Fresh
        April 8, 2016 at 12:18 am | #

        I’d guess that the followup to this first part of the conversation though is that Joyce can think of Jocylene as someone she can talk to and express these feelings with a safe person, since clearly Joyce had no idea that Joss was someone she could go to – as far as Joyce knew, all she had was another brother that would react the same way John did, until this conversation. So, that could be a good way to help Joyce stay civil with the rest of the family but also take comfort in the one sibling she can talk to freely.

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 2:24 pm | #

          Very true. Though she promised venting. I hope she delivers to Joyce on the venting.

          It’s ironic also to think that Jocelyne also needed someone in the family to talk frustrations about the family’s stance on queer issues with and didn’t know she had that (and thus prompting Jocelyne to reveal that she also shares those stances to Joyce) until Joyce was “unwise” and blew up at John and her folks.

          Sometimes people need to do the unwise unsafe option for their emotional betterment and emotional health.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        April 8, 2016 at 6:55 am | #

        Getting pulled out of school, separated from her support network and dragged back home to be “recentered” isn’t likely to be entirely healthy for her either.
        And might well be likely to break her away from her family entirely, because she won’t recant and give up Becky, which will have very serious practical effects, as well as even more shame and trauma.
        Sometimes repression is necessary, until you can get to a safe place.
        Being open with her family is dangerous. Not nearly as dangerous as it would be for Joss, but still dangerous. Let her get back to school where she can be open with her friends.
        And get some therapy, but that’s a long shot.

      • DSL
        DSL
        April 8, 2016 at 7:47 am | #

        Consider that Willis *might not be* advocating Jocelyn’s stance as the *ideal* solution, but is depicting a very real way some people in her situtation choose to “cope” with it. Might want to give W. a chance to explore and present Jocelyn’s situation before rushing in with the instant analyohwhothehellamIkidding?

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 2:26 pm | #

          I think that’s exactly what he is doing. Showing a bit of how Jocelyne has survived and the reasons why. It’s not necessarily the best track, but given what thejeff says above, it may very well be the only one she sees open to her at the moment outside ending up on the streets.

          It’s a very bad hand that too many young queers just trying to survive their families end up dealing with.

  14. Harvey Janus
    Harvey Janus
    April 8, 2016 at 12:04 am | #

    Valid Anger must be hidden beneath the bridge that hasn’t yet been burned.

  15. rachel
    rachel
    April 8, 2016 at 12:04 am | #

    *crying forever* this is the best *still cries forever* wow

  16. Bagge
    Bagge
    April 8, 2016 at 12:04 am | #

    “Becky is family”.

    And just like that Jocelyne established herself as the bestest big sister ever.

    • Kris
      Kris
      April 8, 2016 at 12:06 am | #

      Better than sassy, baseball bat wielding, adopted, black sister!?

      • butts
        butts
        April 8, 2016 at 12:13 am | #

        Man, Joyce should just adopt sisters until bigoted fundamentalist assholes no longer control her household.

        • Shiro
          Shiro
          April 8, 2016 at 12:27 am | #

          Adopt sisters until all the sisters are adopted and Joyce is family with the entire world.

          • HMH
            HMH
            April 8, 2016 at 1:28 am | #

            I mean, I think Jesus would give that attitude a double-thumbs-up.

            • Falling Star
              Falling Star
              April 8, 2016 at 9:56 am | #

              Because obviously having a bunch of brothers the first time wasn’t working out.

            • Dana
              Dana
              April 8, 2016 at 1:06 pm | #

              Now I’m picturing Buddy Christ.

          • Disloyal Subject
            Disloyal Subject
            April 8, 2016 at 6:29 am | #

            Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.

            • Deanatay
              Deanatay
              April 8, 2016 at 9:23 am | #

              as-sister-lated.

      • Spidergirl
        Spidergirl
        April 8, 2016 at 12:14 am | #

        You’re right, it’s a tie.

      • Bagge
        Bagge
        April 8, 2016 at 12:15 am | #

        Oooooh, that is a tough competition.

        Tell you what, there can’t be too many bestest big sisters ever.

      • WubLub
        WubLub
        April 8, 2016 at 6:13 am | #

        They can be Best Sister Tag-Team. Sarah does the tough love, “I pretend I don’t like you but I’ll beat a guy with a bat for you” thing, and Jocelyne takes care of the loving supportive advice without prefacing it with, “Ugh, you freshmen and your drama. I’m only helping you so you’ll stop crying and I can do my homework.”

    • Trolldrool
      Trolldrool
      April 8, 2016 at 3:24 am | #

      To be honest, I always thought Becky was already regarded as family by the Browns. Both Joyce and Hank have given that impression. At the very least before they began taking sides on whether or not Ross’ actions were justified.

      • Bagge
        Bagge
        April 8, 2016 at 3:45 am | #

        I think so too… and when she came out as a lesbian her status as a family member was retroactively removed.

        As betrayals goes that is almost as large as this
        http://www.dumbingofage.com/2015/comic/book-6/01-to-those-whod-ground-me/disagreement/

        • Falling Star
          Falling Star
          April 8, 2016 at 9:55 am | #

          …Almost.

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 2:29 pm | #

          Yup.

  17. Carolyn
    Carolyn
    April 8, 2016 at 12:04 am | #

    I knew these two would get along.

  18. Kris
    Kris
    April 8, 2016 at 12:04 am | #

    Can one sibling make up for the general assholeishness of about 45% of the rest?…..Maybe. Probably. Definitely!

  19. Jay Eff
    Jay Eff
    April 8, 2016 at 12:05 am | #

    Becky’s new theme song

  20. Rodimiss
    Rodimiss
    April 8, 2016 at 12:05 am | #

    This really hurts, knowing what we know that Joyce doesn’t, that Joss is speaking from harsh experience, here. She can’t afford to cut herself off entirely, and she knows Joyce and Becky can’t either, so she has to council them to do the same.

  21. Leorale
    Leorale
    April 8, 2016 at 12:05 am | #

    Jocelyne is the smartest of age.

    • inqntrol
      inqntrol
      April 8, 2016 at 12:07 am | #

      I totally agree with you on that.

    • Luzahn
      Luzahn
      April 8, 2016 at 12:10 am | #

      I’m a bit uncertain, this could turn out to be “bad advice from a person just as scared as you are.”

      Jocelyne’s been hiding from her family since she was little, it’s not hard to expect that to be her default advice.

      • butts
        butts
        April 8, 2016 at 12:14 am | #

        Yeah, I’m worried about the negative consequences advice like this could have for Joyce. I mean, it might be the only practical thing to do since causing her family to cut ties would be a heck of a lot worse, but she’s already repressing so much crap.

      • transgressingwaffle
        transgressingwaffle
        April 8, 2016 at 12:17 am | #

        Screw Negative consequences. What could possibly go wrong?

        • butts
          butts
          April 8, 2016 at 12:18 am | #

          Well, as a very wise (and hot) man once said, she could “snap and suck like a billion dicks.”

        • Orion Fury
          Orion Fury
          April 8, 2016 at 1:10 am | #

          Well she doesn’t have money…

        • HMH
          HMH
          April 8, 2016 at 1:30 am | #

          She would lose her education. She would lose her autonomy. She would lose all her new friends and family. Those are just the conservative consequences. They range from those very guaranteed ones, all the way up to and including *her family murdering her to preserve their honour and the local community covering it up.* Some things could go a little bit wrong here.

          • HMH
            HMH
            April 8, 2016 at 1:31 am | #

            Ugh, I used reddit’s doofy code instead of proper html tags and now I look like a total dunce, lmao

            • Random832
              Random832
              April 8, 2016 at 10:48 pm | #

              At least “reddit’s doofy code” [i]looks[/i] like something someone might use in a pure-plaintext medium. No-one would have even noticed, probably. [i]I[/i], on the other hand have no excuse when I do [i]this[/i].

          • butts
            butts
            April 8, 2016 at 1:40 am | #

            I mean, the ‘negative consequences’ she was referring to were the negative consequences of NOT doing all that, but yes, that’s why I said it might be the only practical solution.

          • Emily
            Emily
            April 8, 2016 at 5:24 am | #

            With Hank’s currently expressed support of Joyce I don’t think any of those are at all likely. Unless he’s full of shit about respecting her right to make decisions for herself I really don’t see him allowing her to be pulled out of school or quashing that selfsame autonomy.

            • Disloyal Subject
              Disloyal Subject
              April 8, 2016 at 6:36 am | #

              It could get ugly, though. I believe Protestants allow divorce, but the local community might still frown heavily on it and blame Joyce for ‘allowing Becky to corrupt her’ and ‘luring’ her fine, upstanding father from the path of righteousness, shunning (or worse) Becky and the blue-eyed Browns.

              • Leorale
                Leorale
                April 8, 2016 at 11:31 pm | #

                Becky and the Blue-eyed Browns is my new square dance jug band.

            • yomi
              yomi
              April 8, 2016 at 6:48 am | #

              Still, I guess it would be a good idea to explain things to him calmly and slowly, so that he is more likely to listen and to adapt bit by bit.

            • Luzahn
              Luzahn
              April 8, 2016 at 10:30 am | #

              That’s a point. Use this fundamentalist patriarchal stuff against them, for once.

              That said, I don’t really trust Hank yet. He’s not a total jerk, but he’s still ambiguously pretty jerky.

        • Deanatay
          Deanatay
          April 8, 2016 at 9:24 am | #

          *wince* This is a work of FICTION!

          WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT???

        • Falling Star
          Falling Star
          April 8, 2016 at 9:54 am | #

          Everything.

  22. SmilingNid
    SmilingNid
    April 8, 2016 at 12:06 am | #

    And that would be why she stayed.

  23. Just Me
    Just Me
    April 8, 2016 at 12:06 am | #

    I have no idea what she said, but I get the jist. Family is what you what it to be, as well as what you were born into to.

    I’m sure Joyce and Jocelyn’s Dad can get used to this, but it’s going to be a hard sell to the other two.

  24. Kit
    Kit
    April 8, 2016 at 12:07 am | #

    Talk less, smile more…

    • caesaria82
      caesaria82
      April 8, 2016 at 12:10 am | #

      Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for~

      (does that make Jocelyne Aaron Burr, this is worrying xD)

      • Spidergirl
        Spidergirl
        April 8, 2016 at 12:16 am | #

        As long as she doesn’t shoot Alexander Hamilton, we’re good.

        • caesaria82
          caesaria82
          April 8, 2016 at 12:19 am | #

          I think the closest she’ll get to old A.Ham is finally spending that ten bucks on those chicken fingers 😉

          • Falling Star
            Falling Star
            April 8, 2016 at 9:53 am | #

            Why?

            • DinaWho
              DinaWho
              April 8, 2016 at 10:12 am | #

              I’m assuming because Hamilton is on the $10 bill.

    • PrincessPoeDameron
      PrincessPoeDameron
      April 8, 2016 at 12:13 am | #

      Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for

    • butts
      butts
      April 8, 2016 at 12:20 am | #

      Man, like, I know that’s a Hamilton quote, but that sounds exactly like something that would come out of a fundie’s mouth.

      • hof1991
        hof1991
        April 8, 2016 at 9:32 am | #

        It’s a quote from Hamilton the musical, but it is first spoken by Burr as a rebuke to Hamilton. Hamilton himself is always speaking up, which gets him shot.

        Hamilton does use it in the play, but is smirking as he says it.

    • Whammy
      Whammy
      April 8, 2016 at 12:23 am | #

      Using my first comment ever on Dumbing of Age to simply commend this comment. I’d also curse it for making Hamilton stuck in my head but honestly I can’t think of a time since September that it hasn’t…

    • poofdepoof
      poofdepoof
      April 8, 2016 at 12:32 am | #

      Literally first heard Hamilton’s music two nights ago and am currently obsessed… how do you know me o.O

      • caesaria82
        caesaria82
        April 8, 2016 at 12:39 am | #

        It’s because we were all you at one point 😉 Welcome to the club! Have you done the Hamilton starter kit? (watched all the Ham4Hams, followed LMM on twitter, done Schuyler Sisters choreo in front of a mirror? xD)

      • butts
        butts
        April 8, 2016 at 1:01 am | #

        you and the whole goddamn world, seriously this shit is bigger than book of mormon was

      • StClair
        StClair
        April 8, 2016 at 4:47 am | #

        Having not heard any of that production, I instead thought of a predecessor:

        Never make a promise or plan
        Take a little love where you can
        Nobody’s on nobody’s side

        • Regalli
          Regalli
          April 8, 2016 at 12:51 pm | #

          Never be the first to believe,
          Never be the last to deceive.
          Nobody’s on nobody’s side.

