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  1. no bowling and sad Asma on anotha lonely Valentines Day
    waaaaaaaaaa TT~TT

    1. oh shit thanks for reminding me to put stuff out for valentine’s

      1. I’m not expecting anyone to come down the chimney

        but if you’re suggesting that I should put some chocolates out anyway, just in case…?

        1. If you just start leaving flowers and chocolate around, who knows? You may find a lover. But you also may find ants.

        2. But we all know which is more likely.

      2. What are you trapping? And what do you use for bait?

  2. That’ll teach her to act selfishly!/s

  3. I choose to be normal and say Asma’s so valid for deciding to lay back down after that

    1. On this, we fully agree.

      1. On the other hand, I’m not sure we’re prepared to deal with a normal Taffy. It just seems wrong somehow.

        1. Taffy is so weird that even being normal manages to weird us out.

  4. The existential dread of realizing you’ve become plot-relevant.

    1. The horror of it all.

    2. My gaming group used to joke about NPC townsfolk realizing that they’re suddenly in COLOR, which means that player characters are somewhere around, and reacting with appropriate fear/panic.

      1. At best, the PC’s loot all their chests, cupboards and barrels. And hopefully buy out the local tavern.

        At worst, it means the demon king is going to destroy their town to motivate the PCs.

        1. “I don’t WANT to be part of someone’s tragic backstory!” :O

      2. If you don’t watch it already, I recommend Epic NPC Man on Youtube (it’s been out for ages, now, so there’s a pretty good backlog). Most of it is exactly this sort of humor–the NPCs in a videogame dealing with the weirdness that comes from being NPCs in a videogame.

    3. Everyone is the hero of their own story. Except for me. I can’t confirm it, but I am pretty sure that I am just the muggle character that occasionally shows up as the comedic relief between key plot points in my friend’s secret magical adventures.

      1. it’s an underrated niche to occupy.

      2. Hey, plucky comic relief is good, you’ve got a solid 50-50 chance of making it to the end.

  5. Here’s my prediction: Asma does ultimately end up with Alice because Jennifer isn’t romantically interested in Alice, and this results in a split between Jennifer and Alice that results in Billie getting back together with Ruth who unceremoniously dumps whats-his-face.

    I have no bias here due to being a Billie/Ruth fan I swear

    1. I live to see whats-his-face dumped to make way for the return of Billie.

      1. Why? Ruth is bi, Billie/Jennifer is bi, no reason he can’t be involved too.

        1. Jason in the cuck chair

      2. But I LIKE whatshisface!
        He seems much better for Ruth, too. Dry, resigned toleration instead of drunken drama.

    2. As someone who also has no bias i can confirm this theory as sound.

      1. I anxiously await the Ruth is cheating on Jason meltdown.

        1. Can it be with Alice, Asma, or both? Would Jennifer then notice?

    3. I kind of like what’s his face.

  6. (Can someone explain the last panel to me? Is this an “Aunt Flo came early” joke? Sorry, I am quite dense.)

    1. More likely referring to emotional turmoil over biological, probably distress over Alice not showing and thus prompting Asma to realize “Oh fuck I’ve caught feelings.”

    2. Asma appears to be lamenting having added romantic travails to the existing genocides and fascist raids and so on.

    3. External problems: Cops, genocide, politics in general, trying to live

      Internal problems: Feeling like she made a fool of herself trying to ‘casually’ connect with Alice. Possibly also anxiety over her sexuality, depending whether that’s a thing she already knew about and is comfortable with, which is unclear at this time.

  7. When are we going to get back to Carla? I miss her god-like arrogance, and beauty.

    1. Did I say god-like arrogance? I meant to say confidence, and charm. :P

      1. No, no. You had it right the first time.

    2. And the daughter of war profiteers! Cute war profiteers!

  8. I got 99 problems

    but I started one

    I hereby declare cheese slices to be the food of single people… WHERE’S ROSE

    1. don’t forget the crackers :9
      and i don’t mean white people either i mean actual crackers XD

      1. Especially if you’re planning a trip to the moon with your dog.

  9. Oh so is Asma in denial about being attracted women? With all the gay characters in the comic I sometimes forget heteronormativity is still supposed to be the standard like it is in the real world.

    1. Trying to set up a bowling date with a girl makes me think she’s probably aware of it, but it seems very likely that she’s never actually dated anyone before.

    2. I thought she meant anxiety or something like that. But if it’s an Egyptian River situation, it could add a new dimension to her saying that it’s “all been a mistake”.