  25. hauntu4ever
    hauntu4ever
    April 8, 2016 at 12:07 am | #

    So Becky is a Brown now. That makes her the only ginger in the family. Harry Potter was the only non-ginger in the Weasley family. So does that make the Browns the nega-Weasleys?

    • ChrisHerself
      ChrisHerself
      April 8, 2016 at 12:25 am | #

      Ginger Brown sounds like an old-timey malt shoppe specialty. “I’ll have a rhubarb phosphate, and a ginger brown for the lady please.”

    • Opus the Poet
      Opus the Poet
      April 8, 2016 at 12:26 am | #

      The Weasleys were about love and staying together against the world, while the Browns are about being “better”(?) than the world. So anti-Weasleys rather than nega-Weasleys.

  26. caesaria82
    caesaria82
    April 8, 2016 at 12:07 am | #

    Last panel is so cute and so sisterly, I can’t even deal.

  27. TSB
    TSB
    April 8, 2016 at 12:07 am | #

    This strip and yesterday’s are lovely. I’m so, so happy for Becky that she now has a trusted adult in her life who understands what she’s going through and can mentor her about stuff like this. I’m so happy for Joyce and Jocelyne both having an ally in the family and that Jocelyne is teaching Joyce about how to be a good ally in the personal and political sense – validating her anger while gently reminding her that helping Becky is the number one goal. Jocelyne is best older sister.

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 2:34 pm | #

      So agree with that. I don’t know about Jocelyne’s advice to Joyce, but her role as mentor to Becky is the best thing that could ever happen to Becky short of being given a free house.

      Jocelyne is careful, a writer, and clearly does her research given her checklist of questions she tried to do earlier when John was there.

      She knows exactly what Becky needs to do to get back on her feet, because she’s probably been running through paranoid checklists of what she would do if she ever snapped and told her parents the truth about her.

      And so, she’s perfectly poised to help Becky through some of the practical adult stuff that she’s been a bit stuck on. I’m looking hella forward to the Jocelyne-Becky team-ups that are about to follow.

  28. Luzahn
    Luzahn
    April 8, 2016 at 12:08 am | #

    Shame that Jocelyne’s probably got a point here. If we had a better social safety net the other Browns could go to hell, but emotional distress might be preferable to economic distress. Maybe.

    • Just Me
      Just Me
      April 8, 2016 at 12:11 am | #

      Someone has to help Joyce pay fro College. Once she is ready to be out on her own, she can then decide how much separation she desires from the rest of her family.

      Becky too, it’s going to be hard enough for her as is.

      • Luzahn
        Luzahn
        April 8, 2016 at 12:14 am | #

        I guess my thought is that loans are always possible, and I could see emotional distress possibly causing more damage than those.

        Also the value of martyrs and that sort of thing, thought that’s a cold comfort.

        • HMH
          HMH
          April 8, 2016 at 1:34 am | #

          Loans are pretty hard to come by when Joyce’s mom could easily put her in the exact same situation that Becky is currently in. Not to mention, even if she tried to go over her mom’s head, Lord knows that none of the local administrators of her town would be willing to help her, either. She’d probably end up homeless.

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 2:38 pm | #

          The “value of martyrs” part of this resonates strongly for me. I’m so grateful for the martyrs that went before me and had just utterly brutal lives so as to make it safe enough to be out as much as I can be. And I hope I can do some of the same for the next generation.

    • heyman
      heyman
      April 8, 2016 at 12:14 am | #

      Social safety net? Joyce doesn’t need it. Need and luxury differ.

      • Clif
        Clif
        April 8, 2016 at 8:33 am | #

        Um. Not sure what you’re saying. You could be saying that Joyce doesn’t need college, and that may be technically true in that she could survive without it, but that doesn’t make it a good option.

        • heyman
          heyman
          April 9, 2016 at 1:21 am | #

          Family is the best source for a lot of problems. Your folks can afford to send you to college? Either let them and smile and say thank you, or refuse. But if you don’t want your family to support you, don’t expect the gummint to.

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 2:36 pm | #

      Too true. And I think that’s part of why there’s such strong support, especially among fundamentalists, of a weak social safety net. Because if people could easily survive without family, they’re more likely to stand against their family’s views when they don’t share it. But it’s a tough thing to come out or speak out about your family’s racism or sexism if you know you could lose a potential home if everything goes pear-shaped.

      • thejeff
        thejeff
        April 8, 2016 at 5:00 pm | #

        That’s something I’d never considered, but there’s likely truth in it.

        I’d always seen it the other way around: The wealthy owners and businessmen who want the safety net cut because they don’t want to pay for it use the “values” issues to get the Christian right to support them against their own economic interests. It may be more of a symbiotic relationship than a parasitic one, as I’d thought.

  29. transgressingwaffle
    transgressingwaffle
    April 8, 2016 at 12:10 am | #

    Where is the other shoe. It’s about time for it to drop and this makes me nervous. Also I love Jocelyne!!! It almost seems like her and Becky have the same levels of sass.

    • butts
      butts
      April 8, 2016 at 12:21 am | #

      the other shoe is when john nearly gets hit by a truck on the highway, but ruth comes right the fuck out of nowhere and sacrifices herself to save his life

      • Regalli
        Regalli
        April 8, 2016 at 12:42 am | #

        Why? He probably hasn’t been drinking to prompt her Sudden Guilty Self-Sacrifice Sense.

        • butts
          butts
          April 8, 2016 at 1:02 am | #

          Ah, but you see, that’s his secret. He’s always drunk.

          • HMH
            HMH
            April 8, 2016 at 1:36 am | #

            Drunk on his RIGHTEOUS LOVE for the LORD

            …and also, really expensive liquor, because 100 year old scotch technically counts as communion as long as you put it on the church credit card.

            • butts
              butts
              April 8, 2016 at 1:42 am | #

              Seriously. Fuck the prosperity doctrine, and fuck John’s self-righteous, hypocritical face.

              • Regalli
                Regalli
                April 8, 2016 at 12:50 pm | #

                Fuck it with a goddamn cactus.

  30. GoogerGeiger
    GoogerGeiger
    April 8, 2016 at 12:10 am | #

    It’s about time someone provided Joyce with some solid advice.

  31. heyman
    heyman
    April 8, 2016 at 12:11 am | #

    Not all writers live in Ramentown. Even some webcomicers.
    One posted a comic about how awesome his Model S was. I’m not contributing to his Patreon!

    • Cholma
      Cholma
      April 8, 2016 at 12:16 am | #

      No no, you misunderstood. Señor Willis said he had a “Model T”, not “S”. Totally different thing. His car comes with an engine crank in the front!

      • Solenoid
        Solenoid
        April 8, 2016 at 2:00 am | #

        Isn’t heyman talking about The Oatmeal with the Model S thing?

        • Cholma
          Cholma
          April 8, 2016 at 2:15 am | #

          No idea. (I was making one of my Lame Jokes by Cho™ (patent pending))

        • heyman
          heyman
          April 9, 2016 at 1:23 am | #

          Yep!
          I can afford a Model S- if I live in it.

    • Needfuldoer
      Needfuldoer
      April 8, 2016 at 3:32 am | #

      Does The Oatmeal even have a Patreon? Their only crowdfunding I know of was the campaign to build a Nikola Tesla museum, and when Elon Musk saw that Model S comic he donated a million dollars and pledged to build Superchargers on-site.

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 2:41 pm | #

      Uh, you do realize that Patreon is more about being an audience controlled version of an artist or writer’s salary, right? A way for fans of the work to pay money to encourage work they like showing up in their free entertainment?

      It’s not actually supposed to be the beggar’s bowl at their feet, so they can literally survive (but too often it is).

      • heyman
        heyman
        April 10, 2016 at 12:22 am | #

        So how’s the weather up there?
        (atop that high horse of yours)

  32. modulusshift
    modulusshift
    April 8, 2016 at 12:12 am | #

    Jocelyn is so awesomely playful, she’s gotten entirely past Joyce’s sort of semi serious “I’m an adult” thing she’s got going on. Of course Joyce has been under tons of stress recently, though. Great sister, though.

  33. newllend(henryvolt)
    newllend(henryvolt)
    April 8, 2016 at 12:12 am | #

    Yes get mad, get fucking pissed, let the rage of uh wherever you’re from drive your….words?

  34. BatNeko
    BatNeko
    April 8, 2016 at 12:13 am | #

    Dang, someone else quoted the song before me!

  35. Nerd Herder
    Nerd Herder
    April 8, 2016 at 12:15 am | #

    Yeah, I’ve been Jocelyne in this situation. Felt like Joyce about it, too. It’s incredibly frustrating to have to hide how you feel from parents. But while they were financially supporting me (at least partially) through college, I had to bite my tongue.

    Actually, they still don’t know I’m no longer a Christian. I keep trying to pass along subtle hints so it’s not a big deal when that shoe drops, but they keep not seeing it.

  36. gqbrielle
    gqbrielle
    April 8, 2016 at 12:15 am | #

    ‘new little sister’ awwww

    • Bagge
      Bagge
      April 8, 2016 at 12:23 am | #

      Awwwwwwww

      • Falling Star
        Falling Star
        April 8, 2016 at 9:51 am | #

        Awwwwwwww

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 2:44 pm | #

      I know! Go Jocelyne!

    • Jhon
      Jhon
      April 8, 2016 at 8:33 pm | #

      New Sister! Low five!

  37. Tacos
    Tacos
    April 8, 2016 at 12:15 am | #

    I’m a bit embarrassed to admit how long it took me to figure out what Joss said in that last panel.

  38. Rukduk
    Rukduk
    April 8, 2016 at 12:16 am | #

    Aww, this is so sweet of Joss in that last panel. I think I’m feeling too happy as a result.

  39. ChrisHerself
    ChrisHerself
    April 8, 2016 at 12:16 am | #

    EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

  40. hueloovoo
    hueloovoo
    April 8, 2016 at 12:17 am | #

    *tries to speak, fails, instead melts into a puddle of pure love for Jocelyne*

  41. Tomas
    Tomas
    April 8, 2016 at 12:17 am | #

    Let it go, Joyce. It’s Ramentown.

  42. Wolf
    Wolf
    April 8, 2016 at 12:17 am | #

    Dumbing of Triangle: DAY 23

    • Amazi-Girl impersonator
      Amazi-Girl impersonator
      April 8, 2016 at 1:08 am | #

      Here’s some more fake superheroes:

      http://imgur.com/a/Z4bbe

      • Jacket
        Jacket
        April 8, 2016 at 1:09 am | #

        They’re more real than you.

        • Falling Star
          Falling Star
          April 8, 2016 at 7:58 am | #

          OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
          [jk i ain’t about that hype]

  43. Meg
    Meg
    April 8, 2016 at 12:20 am | #

    I’m loving how much Joss is giving Joyce and Becky a handhold, something stable to hold on to… they don’t know how much she also needs them, and how much hope they give her, too. Augh, I love them all!

  44. Kole
    Kole
    April 8, 2016 at 12:21 am | #

    I’m actually really relieved by this page tonight.

    Something that’s really REALLY been rubbing me the wrong way is how Joyce is having all this ally rage when the truly hurt party is Becky. I mean, sure, she got caught up in it but we have to remember that’s a plot device that was decided on by another (well meaning) ally (Willis, love you man and sorry about all the plot critique I’ve had as of late).

    Like for all the naysaying I’ve had about how the trans/gay characters who are actually hurt by something get kinda shoved to the wayside so we can focus on someone else (Ruth, Joyce) again has made me really uncomfortable. Like, I’m always hearing how hard my existence is as a trans guy to everyone around me. Even if it’s well meaning difficulty, it’s just… annoying, cus they’re not the one ACTUALLY going through it.

    So hearing Jocelynn say this and put Joyce in her place is a breath of fresh air and a big “FINALLY” moment for me. I hope we see more of this level headed sister.

    • Aletheia
      Aletheia
      April 8, 2016 at 12:27 am | #

      See, that’s the thing. I understand where you’re coming from, and it’s a very reasonable thing to critique, but sometimes authors (like Willis, who seems to do a good job about things like this) do things like this (putting a straight ally in the limelight when she shouldn’t be) for a reason (in this case, being called out on it, as she should be). Pacing of comic strips make it difficult to have that reason be evident at first, which means we as readers had to wait weeks/months (maybe?) for the calling out to happen, but… yeah. Willis has to balance story and pacing, and sometimes that balance isn’t always evident.

      (Also, I know what you’re trying to say re: “about how the trans/gay characters who are actually hurt by something get kinda shoved to the wayside so we can focus on someone else (Ruth…)”, but remember, Ruth is gay, too, and is being punished by Mary too. Not to the extent Carla is, but that’s still there.)

      • Regalli
        Regalli
        April 8, 2016 at 12:40 am | #

        Ruth’s bi, actually. But yeah, also being blackmailed by Mary, and in fact I suspect Carla’s actually Mary’s secondary target* since Ruth has power Mary wants and Carla does not.

        * At the moment. If Mary actually got RA power, Carla would probably be at or near top of the list of People Who Would Suffer Greatly, but fortunately that’s currently a hypothetical.

        • HMH
          HMH
          April 8, 2016 at 1:39 am | #

          I mean, if Mary was R.A., she’d get half her floor expelled within a month, and be really smug about it as if it were completely justified.

          • Regalli
            Regalli
            April 8, 2016 at 12:49 pm | #

            Just half? Probably at LEAST two-thirds.

            • Cerberus
              Cerberus
              April 8, 2016 at 2:48 pm | #

              Final comic of the strip, RA Mary in the middle of an empty dorm floor, having gotten everyone expelled, laughing maniacally. (cue soft scrape of roller blade wheels on carpet)

              • fogel
                fogel
                April 9, 2016 at 12:35 am | #

                THEN Mary pulls off her face to reveal SYDNEY YUSS.

        • Aletheia
          Aletheia
          April 8, 2016 at 11:25 am | #

          Not doubting you necessarily, but is she bi? I can’t remember her being interested in guys at all or saying she’s bi, though I could’ve missed something from Willis stating otherwise. I know Billy’s bi, though.

          • Regalli
            Regalli
            April 8, 2016 at 12:48 pm | #

            The scene with Howard where she says it’s all complicated is the closest thing to in-universe confirmation here, but Word of Willis, the Walkyverse, and the fact that she was in the Bi Day banner with Billie and Danny all establish it. It’s mostly secondary though don’t blame you for missing it.

            • Aletheia
              Aletheia
              April 8, 2016 at 9:24 pm | #

              Ahhh… see, I took the “it’s all complicated” line to mean the complications that came from Billy being a student under her RA watch (and thus a very big no-no if anyone found out, you know?). That does make sense, though, especially with the banner (which I actually just saw ’cause someone linked it below, hah), since I’m not too knowledgeable on the Walkyverse* outside of Shortpacked!. Thank you for the explanation!

              (*Basically what I know about it is that most of the characters here are from there in some way, there’s aliens, and most of them have superpowers from the aliens that they use to fight said aliens? And a lot of people die? Ruth being one of them, it seems… Also memes. So many memes. XD;; )

            • thejeff
              thejeff
              April 8, 2016 at 10:03 pm | #

              There was also I had a boyfriend once, back in Canada. So hints, but nowhere near enough to establish it in universe.

              We know based on Word of God and that’s about it.

          • Gamaran Sepudomyn
            Gamaran Sepudomyn
            April 8, 2016 at 12:50 pm | #

            Canadian boyfriend.

          • Spencer
            Spencer
            April 8, 2016 at 2:07 pm | #

            On a note tangential to your post, I feel it’s limiting to insist that bi characters must always be shown to display attraction to both sexes, since we end up at a point where bisexuality is something that “needs” to be proven.

            It’s an easy way, of course, and there’s certainly nothing inherently wrong with it, but it often manifests as bisexuality being implicitly linked with promiscuity.

            • thejeff
              thejeff
              April 8, 2016 at 5:03 pm | #

              OTOH, the basic storytelling principle of “Show, Don’t Tell” pushes in that direction and that’s usually a good thing.

              Of course, there are ways to show attraction to both sexes without having multiple relationships or partners.

              • Spencer
                Spencer
                April 8, 2016 at 5:18 pm | #

                Sure, but then it comes to the point where bi characters have to be written in a specific way to actually count. The years long confusion over Ruth’s sexuality, that she must be gay (and not pan, or bi, or demi, or any other less represented sexuality) because we’ve only ever seen her attracted to a woman, and if she were really bi we’d see her express an interest in all those guys she literally never has any panel time with. Mandy, Grace, Sierra and Marcie are also characters who get this, specifically because we’ve only ever seen them with other women. Another issue with this is that it puts a timer on the relationships of bi characters (usually in opposite gender relationships), that, since they’re bi, we need to see them boink someone of the same gender because otherwise we “don’t really know.”

                Like, I think it’s pretty likely that, say, Walky/Dorothy lasts the entirety of the comic, but if it eventually came out that Walky was bi out of comic like how we know Ruth is bi, but then he never acted on it because he was forever with Dorothy, we’d still get an onslaught of “I thought Walky was straight” comments.

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  April 8, 2016 at 7:40 pm | #

                  Well, yeah. That’s because “Show, don’t tell” works. We process things we actually see play out much more strongly than things we’re only told. Particularly if the existing relationship keeps getting referenced and the bisexuality doesn’t.
                  That’s not prejudice. That’s just how people work.
                  But you don’t have to actually have them boink people of different genders, but you do actually have to show the attraction somehow. They can comment on it. They can flirt. They can deal with past relationships.
                  A simple statement once early on or in a character bio doesn’t register the same way. When was the last time Ruth being bi came up? Not in the comments, in the actual strip. Why are you surprised people don’t know it.
                  OTOH, Danny actually has plotlines dealing with it and people remember.

                  We get “I had no idea Jocelyne was trans” comments. Because it was shown once in the comic, subtly. Even though it’s all over the comments, a lot of people missed it or forgot.
                  If it’s just out of comic info, of course we’d get comments on it.
                  The only reason we know Mandy, Grace, Sierra and Marcie are bi is because they were in the all-girl squad in It’s Walky that was basically a “Lucky Joe gets put in with the lesbians who are really all bi” joke, right? It hasn’t come up at all in this actual comic. But somehow it’s a problem that people don’t realize this?
                  Have we actually seen Sierra in any kind of romance or anything in DoA? I’d expect most readers to assume she was straight by default.

                • Spencer
                  Spencer
                  April 8, 2016 at 7:50 pm | #

                  And that’s the problem; that we’re in a point where unless a characters “acts” bi enough, then we don’t know they’re bi. That straightness is assumed because we treat straight as the norm, and that every single expression of same sex attraction must mean that they’re gay because alternative sexualities don’t exist.

                  And, yes, it’s a problem, because erasure fundamentally is a problem.

                • thejeff
                  thejeff
                  April 8, 2016 at 8:05 pm | #

                  I guess. Sort of.

                  When there isn’t evidence, you make assumptions. That’s what people do. And generally, you base those on probabilities. As long as you’re open to admitting you were wrong.
                  Do we need to assume that every character everywhere actually is bi, unless we’ve been explicitly told by word of god that they’re not?

                  I get that bi erasure is a problem. I’m just not real sure that forgetting minimal mentions from years back (and in some cases from other works entirely) is a symptom of it.

                • Spencer
                  Spencer
                  April 8, 2016 at 8:12 pm | #

                  Yes and that’s why correcting erasure is important.

                  And it’s not about assuming every character is bi, it’s looking at specific situations and deciding that, because they fit someone’s preconceived notions, that they definitely aren’t.

            • Aletheia
              Aletheia
              April 8, 2016 at 9:18 pm | #

              Nah, I know that 🙂 It’s just that she hasn’t said she’s bi (or hinted at it, or anything like that), and short of that happening, the only other way I can think of to get in-universe confirmation is to show she’s been interested in guys before and/or isn’t unattracted to them?

              I’m a little confused about how that automatically leads to the bi person being promiscuous, though. I know a lot of writers fall into that trap, and a lot of fans do as well, but (for example) bi people are allowed to think people they aren’t dating are hot/attractive, too. That doesn’t mean they’re automatically promiscuous, or that their relationship will end, or that they would (or had) jump the bones of someone if gosh-darn-it they weren’t attached. 😛 And this isn’t a point that they have to act “bi enough” – though I can see how it would come across as that way in the hands of a lesser writer – it’s more giving them the same opportunities as other characters. We’ve learnt about Dorothy’s past relationship, Danny’s problem with crushing on one girl while dating another, Joe’s and Roz’s escapades, Sarah’s crushes, etc. In this case, Ruth is probably a bad example, since depression does a number on things like this, but… yeah.

              And one could argue that Billy’s flipped the “promiscuous” trope on its head in this comic; people whisper about how much she got around before (though it sounds as if that wasn’t the case), but we as readers see her as being loyal to Ruth even though we know she finds guys attractive too, you know? (And Danny’s on the way to doing that, too; he’s still loyal to Amber/Amazi-Girl, even with being attracted to Ethan, you know? The cracks that’re starting to show in his relationship aren’t due to his sexuality, but rather Amber’s unresolved issues, which is a whole other can of worms. :P)

              • Spencer
                Spencer
                April 8, 2016 at 9:41 pm | #

                It’s not a matter of it automatically leading to that trope (and indeed, to reiterate; promiscuity isn’t this inherently awful evil thing that a bi character can never ever ever do, but more that it’s a common stereotype), it’s that it’s pretty much something that just gets automatically assigned to bi characters because it’s an easy way to show that said character is attracted to either gender. It’s just another box used for bi characters that I resent because it’s one of like maybe five or six bisexual plots out there and I’d like to see other ones. And as for how we just want to jump everyone’s bones if we weren’t bound in a relationship, or how our relationships need to end so we can enter a different one to really “count”, well, that’s Typical Bisexual Plots #3 and #4, right after “inherently incapable of faithfulness” and “wants to bang everything all the time.”

                As for Ruth, I guess I could say, like, she hasn’t indicated she’s not into dudes? She was confused about her attraction to Billie and she used to have a boyfriend, but those could still, on their own, indicate that Ruth was never interested in guys, or still is. It’s just that we know that she is attracted to both per Word of Willis. I feel that we’re at a point where it should be okay to have bi characters who don’t need to be empirically shown to be bi; that we don’t need to assume that the only reason they’re expressing same sex attraction is because they’re gay and that’s the only way for it to manifest. Admittedly that leads to the problem of assuming that these bi/pan/demi characters are gay, but I feel like occasionally chiming in and correcting some assumptions is a small price to pay for having more varied bisexual characters and stories.

          • Amazi-Stool
            Amazi-Stool
            April 8, 2016 at 2:52 pm | #

            As it is also a wonderful foreshadowing i explicitly link the bi-visibility-day banner Regalli mentioned.

            This banner predates the day we learn Danny is bi by almost a year.

            Originally one could assume Billie’s the only person on the banner which is bisexual.
            The reveal that Danny is bi makes it clear all characters on the banner are bi.

      • Cerberus
        Cerberus
        April 8, 2016 at 2:54 pm | #

        Yeah, I think another problem that is causing a lot of the focus to fall on the reflected trauma is that Joyce and Ruth wear a lot of themselves on their sleeves. Ruth, admittedly when in private in her room, but Joyce, everywhere.

        And Becky, Jocelyne, and Carla very much don’t and instead internalize it a lot until moments where their armor is all the way melted through and even then rarely. As such, we’re not going to see a scene where Becky stews about it out of her head or Carla curses to herself about Mary, because both are trying to play like they’re totally cool and nothing can knock them down.

        Hell, we’re seeing that with Sal too. She bottles a lot of her feelings about her mom and her mom’s racism up, so with the cookie storyline, we ended up spending the majority of it with Billie and Walky and their reactions to it, because they were the ones displaying the impact of it.

        But yeah, I can definitely see it being somewhat annoying to Kole and I can definitely empathize as that part does sit a little awkwardly for me as well given how much I’ve twisted my life up out of guilt for those who’ve experienced reflected trauma from me being treated awfully and I’ve had a number of experiences where people straight up told me that we couldn’t discuss or process something awful that happened to me, and instead it was expected that I comfort them for how scared they were for me instead.

        • Fish
          Fish
          April 8, 2016 at 4:16 pm | #

          yeah… I’ve been liking this particular aspect of the writing because its felt so true to me. Sure, the directly impacted parties are quieter. ‘Cause when Sal tells Walky how it is, she gets rejection. And she knows she’ll get rejection. When you’re hurt enough, its just easier to hunker down and avoid the risk of more pain.

          • Cerberus
            Cerberus
            April 8, 2016 at 9:55 pm | #

            I agree. A lot of my friends do the the same thing, pulling in on a lot of stuff, especially among people who are more normative because their experiences about talking about stuff often involves being victim blamed for their experiences.

    • Shiro
      Shiro
      April 8, 2016 at 12:30 am | #

      Ehh…in this case, Joyce is a hurt party as well because her family is actively trying to subjugate her by any means necessary, including cutting off contact with the outside world. There can be more than one hurt party.