      And if *that* is her problem, she bloody well deserves someone better than Alice ^^u

    3. I think she’s more just stressed and embarrassed, she set up a hang out with two people she don’t even like to get to know a new crush who’s name she doesn’t have. They didn’t work out, there was a misunderstanding, and I think she realized what a bad idea the scenario is and it’s feeling some type of way about it. Imma need some more concrete evidence before I believe the “Asma had internalized homophobia/is struggling with the sudden realization she’s gay” train

      1. Yeah this feels like the actual thing. It’s not some sort of crippling identity crisis as much as it is “I did something with people I don’t like that much and it was a complete waste of time because I didn’t even see the cute girl I was hoping to talk to, and now I’m feeling utterly humiliated that I even tried.” Feels like since we’re getting the comic slowly people are just picking *the* most dramatic conclusion from today’s update.

  10. I am going to be honest, it feels strange to me that Asma is getting a character arc. She was always an ancilary character – one that was sometimes there but never really part of the larger story line or dynamic. Her suddenly getting an entire arc afte over 15 years in just seems off some how? It feels like if Filch suddenly become a POV character halfway through the Half-Blood Prince. I not complaining, as I am enjoying the story and its a treat to get more of her snarky humor and attitude, and I don’t belive it is breaking any narrative rules to include her more (even though the cast is already pretty full – we haven’t seen Ethan if forever). There is something about it that just feels off about it – I have no idea what.

    1. I don’t see why that would be?
      It’s a pretty well-trod path, with long-format stortelling, to give focus to a smaller character and investigate more about what’s going on with them in an arc.

      Less so in a story that is a single book or movie, where the narrative needs to be tighter and more focused.
      But in a daily comic strip still going after 10+ years, the writer is very likely going to become interested in stories and side characters that didn’t have the same attention at first.

      1. yeah and im all for it
        after all Dina was once just a side character
        and who knows? Asma may also wind up being someones most favorite in the world :’)

    2. I suspect it feels weird because it wasn’t really the plan. I think we’re still in territory where Asma strips are being inserted into the buffer after the chapter was mostly done, which isn’t ideal but it’d feel worse if after her role in the protests, she just disappeared back into the chorus making an appearance a year, especially since she’s the most prominent member of the cast representing the group most directly affected by the real world thing the protest was a stand-in for.

    3. Yep. Since Booster is now a main character that means ONE OF THE CHARACTERS MUST DIE.

      Will it be Ruth? Rachel? Sarah?

      *DUM DUM DUM*

  11. She is one of my favorite lesser characters who now getting more Spotlight time

  12. This… feels weirdly intimate to see her without the hijab. For half a second, I almost wanted to look away.

    1. Does feel a bit like I’m intruding.

  13. I wonder if this is implying Asma is having a queer awakening.

    1. Given this whole interaction I feel like we’re a bit beyond that. Like she feels pretty solidly awake

      1. Maybe. But this is all related to Alice.

  14. Ohhh, pink and purple *and* green. Where are we going with these colours?
    I hear you, Asma, I do. But it’s OK.

  15. It would be nice if we knew more about Asma. We know she’s a Muslim and wears a hijab when not sleeping in her room, we know she was at the anti-genocide protest so she probably cares about that a lot, and we know she likes girls, specifically Alice. And apparently she assumed Joyce and Dorothy would know who Alice was by a kinda vague description of her that would also apply to other girls like Sal. I guess my point is that I’d like to see more of her backstory in the future so I can better figure out how I feel about her as a character.

  16. so t his week’s Valentine is about Asma after all

  17. I’ve got IBS and my first thought in the last panel was that all the stress had given Asma an upset stomach. I agree that it’s more likely emotional turmoil but if it turns out Asma has IBS I called it.

  18. In case anybody was confused, a little birdie told me that Asma’s “internal problem” is diarrhea. She’s lactose intolerant and absentmindedly ate some dairy, and now her inside guts are being evil at her. It’s not anything to do with religion or gayness (two things very foreign to this comic), it’s mozzarella.

    1. Even the best laid plans of mice and men oft go awry, as someone once said. And truly, mozzarella is the most treacherous cheese.

  19. ASMA…. NO….. the betrayal of the guts.

    (My guess is period, stress can lit bring one on early. Or make you skip one. Would anyone like a free uterus.)