      • fogel
        fogel
        April 8, 2016 at 7:58 am | #

        Not to mention the specific things which happened to her, Joyce’s entire world view and identity are … she’s always believed that she and her family are they goodguys, now she’s realizing that they’re the baddies
        https://youtu.be/hn1VxaMEjRU

    • syd
      syd
      April 8, 2016 at 12:47 am | #

      If you think this is “ally rage” you haven’t been understanding Joyce’s motivations for being pissed off

      And while you’re right and Joss is as well that it’s important to remember Becky’s the one actually getting the brunt of the bullshit stick

      She is more than entitled to her best friend protective rage at the shitty parts of her family

      • Emily
        Emily
        April 8, 2016 at 5:27 am | #

        Seriously this isn’t like principled rage about the general treatment of queer people this is very personal rage about the treatment of her best friend and also herself.

    • StClair
      StClair
      April 8, 2016 at 5:04 am | #

      (If it needs to be said, all of the following should be taken with a hearty helping of IMO:)

      Becky’s not a main character. She’s supporting cast.
      (Sure, in RL she’d be the center of her own story, but this isn’t RL.)
      Joyce is.
      (Heck, given the semi-autobio nature of the strip, a case can be made that she’s the main character.)

      This has nothing to do with the depth or validity of her suffering, her worth as a person, or any of that. (That goes double for people who happen to share some of her qualities in real life.) It just is.
      This is Joyce’s story, the focus is on her, and Becky’s narrative role is to be part of that story.

      • Spencer
        Spencer
        April 8, 2016 at 2:08 pm | #

        I mean, I think Becky’s pretty main character at this point. Heck, I’d even argue she’s supplanted Dorothy as the deuteragonist of the series.

        2015 was basically an entire year of Becky.

        • Slartibeast Button, BIA
          Slartibeast Button, BIA
          April 8, 2016 at 2:42 pm | #

          Now I want to make up a “DoA Zodiac” placemat like the ones in Chinese restaurants.

          2010 – Year of Danny
          2011 – Year of Dorothy
          2012 – Year of Amber
          2013 – Year of I got tired of skimming the archive for confirmation bias of who showed up a lot.
          2014 – Year of I am too lazy to hack the tag database and make up a Powerpoint presentation
          2015 – Year of Becky
          2016 – Year of Jocelyne (we hope)

          (I have too much spare time, don’t I?)

          • Spencer
            Spencer
            April 8, 2016 at 2:47 pm | #

            I feel like Year of Ruth/Billie would work for 2013 as that’s when we started to delve into their character more, and likewise for 2014 with Danny where he received significant focus, grew a lot, spent time away from Amber, and discovered his bisexuality.

    • yomi
      yomi
      April 8, 2016 at 7:05 am | #

      I don’t know, I mostly saw it as Joyce being angry about the injustice happening to Becky, the injustice happening to herself came just on top of that. So what exactly is wrong about her being angry about people being jerks and worse towards Becky, except it being not the most helpful thing for Becky, who needs a calm ally more than an angry ally?

    • trlkly
      trlkly
      April 8, 2016 at 7:35 am | #

      Joss did not put anyone in her place. That’s what John was doing. Joss specifically told her that it was okay to be angry. She spoke with her reasonably. She did not show contempt for her.

      Just because you identify with what Becky is going through doesn’t mean you need to belittle what Joyce is going through. Again, that’s what John was doing, and it is what made him an asshole.

      What Joss is doing here is the right thing. She is talking with her and giving her advice, not acting like some jerk who put her in her place. The whole point is that Joyce doesn’t have a place.

      • Spencer
        Spencer
        April 8, 2016 at 2:17 pm | #

        It’s not a matter of belittling Joyce, it’s that Kole feels that, to a degree, Becky’s issues are being used to prop up Joyce’s story.

        Which, I really disagree with, as Joyce is the main character of the series so she kind of has to have top billing and I feel that Becky has also been given tons of focus in the series to develop her beyond just being Joyce’s gay BFF, but even if I really like the dynamic these two have, it doesn’t change the fact that fiction almost always focuses on allies and how sad they are that their cardboard cut outs are being operatically abused. That I don’t think it’s not happening in this case does not suddenly mean it’s stopped everywhere, or that Kole doesn’t deserve to feel the way he does.

        Also please don’t implicit Kole as an asshole because he is acting kinda sorta vaguely adjacent to a character in the comic’s actions. That’s super uncool.

    • ranthog
      ranthog
      April 8, 2016 at 2:30 pm | #

      Except that Becky wasn’t the only victim. Joyce is hurt in a different way. In some ways Becky at least has closure, but Joyce has to deal with her own family denying her trauma and blaming it in her best friend.

      It isn’t just about her being an ally. This is also about what Joyce has lost.

      And to be honest, blazing angry is a reasonable reaction to this.

    • RP
      RP
      April 8, 2016 at 2:31 pm | #

      So, I’m thinking they just aren’t going to get it.

      • Spencer
        Spencer
        April 8, 2016 at 2:40 pm | #

        Look.

        It is really, really common for allies to get the focus in stories about the tribulations of Queer characters. It happens all the fucking time. Just because Kole has issues we don’t agree with (and I do agree with him on the matter of Ruth and Carla) does not suddenly mean he doesn’t get it or that he’s missing the point.

        Can we not try to alienate Queer readers of the series just because they aren’t towing the fucking party line?

        • Amazi-Stool
          Amazi-Stool
          April 8, 2016 at 3:01 pm | #

          towing the fucking party line
          YIL (Yesterday I Learned).

          • Spencer
            Spencer
            April 8, 2016 at 3:04 pm | #

            gosh darn it

  45. Kay
    Kay
    April 8, 2016 at 12:22 am | #

    Damnit. I want to say Jocelyne should burn all the bridges, come out, and they can just be the trio of best-sisters-evah!!!!!!

    ….But that’s relly hard to do, and maybe they need all the resources they can get right now. Principles versus practical needs are hard. 🙁

  46. Ctrl+C D@
    Ctrl+C D@
    April 8, 2016 at 12:23 am | #

    “Do it for Becky.”

    Maybe it’s the still dull headache from this weeks Arrow, but man did that line twitch a nerve.

    And it’s not about Becky entirely, she needs some help and it’s good to see she’s got lots of people willing to help.

    The thing is I just look at Joyce in that last panel and realize she’s going to have to keep putting her own issues aside just so she can help Becky. That downward look and the fact that Jocelyn hasn’t asked how Joyce is feeling makes me sad. I just wish someone would ask “Joyce, are you ok?”

    • caesaria82
      caesaria82
      April 8, 2016 at 12:29 am | #

      Why you gotta bring up Arrow tho, that’s a fresh wound ;__;

      • Ctrl+C D@
        Ctrl+C D@
        April 8, 2016 at 12:31 am | #

        At least we’ve got Supergi-….Uncle Grandp-……
        Yeah no, fuck this world.

        • caesaria82
          caesaria82
          April 8, 2016 at 12:35 am | #

          I love Supergirl tho. Man, no one is ever allowed to die on Supergirl, I wouldn’t be able to handle it lol.

          • Ctrl+C D@
            Ctrl+C D@
            April 8, 2016 at 12:39 am | #

            Only thing that died on Supergirl was it’s season renewal.

            • caesaria82
              caesaria82
              April 8, 2016 at 12:41 am | #

              … last I heard the prognosis was ‘cautiously optimistic’ for renewal. Do you know something I don’t?^^

  47. Shiro
    Shiro
    April 8, 2016 at 12:24 am | #

    I’m smiling, but it’s a tired smile. Some days aren’t paladin days, some days are just hunker down and take care of you and yours til the world becomes less shit days. I’m sad Joyce has to learn that, but Joss is a great big sis for teaching.

  48. Griffin
    Griffin
    April 8, 2016 at 12:27 am | #

    she adopted Becky ahhhhh that’s adorable.

  49. Megatron
    Megatron
    April 8, 2016 at 12:27 am | #

    This conversation makes me uncomfortable. Jocelyne’s sounding like a Prime.

  50. Mika
    Mika
    April 8, 2016 at 12:30 am | #

    This advice is painful, and hard to give… and, as a trans girl, both deeply personal and keenly felt by Jocelyne. Like me, she probably knows more than a few girls in our community of sisters who have been thrown out of their homes, disowned by their parents, and left homeless on the streets. A lot of us in that situation end up resorting to survival sex work, because there aren’t a lot of people looking to employ homeless trans or queer youth, and there’s a lot of charities and shelters who outright refuse us entrance just for being trans.

    It’s a really shitty situation, having to hide who you are in order to keep access to resources and safety, until you’re established – but it’s a better situation than ending out on the street, with nothing. :/ That’s the kind of choice people like Jocelyne, people like me – people like *us* – face every day, all over the country.

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 1:19 am | #

      Yeah. I know too well the position and awareness her advice is born out of. And it sucks telling people in pain, on the raggedy edge to try and hold on where they can to get someplace safe so they can be themselves in more places than just on campus.

      But it’s also misapplied by Jocelyne. Becky is already homeless. Joyce is already in hot water with the folks. Telling them the cold importance of this type of sad safety calculus to “avoid them ending up on the streets” is a bit awkward and little not okay given that Becky already is on the streets. Is already homeless. Is already facing directly all the dire consequences.

      Telling them to be cautious and play the game for survival now is kind of like unveiling your plan to keep the animals in the barn after they’ve already escaped the open door.

      And that might be down to that difference of experience. Jocelyne is terrified of a fate like Becky’s. Becky is already in a fate like Becky’s and so has lost some of her fear about it.

      • Liliet
        Liliet
        April 8, 2016 at 4:02 am | #

        Ooooh, good point here. I knew there was something rubbing me the wrong way about Jocelyne’s advice.

        Joyce’s parents are already discussing pulling her out of college, John will already testify in favor of that, and there’s no ‘obedient daughter’ position for Joyce left to take if she doesn’t want that.

        It’s fight time, now.

      • Rutee
        Rutee
        April 8, 2016 at 4:11 am | #

        Becky isn’t on the streets yet, but she’s going to be there in a big rush if campus administration is given a tip (say, by a certain shithead minister) to check Joyce’s friends for Becky. And Joyce, herself, ABSOLUTELY can have things get worse real quick. Her family is irate with her, but this is absolutely recoverable. Where it stops being recoverable is when they say they won’t pay for tuition anymore.

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 12:38 pm | #

          Agreed that Joyce is just on the cusp of realizing what bad for herself would actually look like and how close she is to it.

          With Becky, she’s homeless and not living under a bridge yet, but there’s so many random occurrences that are poised to fuck her right now. Hell, the fact that Mary already knows about her and is pissed at Ruth means that shithead missionary brothers are the least of her worries.

          Besides telling on Becky would be acknowledging that she is a person and he wouldn’t stoop to considering Becky to be a person, certainly not a person worth ruining. Just another trendster ruining her family and others, whatever, right?

          I think the life he’s going to try to ruin will be Joyce’s, by immediately calling the folks with a skewed story about how she went off on him for no reason and how he thinks she should be kept at home to “be made better”.

          • thejeff
            thejeff
            April 8, 2016 at 1:53 pm | #

            But ruining Joyce’s life screws Becky over too. If Joyce gets pulled out of school, Becky’s place there gets a lot less secure. And it ain’t that secure to start with.

            Getting separated from Joyce guts Becky’s fragile support network. She’s got Dina, but that’s a romantic relationship that’s about a week old. Scary as hell to rely on. Beyond that a couple of other girls she’s basically just met.

            Even more, being responsible for ruining Joyce’s life would devastate her. Not that she actually would be, but she’d see it that way.

            • Cerberus
              Cerberus
              April 8, 2016 at 2:07 pm | #

              That’s really true and very good point. Joyce ruining her life “for Becky” would destroy Becky, not just materially, but emotionally, and she might not be able to recover from the guilt of that as easily given her strong feelings.

              I know when my life was going to shit, it was the guilt of the reflected trauma on loved ones that ate me up the most and it was having someone I cared about deeply hurt to the point of no longer being happy connected to me that got me to fully break away from my own toxic family.

      • Emily
        Emily
        April 8, 2016 at 5:32 am | #

        Yeah, this advice just isn’t really all that great. Like it’s applicable to Joss’ situation but A) everything you said, and B) Joyce is a cis hetero person she inherently has a lot more leeway to express herself than a queer person would. Especially when Hank has already made it clear he supports her and understands her anger which makes it far less likely she’s going to face severe consequences for it seeing as he’s the “man of the house.”

      • Amazi-Stool
        Amazi-Stool
        April 8, 2016 at 3:29 pm | #

        Strongly disagree with you here.