  20. Honestly with everything going on right now, I kinda expected a harsher valentines day.

    And… huh. Is this a queer awakening? I was under the assumption that she realized she had a crush on Alice and was just, acting on that information. But I can’t think specifically of what might have made me think this, and this does seem to imply otherwise. Unless the internal problem is just “didn’t want to deal with having a crush right now”, i guess

  21. I’ll say it: Damn you, Willis!!!

  22. Lotta people figuring out they’re gay these days

  23. I like how, just three days ago, when I picked up on Asma’s “never should have”s in regards to “this very situation” and suggested that Willis might be signaling that they’re planning an arc in which Asma has a conflict with her restrictive religion vs. the fact that she’s queer, and that the end result would be her learning to ditch the hijab and be more like her new white atheist friends, people jumped on me for making shit up out of nothing.
    .
    And yet, here we have once again unscarved Asma – something that is culturally VERY personal and shocking to see; sort of like seeing someone in their underwear – laying in her bed, biting her lip, while she holds that very hijab, talking about how her external problems have now created an internal problem.
    .
    I mean, yeah, you can say that I’m making shit up about nothing, but Willis has been a writer for a long time and they’re laying the symbolism down thick here. All we know about Asma is (1) she works at the front desk, (2) she’s Muslim, and sees her faith as a source of strength, (3) she’s dedicated and works hard, and (4) she has the hots for Alice. If the source of conflict ISN’T her sexuality vs. her faith, then this is a misdirect. Not to mention, the entire basic theme of Dumbing of Age is essentially, “Everything that you grew up to believe is basically wrong, especially religion and heteronormativity, so let loose and fuck already so we can put you on Slipshine.”
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    Granted, I don’t really have a problem with that in general – I’m here, aren’t I? – except for the fact that (1) we’re walking the same path as has been walked MANY times before, and (2) this isn’t Christianity, but a completely different faith system, one which Willis did not grow up in and presumably has little experience with, outside of what they would have absorbed as an outsider. Trying to have a good critical take on this culture is *already* a minefield, even if Willis didn’t come from a background that already had plenty of stereotypes and misinformation about Islam.
    .
    This is a minefield. As an outsider, being able to know which preconceived notions are accurate, which are exaggerated, and which are slightly inaccurate in *specific* ways, is extremely difficult, as the religion, culture, and race are so strongly intertwined, the line they’re walking is so precarious that if they screw it up, they’re essentially turning part of DOA into anti-Islamic racist propaganda.
    .
    I, as a practicing Christian, am A-OK with Willis, an ex-Christian, having his characters become disillusioned with their faith and go into great detail why they no longer are Christian. I’m not sure how I’d feel if I was a Jewish person and they were telling me why I shouldn’t be Jewish, or if I was Muslim and he was telling me why I shouldn’t be Muslim, especially if the model Jew or Muslim character was a bit of a stereotype. And at this point, it’s kinda too early to tell what Asma is *for sure*… but she started as a bit of a stereotype, and what I’ve seen so far hasn’t convinced me that she’s left that zone.
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    It can be done, but it’s hard. Matt Stone and Trey Parker’s The Book of Mormon is such a good work because of all the legwork in understanding LDS culture inside and out, being an accurate enough satire that latter day saints could see that this wasn’t an imaginary version of Mormonism being poked at, but legitimate points being made.
    .
    I guess the TLDR is – it seems obvious that we’re going down the Joyce/Ethan/Becky/Jocylene path for Asma. I just hope that Willis knows what they’re doing, and specifically that they’re *right now* diving deep into understanding Islam from Islamic sources, so that this doesn’t start getting white-preachy.

    1. I was born and raised Muslim and yeah, I connect with your thoughts a lot.

      It does seem a bit like damage control for the disruptive way that Joyce/Dorothy came to be – the whole “sucking energy away from a genocide protest” point got lost because oooh Alice crush oooooh. Asma feels shoehorned.

      Asma could still be very much queer and Muslim, but the way US brought up now seems more to paper over the fallout of Joyce/Dorothy. And yeah, if this leads to a “no longer hijabi” arc, that paper is just too thin. Like yeah, for me queerness did play a part in my distancing myself from Islam, but it WASN’T just that and even now my relationship to Islam is complicated. At least Joyce went through a lot to have her faith tested – having Asma break just over one crush especially when her faith likely connected her to the protest she felt so strongly about falls flat.