        First, for all that Jocelyne knows, Becky “sorta” has a safe place to live and “sorta” leads on a job (OK, she knows the latter is not true, Becky has no SSN).

        Second, it’s excellent strategic advise!

        Now she can claim to Carol and Hank that she was able to “talk sense into Joyce”, where John was not.

        This gives her bonus points on most-liked son competition and makes her advice to the parents (to keep Joyce at IU) the crucial one – whatever John may say.

        When she says “i will keep close contact with Joyce to help her fend off secular seducements”, they will trust in her. (Contact via telephone or Hank occassionally lends her his car – she seems too poor to own one herself).

        (Which reminds me – how are the parents thinking about John’s Mustang financed by church tithings? Is this the reason he is not the most liked son?)

        She may even invite Becky in her home for some time to “re-inforce Becky’s belief in God”.

        Well, maybe not, because story-telling reasons requires Becky to also be at IU, but maybe some days.

  51. Jacques Cornelius Parrot III
    Jacques Cornelius Parrot III
    April 8, 2016 at 12:32 am | #

    David M Willis is poopfacenewlittlesister confirmed

  52. Cerberus
    Cerberus
    April 8, 2016 at 12:38 am | #

    Oh man, so much in revealing character moments here.

    Joyce’s tiredness with her anger and its silencing. She’s been sitting on the urge to scream at her family for being awful fucks for a good week now and every bit has just been this barrage of passive threats of removal from school or outright dismissal. Hell, even the majority of her friends openly pine for an old Joyce who wasn’t angry, even if the reason for lacking that anger was passively supporting bigoted systems that hurt friends of hers.

    Joyce needs someone to validate and allow space for her anger and her frustration.

    And that has another dimension beyond the obvious. Which is Toedad is the second fellow traveler from her community who has directly committed an act of violence against her. The faith that she was taught was the only moral thing, that told her she was a sinner for following the Lord and refusing to abandon friends simply because they were gay or an atheist, that is supposed to be the only source of goodness to the point where she is expected to throw her entire life away to be a sex slave providing unpaid labor in order to propagate said faith and community.

    That faith and those who have demanded her trust because they were members of her faith have betrayed said trust on more than one occasion and not only that, but her own family has seen at least part of this violence and decided the problem is with her and has openly minimized the very real harm she has faced.

    Of course she has anger she can’t bottle up anymore. Of course she’s about to blow up all over all the fellow travelers of her faith. She’s got PTSD scars down her back and the only people until now who’ve given a damn have been a lesbian and an atheist, two people she was raised to think of as irredeemable sinners.

  53. Palamdrone
    Palamdrone
    April 8, 2016 at 12:39 am | #

    …said the guy who just burned the bridge that would have gotten him home…

    • Zatar
      Zatar
      April 8, 2016 at 12:41 am | #

      Girl and her would be the proper terms here.

    • Pastafarian
      Pastafarian
      April 8, 2016 at 12:42 am | #

      To be fair, she might just have expected an uncomfortablely silent car ride or something.

      But I guess fundies don’t like to be called out.

    • Rutee
      Rutee
      April 8, 2016 at 4:13 am | #

      No, she didn’t burn that bridge, I suspect. It takes more than one disagreement for that (Usually). She annoyed her brother, but she’s still family (I’m pretty sure). John can get mad, but he can’t shit talk her for being annoyed by her wealth very effectively.

  54. Rooty-Toot-Toot
    Rooty-Toot-Toot
    April 8, 2016 at 12:39 am | #

    Damn you, Willis, you break my heart.

  55. Cerberus
    Cerberus
    April 8, 2016 at 12:42 am | #

    And Jocelyne continues to be exactly the sister Joyce and Becky have needed. There’s no negotiation or antagonization, or need to wait to grow to accept her. Nope, just, boom, you’re family, now I’m going to mercilessly tease you just like I do Joyce when we’re alone.

    And that’s exactly what Becky needs and has needed from whatever remnants of family she’s got left. Someone besides Joyce to unconditionally accept her and show her that she hasn’t lost even the illusion of family of her own because she was born gay.

    • Bagge
      Bagge
      April 8, 2016 at 12:57 am | #

      Yes!!! No fanfare, no bullshit, just “high five, little sis.” This was exactly what Becky hoped, but didn’t really expect, with the Browns. It was a huge risk but if she could get just one more family member it would be worth it. And it was!!!

    • Orion Fury
      Orion Fury
      April 8, 2016 at 1:15 am | #

      Love. Home. Happy.

  56. Bagge
    Bagge
    April 8, 2016 at 12:52 am | #

    I love this with Becky. We are about ten minutes after she – freaked out of her mind – ran into the restaurant opening up with Hitler jokes to derail what she thought would be another horrible family time.

    Then Jocelyne comes back completely out of the blue and adopts her, and it takes Becky just one moment of hesitation and then she is all into it.

    Becky – when life gives you a cookie you EAT THE SHIT OUT OF THAT COOKIE

    • Liliet
      Liliet
      April 8, 2016 at 4:04 am | #

      <3

    • Falling Star
      Falling Star
      April 8, 2016 at 7:57 am | #

      Savor it bite by bite.

    • John
      John
      April 8, 2016 at 3:40 pm | #

      … That cookie really doesn’t sound as appetizing as maybe you intended.

      • Bagge
        Bagge
        April 8, 2016 at 5:25 pm | #

        Beggars can’t be choosers.

  57. Dariu55
    Dariu55
    April 8, 2016 at 1:01 am | #

    FAMILY!

  58. Cerberus
    Cerberus
    April 8, 2016 at 1:08 am | #

    But oh man, that Panels 2-5, hoo boy…

    So yeah, on one hand, I love the little adds that Jocelyne puts in to try and make sure it’s not just another “stop being angry” bullshit tone policing.

    But… oh, man, the thing is that I think this advice may be good on its surface and without context. Bob knows I’ve given similar to queer and trans students of mine to walk into potentially disastrous situations with safety plans in mind.

    And it’s definitely what’s ruled Jocelyne and how she has survived to get here. Avoiding any heated conversation, finding excuses to limit direct interaction, hide any anger or discomfort and just deflect nasty conversations as best she can.

    And it’s impossible to blame Jocelyne for that. She faces a chasm of awful if she was to come out. She will lose her family and her safety net and an unreliable freelance writer’s paycheck is not going to protect her from a bad spell leaving her completely impoverished or if her landlord evicts her for being trans. She’s done her research, she knows exactly what landmine strewn field she’s looking at for her options.

    But it’s not really the advice Becky and Joyce need. Like, yeah, in the short term maybe. It’s the thing Becky’s been doing so far, just absorbing bigotry directed at her without raising a fuss and Joyce really needs to not be pulled out of school…

    But it’s kind of too late for all that. Becky is already out, Joyce is already on record yelling at her mom’s voicemail and promising to protect her and that was enough alone to have her mom talk about pulling her out of college. And she’s now added stealing their car and “being unchristian” to her brother to that repertoire.

    Her mom is not going to passively accept stoic Joyce refusing to engage, because Joyce hasn’t actually initialized jack shit. Carol and John have gone after her, because she’s publicly supported a “sinner” and Carol at least is not above constant passive-aggressive digs of dehumanization and victim-blaming, because she sees it all as a battle she has to WIN to save Joyce’s soul.

    Even if Joyce was to pull a full Jocelyne, her mom will still try to attack her over her support of Becky and try and draw her into an argument.

    This is no longer the time for stealth and closets and “playing it safe”, because to survive, what she actually needs to do is counter her mom’s narrative with a strong defense of her core values like she did with her mom and dad in defense of Dorothy.

    And the reason is that right now, her only hope for not being yanked from school is Hank being enough on her side to veto his wife’s ideas (yay, exploiting sexist power dynamics) and he responds best to honest openness and signs of how emotionally meaningful something is to one of his kids.

    It’s also…

    It’s also a poison. I’ve been there, bottling up large parts of myself to try and avoid triggering family poison as much as possible and well, it’s just awful and dehumanizing and is more likely to fill you up with rage and sadness to the point where it can negatively affect your emotional health in major ways.

    And well, as noted earlier, Jocelyne has lived by this method, which protects her in crucial ways, but traps her. She can’t grow her hair out long or style it femme or in a girl’s style because her family needs her to regularly make family appearances where she needs to be ultra in the closet and getting called the wrong name all night.

    Additionally, she’s not really seen, neither in these comics nor in the Patreon bonuseswhere she’s just at home miles from her folks, living herself authentically in much of a way. Trans women don’t all need to be femme, but she has never once looked comfortable in boy’s clothes and yet she’s stuck in them in most scenes. I guarantee she sees the risk being too high for anything like HRT or to even get too intimate with a guy and risk that getting back home.

    Additionally, there’s little sign that she’s yet feeling safe enough to take legitimate steps towards detangling her life from her folks. And we’ve definitely seen how the strain of things is pushing her to the breaking point (see “say something I can never take back”).

    That pathway, in the long term is toxic as hell when trying to survive toxic folks and can make escape harder and harder as you sink good time after bad into trying to narrowly stay on the good side of people who’s support is mercurial and conditional.

    I don’t think her advice is good advice to where Joyce and Becky are right now.

    It definitely is not good advice for Jocelyne at the moment. Safety is important, but I just see her getting shredded for it in a similar way to how I did, because folks like Carol don’t see that sacrifice of humanity as a call to do better, but an allowance to get even worse and dismiss things like identity.

    Basically, Joyce following this advice could put herself in an even worse position than she is now.

    • Bagge
      Bagge
      April 8, 2016 at 3:21 am | #

      Yeah, I think this is a case of an AWESOME, caring, character giving kinda not really perfect advice. Especially after the gun the situation is so different for Joyce and Becky that her own survival methods are not always perfectly applicable.

      Which is as it should be. Jocelyne is not a magical queer fairy swooping in to solve their problems, she struggles as good as she can and does her own compromises – as seen back in the fountain scene when she and Ethan were equally useless to Joyce as she stood up to her parents (and won a victory with Hank that Jocelyne has never won herself). She doesn’t really manage to live up to her own advice either – if she did she would not have pissed off John with the burn about the car (however awesome). She would have made a much more vague exit and kept her place outside the conflict (as far as he knew).

      Still it is one of the BEST advice Joyce have got, and from a person who is 100 percent on her side. It’s just not a PERFECT advice, and there will be problems with it.

      Hmmmm. Joyce’s big sisters, Jocelyne and Sarah really do have a lot in common, don’t they?

      • Cerberus
        Cerberus
        April 8, 2016 at 11:34 am | #

        Very much agree. Of all the advice she has been given regarding this situation, this is one of the best and definitely the most caring. And I definitely agree with the Sarah comparison.

        Both give advice, some of it is excellent, all of it is compassionate and understanding of the situations she is in, but all of it is based on their own perspectives, life experiences, and what they would do, and so has that weight to them. To Jocelyne, this sort of thing is key to survival as a queer person, just like Sarah’s faith in the justice system led her to push for going straight to the cops after the assault from Ryan.

    • BenRG
      BenRG
      April 8, 2016 at 4:29 am | #

      I was expecting this advice from Jocelyne. Remember, she’s been hiding who and what she is from literally everyone in her home and native community since she was a pre-adolescent. Hiding has become such an automatic second nature to her to the point where no other strategy even exists in her mind. It makes sense that she would advocate the Joyce and Becky hide too.

      • Cerberus
        Cerberus
        April 8, 2016 at 11:45 am | #

        It is exactly the advice Jocelyne would have given, because it’s the strategy she’s been using and in her experience, especially comparing herself to Becky, it’s all she’s seeing as working to stay safe. I don’t blame her at all speaking from her experiences and her researched awarenesses of how bad it could easily get for her if she wasn’t this areful.

        And thus it makes sense why she would give this advice and believe it to be the best advice she could. She just hasn’t become fully aware of the flip-side trap to the lose-lose situation she is in.

    • Emily
      Emily
      April 8, 2016 at 5:49 am | #

      Yeah, this advice is predicated on Joss’ assumption that their parents are united in their lack of support and this just isn’t the case. Joyce KNOWS she has room to express herself relatively safely and now Joss has come in with this pretty uncool guilt tripping to cast a whole pile of doubt over that. She’s succeeding in smothering Joyce’s dissent where everyone else in the family has failed and that’s a tragedy.

      • Cerberus
        Cerberus
        April 8, 2016 at 11:42 am | #

        That’s a good point. Joyce has blown up at her folks and challenged them in a major way and so knows that Hank actually responds to that and she knows about Hank’s current struggles with supporting her and the extra leeway she has gained with him.

        Jocelyne has deliberately minimized the amount of contact with her folks as possible and so has not seen Hank’s current shifts this last week and while she saw the positive resolve to the support for Dorothy fight, she didn’t see how Joyce resolved it and was only half paying attention, because she recognized it as a fight and so intentionally disengaged.

        So yeah, to Jocelyne, her parents are a monolith of awful, whereas Joyce actually knows that her dad responds well to honesty and is trying very hard to be on her side.

    • Falling Star
      Falling Star
      April 8, 2016 at 7:56 am | #

      I am afraid to know why you know all of this and what experience you’ve had with these kinds of situations.
      Maybe everyone just needs a hug right now.

      • Emperor Norton II
        Emperor Norton II
        April 8, 2016 at 9:58 am | #

        Over the last few months, I have had the honour and privilege to learn to know why. It’s been painful to read, though certainly nowhere, nowhere, NOWHERE as painful as having to have lived it! But it’s also been necessary, and in its own way good (if you understand what I mean), and it’s been a true learning experience.

        And the comic itself has grown on me thanks to Cerberus (and also ischemgeek and Bagge and other thoughtful commenters whose nicks I should probably be remembering. I apologize to all of you for not doing so). It’s been helpful to understand properly just what Willis is actually saying with his characters and plots. It has been helpful to realise that it’s a lot less hyperbole than you would think. It is not happy knowledge (because it makes you wish that the comic simply was that hyperbolic), but it is necessary knowledge. If we are to right the wrongs in the world, we must first know what those wrongs really are.

        The only ‘downside’ is that I can probably never read binge read the archives ever again, because I will now be incapable of reading the comics without also reading the comments, and then each strip will take half an hour to go through, meaning it’ll take years to get back to the current strip.

        (Last paragraph is roughly 50% joking.)

        • Bagge
          Bagge
          April 8, 2016 at 5:34 pm | #

          Awwww, thank you, your majesty. I enjoy your posts to!

  59. Cerberus
    Cerberus
    April 8, 2016 at 1:11 am | #

    Finally, that middle bit where Jocelyne brings up “doing it for Becky”, it’s in direct response to Joyce saying that she can’t compromise what she believes.

    Meaning the “it” here is compromising her value system for survival. And it’s something Jocelyne has clearly done her fair share, but it’s kinda a bit of a monstrous thing to demand of someone, especially by adding a guilt trip to the end, hitting Joyce in the heart.

    Like, I love you Jocelyne, but that little bit was kinda super uncool.

    • Orion Fury
      Orion Fury
      April 8, 2016 at 1:18 am | #

      Joss has been here forever. Coping mechanisms on top of coping mechanisms?

    • Fwip
      Fwip
      April 8, 2016 at 2:03 am | #

      Was it a demand or just a statement of fact? There is an opportunity cost here: Joyce speaking her mind could cost Becky the resources she needs to get on with her life right now.

      It doesn’t really matter if the Browns come around on this or not; simply that they provide Becky with a place to stay and food to eat for a few days while she tries to get access to the things she needs so that she can get on with her life.

      That’s what I got out of it: Just keep quiet for a few days, until Becky’s sorted out, and then you can say whatever you want.

    • Liliet
      Liliet
      April 8, 2016 at 4:07 am | #

      Yyyyeah…

    • Rutee
      Rutee
      April 8, 2016 at 4:18 am | #

      You had god damned better be willing to burn your values system and sense of righteousness for someone ELSE’S survival. When you’re playing with your life, no 1 curr. When you’re playing with others’, though? You play by their’s. And Becky has, quite bluntly, not been doing this brinkmanship FOR A REASON.

      • Cerberus
        Cerberus
        April 8, 2016 at 11:54 am | #

        Wait, Becky?

        Becky’s been actually doing the Jocelyne thing all weekend. Trying to be on best behavior (except when she’s hyper-nervous and trying to distract everyone to prevent a Joyce anger meltdown), absorbing abuse without much pushback, deflecting passive-aggressive attacks by Carol into a joke and a distraction before Joyce could explode. She even questioned the choice of taking the car and tried to follow Carol’s unspoken rules by trying to avoid being in a closed room with Joyce as she knew that would cause Carol to freak out.

        Becky’s trying like hell to not screw up Joyce’s life and is absolutely not doing brinkmanship.

        Joyce on the other hand, is very much going to the mats for what she believes and has gone into this weekend wanting to fight. She’s got a lot of anger she feels she needs to express, partially for Becky, but mostly for herself in defense of her own existence as a moral actor. She’s also always held her value system and righteousness very highly and prioritized them over safety at times.

        And while I somewhat agree with you (someone “standing up” for a queer person by “defending” them and their queer identity to the parents they are closeted to is one of those unfortunate “you were trying to help and now you’ve fucked everything things). I’m not seeing that dynamic here, largely because Becky is not going to lose much from the Browns if they were to totally reject her based on Joyce’s defenses.

        So what Joyce is risking is her own damn safety and it’s in fear of that that her sister is giving this advice. She really doesn’t want to see her little sister be burned by her principles.

        • Falcon
          Falcon
          April 8, 2016 at 12:59 pm | #

          I think you misread Rutee’s…post. He said exactly what you did regarding Becky, which is that she’s been avoiding confrontation. Rutee thinks part of it is because of access to resources, though I think Becky would still be doing it because that’s just how instinctively in comes to her.

          I do disagree with your root post though. However you want to slice it, be it lies or compromise or whatever, Becky is heavily dependent on Joyce for now, and Joyce blowing up at her family risks taking out avenues of the network Joyce is using to support Becky.

          Justified anger always feels good at the time. And certainly everyone has the right blow up and shout. But it’s a self-destructive method in most cases.

          • Falcon
            Falcon
            April 8, 2016 at 1:04 pm | #

            Not to say that bottling everything up is remotely healthy either. Joyce clearly needs an outlet, but the bigoted members of her family are not it.

          • Cerberus
            Cerberus
            April 8, 2016 at 1:17 pm | #

            That’s true and I probably was misreading Rutee’s post (I’m pretty sure her pronouns are she though though I might be misremembering). It’s kind of a shit sandwich of a situation no matter how you toss it, in’it?

    • BenRG
      BenRG
      April 8, 2016 at 4:31 am | #

      I don’t think that Jocelyne knows any other way to live. It would make sense that she would advocate that Joyce do the same.

      When you think about it, that’s a tragedy all of its own.

      • a4lbi
        a4lbi
        April 8, 2016 at 8:51 am | #

        This. 🙁

  60. vivid
    vivid
    April 8, 2016 at 1:15 am | #

    honestly i wish i’d expressed more of joyce’s sort of anger at my mom. i mean, i don’t think my mom would have kicked me out. probably, anyway. but i just shut down and pretended i’d never tried to come out to her, because i didn’t know if i could handle turning my own home into a battlefield.

    staying good and quiet to stay safe, whether emotionally, physically, or financially, is tough

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 1:29 am | #

      This. Part of why Jocelyne’s advice doesn’t sit right with me is that I did follow that thinking to the letter. I avoided unnecessary conflicts. I allowed a lot of awful and when pushing back, I was sure to overemphasize the ways in which my family were trying. I even coordinated outfits to try and challenge them the least. To this day, my family doesn’t even know my real (and now legal) name because of how much I wanted to hold their hand through all of this.

      And it went awful and probably more awful than if I had been loud and abrasive about it all. Not doing so gave them a license in their mind to demand I submit to reparative therapy and admit that I was delusional and forced to be trans by my sorceress girlfriend and so on. And in the end, I felt like shit and a fool for months clinging to an unsalvageable wreck, denying important aspects of my transition process in fantasies of allowing them some manner of input, and I still lost them completely and lost a long relationship because of the strain of having to debase myself and the weight of their hatreds became way too much.

      Staying safe is key, but you also have to be able to recognize when a situation is unsalvageable and its time to just gather what you can and build safety net in other ways.

      • Mika
        Mika
        April 8, 2016 at 3:47 am | #

        I did the opposite, and my father disowned me. He hasn’t spoken a word to me in over a year, probably two, now. He also threw everything he had towards trying to destroy me, which ended up losing me one of the most important relationships in my life, helping to break up my marriage, and almost killed me a dozen times over. So, I guess, I hope you can understand where I come at this from the other side of things? I’m even now just barely starting to guess at what recovery looks like, from all of the shit he put me through. It’s a long, long time off.

        • Charles Phipps
          Charles Phipps
          April 8, 2016 at 4:14 am | #

          My sympathies to you both. All I can think, though, is it’s on neither of you and nothing should have been in the first place. It should have been on those who should have loved you no matter what.

          • Emperor Norton II
            Emperor Norton II
            April 8, 2016 at 10:01 am | #

            What Charles Phipps said, a thousand times over, in capital letters with font size 720.

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 11:57 am | #

          It’s a fucking lose-lose situation is what it is.

          The only way to have won is not to be born to shithead parents. And yet we’re expected as kids and young adults to have solved it enough to find the “best” outcome. I don’t know if anyone really does other than by changing the overall culture so that shit happens less.

          Also, all the *hugs*

          • Mika
            Mika
            April 8, 2016 at 6:02 pm | #

            All of the *hugs* for you too, sis. And you’re right, it is exactly fucking that. It’s just the most gross, fundamental betrayal when the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally betray and wound you more than anyone else in the world.

      • Rutee
        Rutee
        April 8, 2016 at 4:28 am | #

        I took the help from states away to get back on my feet. When I was back on my feet, I eventually came out to my parents by showing up with my wife (In a public place, which was scary in my hometown for direct reasons). Disowned, terrible shit and all, but I was basically okay and wife can provide basic safety net now, and soon a proper place to live.

        Keeping my head down benefitted me immensely, even if it didn’t help the final part. It might have made coming out worse. I don’t care. I got the emergency help I needed. And Joyce is dependent on her parents income in the general.

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 12:03 pm | #

          Very true. The calculated calculus of survival is complicated and different amounts of both Jocelyne’s and Joyce’s strategy are often necessary for it… and we never know which is which until we’re destroyed by a wrong choice.

          I would never blame Jocelyne for choosing what she sees as safer. I would even less blame someone having to make that choice in real life and I think having contingency plans for things like that are always so important and weighing the stress and pain of not coming out versus it equally so.

          And Joyce is relying on her parents quite a bit right now and could end up in a very similar situation to Becky if Carol is to win the upper hand in her parents’ fight.

          Bob damn, why can’t parents just be less shit, in general?

          • thejeff
            thejeff
            April 8, 2016 at 3:24 pm | #

            Because they’re people and people suck. But seriously, a lot of them are less shit and it’s really only getting better as opinions on all of this shift.

            But yeah, Joyce is in a rough place and needs to tread carefully. She can’t really go completely back in the closet as an ally and she’s not giving up on Becky. She needs to be honest and open enough to win Hank over while somehow not scaring Carol away any more than she already has.

            And not leaving home this time without a copy of her birth certificate and SSN. 🙂

  61. Kinoko
    Kinoko
    April 8, 2016 at 1:16 am | #

    ..Does this mean Becky is LITERALLY the red-headed stepchild of the Brown family?

    • Orion Fury
      Orion Fury
      April 8, 2016 at 1:19 am | #

      If that’s the case, all the prayers to avoid being the rest of that reference.

      • Kinoko
        Kinoko
        April 8, 2016 at 1:26 am | #

        Oh, ooof, yeah. Sorry, wasn’t thinking. It’s been a long time since I heard the full phrase and I totally forgot about the beating part. >_<;
        I take it back.

  62. Henry Taylor
    Henry Taylor
    April 8, 2016 at 1:21 am | #

    Do it for her? Jocelyne confirmed to be pearl!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5i-sbh7UCw

    • Emily
      Emily
      April 8, 2016 at 7:17 pm | #

      It matches up even better because in both cases they’re giving well intentioned, but pretty not great, advice

  63. Also Becky
    Also Becky
    April 8, 2016 at 1:27 am | #

    Triple threat sisters

  64. AgentKeen
    AgentKeen
    April 8, 2016 at 1:36 am | #

    Maybe the the combined might of Becky and Joyce working together as little sisters can ease Joyce’s burden when Jocelyne forgets how to walk.

    http://www.dumbingofage.com/2013/comic/book-3/04-just-hangin-out-with-my-family/chattin/

    • Emperor Norton II
      Emperor Norton II
      April 8, 2016 at 10:30 am | #

      It is far, far, FAR more likely that Becky will also forget how to walk, and Joyce will have to carry them both. *evil grin*

  65. Jenny Islander
    Jenny Islander
    April 8, 2016 at 1:39 am | #

    I…know this decision. I have made this decision. It was in fact the most pragmatically correct decision.

    Still sucked though.