      1. I think it would be good to get to the point where Asma unambiguously articulates what exactly her worries are because if it’s completely unrelated to her faith as the majority of the comments would have it, then I don’t think it’s good writing to portray it in such a way that it can be read as related to her faith. (and personally I find it rather unlikely that it is not related simply because Islam does have things to say on the subject of dealing with lustful feelings, chastity, dating and relationships and if the character’s identity and relationship with Islam is based on NOT being concerned with those then it would perhaps be better to just not even go there – that is to say, if one wanted to write a queer relationship where one of the parties is a muslim, then we’ve already seem the way to do it – Sayid style – assuming he’s muslim and not non-muslim arab – it doesn’t come up because it’s irrelevant to him or what he does. but that’s not what seems to be happening her with Asma’s arc to date. Especially, IMO, especially tellng is the mirroring now of her anger at “putting herself in this position” which i still read as much more about her own decision to try to meet alice for “kissy time” than anything joyce or dorothy did.*

        *that said, yes, I understand that this is a personality trait that can occur with any religion and even no religion, so long as one believes that there are certain principles that one agreed to adhere to and to deviate from them is wrong, and it’s just incidental and unrelated to Asma’s faith, or perhaps the cause and effect is reversed and asma chose to practice as she does because she valued those aspects first and foremost

    2. She could always decide to still follow and stick by the Muslim faith and traditions but still allow herself to have feelings for a woman. Accepting that she has feelings for a woman doesn’t necessarily mean she HAS to be an atheist. My best friend is a gay man who is still very devoutly Christian. There’s still undeniably going to be some sort of crossroads for her as she figures this out but I don’t think she’s going to 100% turn into an atheist or something. She doesn’t even have to stop wearing her hijab if she doesn’t want to.

    3. I don’t want to dismiss these concerns, but I wouldn’t say this not being about faith would be a misdirect. This page works as a bookend to seeing Asma in the morning, showing the contrast between how she started the day and how she ended it, even if the thing she’s stressing about is not religious in nature.

      1. Willis’ disregard for cultural norms and sensitivities in “Break of Dawn” is what made me believe they were setting up *specifically* for the hijab to be a central plot point and symbol of oppression. Asma is calm, serene, happy in that scene, with hair flowing out. About as much is done in that scene to make her look conventionally attractive as it would make sense to do, and then the next strip it’s covered up.
        .
        It’s so odd because we, the audience, don’t know her, haven’t established any sort of real connection to her, and it takes something that would otherwise be a sign of having a very close relationship, is instead used as an establishing shot of seeing the “true” Asma, then covering her up. Then the hijab is mentioned elsewhere (don’t remember which strip) as Asma calls it her “strength” – while literally every scene in which she wears it, she’s grumpy, grouchy, aloof, etc. OR calm, because she’s where she’s “supposed to be.”
        .
        The hijab is the constant reminder of Asma’s faith and convictions, and it is used thematically in this day to show Asma not being as free as she would be if she just let herself loose, have a little fun, and hang out with friends – like she *very briefly* allowed herself when she was enjoying bowling. Elsewhere, her boss is *begging* her to take time off and have fun, which she refuses to do… until hanging out with the adorkable duo leads her to let a little loose. Hence the theme of letting go of those concerns and being like your other friends.
        .
        Those are the themes that I see and the symbols that appear in this work. My concern comes because so far, Willis is treating Asma like her Muslim identity is a problem, and showing it with no greater depth than Walky’s pajama jeans. Which is problematic because the only reason why Willis elevated Asma to primary cast to begin with (per their BlueSky post) was because they felt embarrassed that they had no prominent Muslim characters other than Raidah, and found Asma more ideal than Nash. I don’t quite understand the point of trying to be inclusive if that inclusion is going to be slowly chipping away at what makes them diverse to begin with.

        1. I don’t believe not being from a specific religion puts it above analysis and commentary.
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          I don’t even think this is about religion necessarily, Asma doesn’t strike me as a girl who couldn’t coexist being gay and muslim, but having a character examine her faith and immediately getting defensive and calling it islamophobic or anti-semitic just because the writer was not a practitioner of said religion is, at the very least, dishonest.
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          To give you an example: Catholicism was a core part of Irish culture for centuries. Patrick is still one of the most common boy names in the country because of it.
          Now imagine if an Irish person jumped up and said you’re being irishphobic every time you take a dump on Catholicism and rightfully criticized its many bullshits just because you didn’t grow up in Ireland.

        2. what if:

          i drew asma smiling in the morning to show that waking up early to pray *is not a chore* and is *something positive in her life* which is something she makes text later in a conversation with becky

          if i were laying on thick some sort of anti-hijab narrative in the way you’re describing, i prooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooobably wouldn’t have drawn her smiling with her head covered *in the very next strip*

          she legitimately likes getting up and praying in the morning! that’s it!!!!!!!

        3. @Bill Erak: I don’t think that’s really a good parallel, since you’re mixing Irish and Catholic. Yes, they’re often associated in some cultures, but the Irish are far from the only Catholics. If a Latino who grew up Catholic criticized Catholic bullshit and got called Irishphobic, that would rightly be weird, as you suggest.