    • Fwip
      Fwip
      April 8, 2016 at 2:11 am | #

      Pragmatism usually does. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t have a special name for it.

      • StClair
        StClair
        April 8, 2016 at 4:04 pm | #

        ditto the phrase “lesser of two evils”.

  66. Solenoid
    Solenoid
    April 8, 2016 at 1:42 am | #

    Jocelyne is downright fantastic. I hope she gets to a place where she’s safe to tell these two the full deal with who she is. I mean, by that point, they’ll both have gone back to IU and experienced quite a bit more growing as people (Joyce isn’t going to be pulled out, that would essentially end the strip and I don’t think Willis is quitting any time soon). I also hope that Joyce and Becky both find/accept the resources there that’ll help them out, though surely hijinks will ensue before that happens.

  67. Liz
    Liz
    April 8, 2016 at 1:54 am | #

    Ah. And as Jocelyne is a poor writer, I’m sure it’s advice she’s had to give herself many times. Probably wise, since the parents were talking about pulling Joyce out of school entirely….but it might dent idealistic Joyce up a little in the process.

    • Lumin
      Lumin
      April 8, 2016 at 2:26 am | #

      I misinterpreted ‘poor writer’ for a second. I was like, “How do you know she’s not a good writer?!” But now I see you meant she’s a writer without a lot of money.

  68. Heather
    Heather
    April 8, 2016 at 1:56 am | #

    Yep Jocelyne is definitely a Slytherin with good intentions to me. We’ll see how this works out though. I mean Gryffindor!Joyce has definitely made it clear how angry she is though. Then again she hasn’t yelled at her /parents/ yet about how her mother is acting- just her brother as far as I recall. So she may be in with a shot?

    But I could just see John, as Joyce tries to hold it together, giving some smug ‘ah so you’ve finally seen my side of things’ thing which tips her over the edge.

    • Kamino Neko
      Kamino Neko
      April 8, 2016 at 3:37 am | #

      Nah, this is more of a Hufflepuff ‘Patience’ thing than a Slytherin ‘Cunning and Ambition’ thing. A Slytherin would be looking for how to carve an advantage out of the situation, not how to simply survive it. Unless she moves on to advice of how to build resources outside of the existing social network she has, it misses Hufflepuff’s ‘Hard Work’ virtue, though.

      • zoelogical
        zoelogical
        April 8, 2016 at 4:05 pm | #

        she’s a writer. ton of hard work there

  69. zmm
    zmm
    April 8, 2016 at 2:06 am | #

    Good job.
    this is gonna be rough
    she shoudl fake being nice about it for a while..
    and gtfo agian. Until she learns to handle it all better.
    somehow

  70. Fwip
    Fwip
    April 8, 2016 at 2:10 am | #

    I’m still waiting for Becky to contribute to the conversation here… This feels like a topic she should’ve weighed in on already.

    • Emily
      Emily
      April 8, 2016 at 7:18 pm | #

      Yeah, it’s really weird the way they’re basically talking about her like she’s not sitting at the same table as them.

  71. Liliet
    Liliet
    April 8, 2016 at 3:34 am | #

    There is something infinitely depressing about Joss teaching Joyce to compromise and keep quiet.

    I mean… she’s not wrong, I guess. But Joyce The Fighter is such a bright burning fire.

    …who still depends on her parents for financial support I know I know…

    • Dave
      Dave
      April 8, 2016 at 3:42 am | #

      It’s called “bidding your time”, once Joyce and Becky can stand on their own, they can then and only then call them out on their bigotry.

      It’s called strategics.

      • Liliet
        Liliet
        April 8, 2016 at 4:08 am | #

        the practical problem with this right now is that they already have
        the bridges are already on fire

        • Rutee
          Rutee
          April 8, 2016 at 4:24 am | #

          No, they don’t. The bridges are on fire when Joyce has to find her own way to pay for college. This is the EXACT MOMENT the advice should be coming, as far as Joyce is concerned, because she still has tuition. She DOES have her parents arguing about whether it’s appropriate, but that isn’t the same as ‘having agreed to stop’.

          • Cerberus
            Cerberus
            April 8, 2016 at 12:30 pm | #

            Mm, I would argue the bridges are on fire. Maybe Jocelyne’s advice helps Joyce put it out before it fully burns down. Maybe Hank is able to build a companion bridge, but there’s definitely fire trucks headed out to the bridge. It’s why Joyce has been freaking out all morning about what to do.

            • Hollis
              Hollis
              April 8, 2016 at 2:46 pm | #

              I would agree that the bridges are on fire. Right now, it could still be a superficial fire and not a structural one though. If things keep heading south, it’ll be a structural fire for sure.

              It shouldn’t have to come down to Joyce putting it out, but I’m damn familiar with putting out the superficial bridge fires and that’s how it goes with shitty people if you still depend on them for some kind of support.

    • Emily
      Emily
      April 8, 2016 at 5:55 am | #

      I mean she’s pretty wrong. She doesn’t know that Hank IS supportive if not of queerness than of Joyce and her judgement and so this advice comes from a mistaken assumption when in reality it seems fairly unlikely that Hank would allow Joyce to be pulled out of school for defending Becky the way he has already expressed support for her doing.

  72. DarkoNeko
    DarkoNeko
    April 8, 2016 at 3:55 am | #

    what

  73. Charles Phipps
    Charles Phipps
    April 8, 2016 at 4:11 am | #

    My headcanon is increasingly Toedad was Joyce’s deranged maternal uncle and Becky is her Tyler Durden–and this is all the story about her coming out to her family.

  74. kkiten
    kkiten
    April 8, 2016 at 4:14 am | #

    tone policing is really rude, because it discounts the feelings as a part of the argument. Its like telling someone who was stabbed by their ex to stop being so emotional and in pain and just say what happened.

    • impish
      impish
      April 8, 2016 at 6:18 pm | #

      …

      The thing about Jocelyn’s advice here is, it’s for Joyce. Not for Becky.

      It’d be a completely different story if she were telling Becky to calm down, be quieter, be more inoffensive. She’s not (so far).

      Joyce’s anger is on Becky’s behalf; it’s not about Joyce (as far as we know). She absolutely does need to be careful that what she does, allegedly for Becky’s sake, is actually safe for Becky and in line with what Becky wants. Righteous anger is all well and good, but if you’re escalating a confrontation to ‘defend’ someone who really, really doesn’t want you to, you’re doing the opposite of helping.

      Also, like… personally, as a trans woman, I think Jocelyn is talking about herself here. Even assuming Joyce would be 100% on her side, would it be safe to come out to her? Or would Joyce end up outing her and putting her in danger while ‘defending’ her? That’s what’d be on my mind, anyway. Allies who’re so wrapped up in righteous anger that they won’t curb it when you ask them to… those allies can be really fucking dangerous. I don’t know if Joyce has gone too far or not, but it’s a real risk.

      • epochryphal
        epochryphal
        April 9, 2016 at 12:27 am | #

        yes, thank you, this is exactly the comment i was looking for

  75. Charles Phipps
    Charles Phipps
    April 8, 2016 at 4:18 am | #

    I can’t possibly judge Joss for what she’s doing in this situation. This is a matter of physical and economic safety in a situation where, well, there’s no good options and plenty of terrible ones. Still, I can’t help but think this is awful advice. Raidah wasn’t wrong that there’s toxic people in your life you have to learn to cut out because if they won’t budge, they will destroy your life. I had to cut my own mother out of my life for the most part because she refused to accept my wife.

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 12:34 pm | #

      Yup.

      It’s really just an awful situation in general. Cutting toxic people out is so necessary, but survival is also so necessary, but so is not killing yourself or drowning yourself in shit and losing what actually matters to said people’s toxicity.

      So the “right course” is often hidden, confusing, and miserable no matter which way you run and the end part where you no longer have a safety net makes every piece of bad news or downturn into the most frightening thing imaginable.

      It’s really all a mess of awful.

  76. Willoughby Chase
    Willoughby Chase
    April 8, 2016 at 4:32 am | #

    “Oh you pretty things, don’t you know you’re driving your mommas and poppas insane”

    https://youtu.be/pBQ-S6njQQw

  77. BenRG
    BenRG
    April 8, 2016 at 4:35 am | #

    I think that Willis deserves some considerable praise for not making Jocelyne a shining knight on a steed, solving all of Joyce and Becky’s problems. Rather, he gives us a three-dimensional character with very real downsides and opinions that are not necessarily helpful. She’s human, she’s afraid of her family too and hiding has become an essential survival strategy for her. She can’t help Joyce figure out how to win this because she’s been holding matters at a stalemate for a decade or so because she’s afraid of the consequences of moving on to an endgame.

    If anything, I could see that it is Joyce’s choices and actions that helps Jocelyne, rather than vice-versa. If Joyce refuses to back down, it might inspire Jocelyne to stand up to her family in a sustained way rather than avoiding contact with her parents and snarking John.

  78. Decepticon357
    Decepticon357
    April 8, 2016 at 5:05 am | #

    A bit premature I think, won’t that only be true when Joyce and Becky get married? sisters in law?…….. it’s totally gonna happen. =P

    • Charles Phipps
      Charles Phipps
      April 8, 2016 at 5:37 am | #

      Nah, Joyce is, “Just not that into you.”

      • Decepticon357
        Decepticon357
        April 8, 2016 at 9:25 am | #

        Well…..Not yet. =P

  79. whispl
    whispl
    April 8, 2016 at 5:07 am | #

    Choosing when to express your opinion is not “to compromise [on] what you believe”. It’s called being tactful. I suppose Joyce’s character would believe something like that though

    • Emily
      Emily
      April 8, 2016 at 6:00 am | #

      Tact in the face of bigotry IS a compromise of your principles. Like, it’s frequently a necessary compromise but even calling it tact implies that expressing such beliefs is impolite rather than the actual problem that it is unsafe.

      • Charles Phipps
        Charles Phipps
        April 8, 2016 at 9:30 am | #

        Silence in the face if prejudice is effectively consent when dealing with assholes, as far as I’ve observed.

  80. Carms
    Carms
    April 8, 2016 at 5:30 am | #

    Wup, there she is… That perfect girl

    • Emily
      Emily
      April 8, 2016 at 6:02 am | #

      If anything Joss has finally shown an imperfection here because this advice is not awesome. Like it’s completely applicable to her own situation but it’s very much not to Joyce’s.

      • Emperor Norton II
        Emperor Norton II
        April 8, 2016 at 10:14 am | #

        I personally read that comment as a resigned “Wup, there she is… that girl that has to hide everything she is in order to appear ‘perfect’ to her family so that they will ‘accept’ her.”

        Though I will be the first to apologise if that is not what Carms meant.

        Either way, I do agree that the advice is not awesome. And I also agree that it’s understandable why she’s giving it. Another classic example of “We are what we experience.”

        • Cerberus
          Cerberus
          April 8, 2016 at 12:49 pm | #

          Ooh, I like that. And it gets to the shared “perfect girl” theme we’ve seen in these chapters.

          Joyce in genuine danger with her folks for losing her “perfect girl” status. Jocelyne desperately trying to be “perfect” and so having little support for the “girl” and straining under the pressure of it but still believing it’s her only way to survive. Amber straining to make her Amazi-girl alter “perfect” by dumping all her negative traits onto Amber. Sal well aware that nothing she could do could ever make her the “perfect girl” to her mom. Carla actively rejecting the demand the idea that she should be a “perfect girl” to receive support and acceptance for being trans. And Dorothy still straining under her self-imposed ideals and desires to be “perfect” in order to not fall further behind on her Yale and Future President goals. And Mary beaming under the fact that she is the “perfect girl” surrounded by sinners, but not realizing that that just makes her an awful human being in general.

      • Fwip
        Fwip
        April 8, 2016 at 12:32 pm | #

        How is it not applicable to Joyce’s? She’s currently reliant on her parents for funding and, even if that were not the case, she needs their help at this particular instance to aid Becky in getting the things she needs to start a new life.

        If Joyce speaks her mind, she might feel better for it, but there is a serious risk here that Becky will suffer for it, first and foremost. Following that, there is a question of her own financial situation. If she feels it’s worth giving those things up, well… By all means. But she has to acknowledge the costs.

        The advice is to think. Speaking truth to power has a cost; it is not, and never has been, free. That cost applies, at the moment, to more than just her and that responsibility needs to be weighed.

        • Emily
          Emily
          April 8, 2016 at 7:10 pm | #

          Because:

          A) Joyce is not queer which means she pretty much always has more leeway with bigots, and

          B) Unlike Joss Joyce knows she has at least some degree of parental support in the form of Hank. This advice is only good advice if there’s a damn good chance that being upfront is going to get you fucked over but Joyce has already been upfront and Hank responded to her frankness with support and understanding. The danger of her facing any material consequences for staying her current course is pretty minimal especially since Hank is the patriarch and thus the most powerful member of the family within their subculture.

          The advice isn’t inherently bad (though it is soul crushingly pragmatic and following it will destroy you the longer you do so) but it’s only practical given a certain scenario which is not the scenario Joyce is in. Joss is giving bad advice unwittingly because she doesn’t know what we and Joyce know and I can only hope Joyce realizes that.

          • thejeff
            thejeff
            April 8, 2016 at 7:55 pm | #

            I think “pretty minimal” is way overstating it. Carol is already arguing she should be pulled from school. John’s adding his voice to that. Hank’s on her side, but it’s not really clear how strongly that is. When John presents his version of events at lunch – all about how she got hysterical and lost control over basically nothing, that’s going to weigh heavily against Hank’s idea of her as an adult.
            And for all the patriarchy in such subcultures, women still have a lot of influence over family matters, especially how the children are treated. Sure, officially Hank can overrule her, but she’s got plenty of ways of making her voice and her displeasure heard.
            Joyce obviously can’t go all the way back into the closet as an ally. She can’t and won’t renounce her support for Becky. She’s on the record and she’s got Hank’s tentative support there. But she also has to hold back and walk a fine line. She can’t lose her temper with Carol the way she did with John. She has to convince them that she really is still holding on to her faith and her values, even though she’s losing her faith and their values.

          • Fwip
            Fwip
            April 9, 2016 at 6:03 pm | #

            A part of the point of Jocelyne’s message is that Becky needs Joyce’s resource access right now too. It’s not just Joyce who is at risk here.

  81. Disloyal Subject
    Disloyal Subject
    April 8, 2016 at 6:01 am | #

    Sisters. Hell yeah.
    That makes three sisters Joyce has now.

  82. Falling Star
    Falling Star
    April 8, 2016 at 7:50 am | #

    What?

  83. kek
    kek
    April 8, 2016 at 7:57 am | #

    readers : BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD

    jocelyne : let’s be practical here

    • Disloyal Subject
      Disloyal Subject
      April 8, 2016 at 3:22 pm | #

      I’m pretty sure a couple people were advocating decapitation, so they must not have been Khornates.
      The Lord of Battles only accepts worthy skulls.

  84. trlkly
    trlkly
    April 8, 2016 at 8:00 am | #

    I’m sorry, those who think Joss is wrong here, but she’s right on the nose. This is exactly a lesson Joyce needs to learn, to get away from her Fundamentalist upbringing where you think doing the “right thing” will magically make it all work out.

    She does need to learn that she can do things strategically without “compromising her beliefs.” She needs to understand that beliefs aren’t even what’s important. People are.

    I may bristle at people saying that Joyce is being “put in her place.” But Joss is imparting some wisdom that Joyce needs to hear. And, unlike John, she’s not belittling her or saying her anger is wrong.

    Sure, you can argue that maybe Joss needs to learn the opposite lesson. And that’s probably true. But that’s the beauty of all this. That’s what adults do with each other. Unlike John who thinks he has all the answers.

    • Charles Phipps
      Charles Phipps
      April 8, 2016 at 9:29 am | #

      The thing is, I don’t think this advice is going to work. Becky isn’t closeted and Joyce will never stop defending her. The Rubicon, she has already been crossed.

    • Cerberus
      Cerberus
      April 8, 2016 at 12:56 pm | #

      Yeah, I think Jocelyne’s advice even if not necessarily the best is full of compassion and understanding and genuine love. She’s not making this advice out of malice or to shut her up, but because she genuinely believes this is the advice she most needs to survive.

      And as you say, that’s adulthood. Giving each other advice, trying your best to help people even if you need to learn more circumstances and information that might change that advice.

  85. altalemur
    altalemur
    April 8, 2016 at 8:02 am | #

    freakin love Jocelyn. of course she has the advice that it’s better to stay safe than to get into fights over your values. i mean, it’s literally a matter of life or death for LGBT teens and young adults, so of course safety is #1 concern.

  86. a4lbi
    a4lbi
    April 8, 2016 at 8:46 am | #

    Yep.

    Fire and burning bridges is all fine and well, but that can amount to jack shit if you end up getting hurt (…or worse) in the process. That’s a reality a lot of people still don’t grok.

    I wish it didn’t have to be that way (fuck yea, fire!) but… yea… sometimes reality and expectations/dreams just don’t match up. This strip has been sobering this morning.

    • a4lbi
      a4lbi
      April 8, 2016 at 8:50 am | #

      And then again, stuff like this is never clear-cut and no advice is “one size fits all.” And sometimes you don’t know until Stuff Happens.

      Jury’s out whether Jocelyn’s advice will actually do more harm than good, here, in this webcomic.

      • Cerberus
        Cerberus
        April 8, 2016 at 1:04 pm | #

        Yeah. Both of these.

        And hell, that’s kind of the thing about these very personal activisms like this. The way things change, the way people survive these hellish cages is for risk-takers to suffer by coming out and braving the flames so as to smash the wall forward down with their broken, bruised bodies.

        But that’s so debilitating for the people who do that and so it becomes monstrous to demand that of anyone. People need to prioritize safety, but the community and all in it benefit from those who ignore that and take the risks and suffer for it.

        It’s really awful in general and makes it hard both to give perfect advice and to even know whether a piece of advice is going to be individually useful. It’s all really complicated.

      • a4lbi
        a4lbi
        April 8, 2016 at 7:46 pm | #

        ALSO something else that occurred to me: as an ally/being in someone’s corner, you also have to think about the safety of who you’re trying to defend/protect, too. That’s something I should’ve mentioned in my first comment.

  87. ischemgeek
    ischemgeek
    April 8, 2016 at 8:55 am | #

    I totes see where Jocelyn is coming from. We’re I in her shoes, I’d likely give similar advice – not from a “keep your head down like a good girl” POV but more a “pick your battles” sense. Save energy and risk for the stuff that really matters.

    Ultimately, Joyce needs to figure out what her goal is this weekend and work towards that single-mindedly. She needs to understand that she is not winning her family over on everything and decide what she can win them over on.

    She is not getting Carol and John on-side for gay rights. That’s not happening. She can cultivate Hank as an ally on her being an adult and aim for a goal of Carol not insisting on pulling tuition. She should do that, because Joyce has no way of helping Becky if she’s stuck in La Porte with no money or roof to give Becky.

    And I think that’s exactly what Jocelyn is getting at – if Joyce has the intention of going to battle for Becky, she needs to realize where her priorities are and act accordingly.

  88. Lan
    Lan
    April 8, 2016 at 9:05 am | #

    Becky and Jocelyne have both gained the ability “Call of the Sisters”. Only usable at family outings and such to get a +10 boost to fun!

  89. Lola
    Lola
    April 8, 2016 at 9:26 am | #

    I want to marry this guy. Marry him so hard. Marry him forever and have his babies or adopt babies and make them as happy as he’s making me.

    Damn you, fictional characters. WHY CAN’T YOU BE REAAAALLLLL?!

    • Amazi-Stool
      Amazi-Stool
      April 8, 2016 at 4:16 pm | #

      No guy in todays’ comic?

    • Jhon
      Jhon
      April 8, 2016 at 9:24 pm | #

      If ‘Joshua’ were the guy she pretends to be?

  90. AHR
    AHR
    April 8, 2016 at 10:10 am | #

    Lets face it, if Joyce does play the happy christian daughter, the worries of the mother would be far less strong, probably, because it means she is immune ™ to corruption and thus becky can be more quietly harbored with less drama and worries.

    Buuuut on the other hand, we see that with Hank that willingness to stand up does have benefits.

    In short, I propose small acts of strategized standing up.

    • Charles Phipps
      Charles Phipps
      April 8, 2016 at 10:36 am | #

      The problem is Carol’s idea of a good Christian daughter is one who sides with Ross. Her homophobia is THAT strong.

      • Cerberus
        Cerberus
        April 8, 2016 at 1:28 pm | #

        Yeah, that’s the big rub messing with all the possible options Joyce has for surviving this weekend. To be considered “proper” and thus not someone to worry about, she’d have to openly support her mom’s homophobia, agree that Ross’s actions nearly killing her were justified, and openly reject Becky. And that still might not be enough.

        • Charles Phipps
          Charles Phipps
          April 8, 2016 at 1:42 pm | #

          Her mother would die for her daughter but is Joyce that daughter or her idea of her?

          • Charles Phipps
            Charles Phipps
            April 8, 2016 at 1:43 pm | #

            I mean, Joyce is a RIDICULOUSLY good and perky Christian daughter already. With the exception of her non-homophobia and friendship with an atheist, there’s nothing which Carol could object to her daughter about! Ergo, the idea of playing it safe means there’s nothing but tong down her tolerance.

  91. Sigurther
    Sigurther
    April 8, 2016 at 10:18 am | #

    Dat last panel again. 😀

  92. brumagem
    brumagem
    April 8, 2016 at 11:04 am | #

    Joyce there’s a difference between covering up/lying about your feelings and, you know, just not wearing them on your sleeve.

  93. AGV
    AGV
    April 8, 2016 at 11:12 am | #

    JOICE SMASH!!!

  94. JBento
    JBento
    April 8, 2016 at 11:17 am | #

    So, er, this is, like, um two “good feels” DoA strips in a row. I’ll, uh, be over there if anyone needs me…

    *picks up protective gear for the inevitable in-strip fallout*

    • Cephalo the Pod
      Cephalo the Pod
      April 8, 2016 at 11:47 am | #

      I have a feeling we’re wrapping things up for a scene transition.

  95. Eddrop
    Eddrop
    April 8, 2016 at 11:55 am | #

    Someone with a level head and good advice ? That took a while..

  96. Jackson
    Jackson
    April 8, 2016 at 1:25 pm | #

    Does anyone else want to know more specifically about Joss’ religious views? Like if JocelyneJBrown.com had a theology tag, I would have already devoured every post under it, probably twice.

    Sadly, it is not even a friggin’ blog.

  97. smooti
    smooti
    April 8, 2016 at 1:25 pm | #

    And Joyce learns another important but hard to swallow lesson. 🙁 Unfortunately you’re not going to change the mind of people like Carol or John a lot of the time, especially since they’re family. You have to learn what battles are worth fighting.

  98. Mr. Random
    Mr. Random
    April 8, 2016 at 4:28 pm | #

    And this is the weird part of family politics. Where you disguise what you think because you’re unsure if the others in the family will disapprove or react.
    And to what extent.
    So you listen in on conversations, start a couple off to the side, but you’re never 100% sure on anything.
    Because you know they’re doing the same thing.
    So you talk a little with siblings, and get a better feel for them and their views.
    And each section of your family is still talking about everything else.
    It gets to the point where if you REALLY want to know, you need to take a chance with another family section.
    But you’re never 100% sure.
    Ever.

  99. showler
    showler
    April 8, 2016 at 4:50 pm | #

    Mr. Willis’ twitter has a lovely picture of Joyce punching John in the face.

  100. NoHeart6265
    NoHeart6265
    April 8, 2016 at 4:51 pm | #

    After reading this last night and letting it stew in my mind for a while I’ve begun realizing that I can relate to Jocelyn’s suggestions here, even if i don’t necessarily think it’s the best advice for Joyce and Becky at the moment. Now, I’m not in nearly as bad a situation as any of the characters here, but I understand having to pick my battles with my family (my father in particular) to keep myself “within access to resources”, as Jocelyn puts it. It’s a hard thing to do, and it makes me empathize with Joss even more. sigh

  101. Tenn
    Tenn
    April 8, 2016 at 4:57 pm | #

    *tilts head*

    Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! 🙂

  102. CianM1301
    CianM1301
    April 8, 2016 at 8:58 pm | #

    One of us! One of us!

  103. Twirls
    Twirls
    April 8, 2016 at 9:19 pm | #

    poor Joss, she’s giving advice that she knows because that’s what she does. And she hates saying it but she says it because she has to, she knows it and she wants Joyce to have her best shop.

  104. Rando
    Rando
    April 9, 2016 at 11:33 pm | #

    if Jocelyne grows out her hair when she transitions people are gonna have a hard time telling her and Joyce apart.

  105. calvsie
    calvsie
    April 11, 2016 at 1:22 pm | #

    I never know where to look at John’s face.
    My eyes always focus on the glasses but then he seems to be staring off into space constantly and if I try to look at his real eyes the glasses just bug me…

    • calvsie
      calvsie
      April 11, 2016 at 1:23 pm | #

      not John… phone behave!

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