          But that’s not what we’re talking about here. This is more akin to a Protestant (or at least someone raised Protestant) dumping on Catholicism and being criticized for Anti-Catholicism – which was a big thing, though it isn’t so much anymore.
          It’s always perilous to critique a culture or religion from outside, especially when there’s strong prejudice against it in your own culture. It’s not necessarily wrong, but it’s risky. It’s easy to screw up.

          But there isn’t even a suggestion here of the parallel you’re suggesting. Of criticism of Asma’s religion or culture being taken as prejudice against some other associated group.

        4. Jesus fucking Christ, I think the issue is that you had some really weird bias against hijabs and you probably should look into that instead of trying to project onto Willis.

        5. I think they’re a bit off base but I too am a bit concerned where this storyline is leading Visa vi Asma’s faith for many of the reasons you stated. It’s definitely just a sensitive topic since Islamaphobia isn’t always a conscious prejudice people have and it’s hard to thread the needle of “I find religion to be bad generally” and “Muslims are widely misrepresented and mistreated in American society”

    4. Yeah, I do not feel very optimistic about where Asma’s arc is going, for about the same reasons. Hopefully it won’t be a rehash of the same beats as before.

    5. Personally I really, really hope that the narrative won’t be as simplistic as “I like a lady… but my interpretation of Islam forbids homosexuality”. I think that narrative is already getting shouted enough.

      I’d be more interested in Asma experiencing conflict that isn’t tied to her faith. For example the external problems are “the protest, the politice raid, etc…” and the internal problems are “dealing with having a crush that may be unrequited, and the uncertainty and doubt that comes with it” as well as “not having lots of social connections and maybe feeling a little lonely”.

      I’d be stoked to read an Asma comic where the problems are deeper and more personal. Just having her conflict be about her faith feels kind of reductive.

    6. I think it’d be weird for Willis to focus on a Muslim character post-protest-fiasco and immediately work on de-Islamizing her, and it’s not at all obvious to me he’s doing that.

      But it also seems narratively weird for her to her to almost engage with the main cast (bowling date) then immediately leave and go home. Psychologically plausible perhaps, but, not something I care about. So far, I view focus on her as an unwelcome distraction from all the story lines I’m actually invested in, with little return.

    7. the entire basic theme of Dumbing of Age is essentially, “Everything that you grew up to believe is basically wrong, especially religion and heteronormativity, so let loose and fuck already so we can put you on Slipshine.”
      .
      And then you follow this up claiming it’s not a problem for you usually, but wow, if that’s how I thought DoA worked, it would definitely be a problem for me.

    8. And i will continue to tell you are making shit uo out of nothing and i say with absolute confidence.

    9. I mean, lack of narrative indicators this is the route he’s going aside, I’d be more worried about the hijab-less panels if Willis didn’t regularly show other characters in their actual underwear or entirely nude. Like I’m not Muslim so maybe the depiction still isn’t halal even with that context? But I don’t think Asma’s hair is all that out of place in a comic that features about the same cultural level of nudity pretty regularly, like at the very least drawing her hair wasn’t done with malicious intent. (edit: hell you can look at Emara, which is a cartoon from 2018 made by a team of Arab animators from around the world and was made in the United Arab Emirates, and THEY draw the main character’s hair, so I’m pretty sure it’s not an all or nothing situation at least). And then from a narrative standpoint Willis has never written a character going through an in depth crisis of a faith he wasn’t once a part of, or even another denomination of the faith he was part of. It’s always been fundamentalist evangelical Christianity specifically. Like I think he’s kind of written himself into a corner with the whole protest thing I personally would’ve just retconned, buffer be damned, but considering the comic is so specific about what religion it wants to satarize, the prevalence of de-islamization (or whatever it’s called) in fundie Christian media itself (which would be ripe for satirization), and that Asma forgoing the hijab would violate Willis’ general writing philosophy of “write diverse characters by writing more than one diverse character,” I don’t think there’s enough here to worry too much that Asma is going to go through a “lose the hijab and leave that icky Islam behind” narrative, at least not with what’s been published up to this point.

    10. You compare seeing Asma without her hijab to seeing someone in their underwear. But notably, this comic *does* show people in their underwear relatively frequently when they’re laying around in the dorms. So I don’t see why this’d particularly more insensitive than that. Are the alternatives of either having Asma wear her hijab in situations where she realistically wouldn’t wear it or avoiding showing her at all at those times, better?

      And I can see what you’re saying about how the text could be interpreted that way and worrying that the story will go in a bad direction because of that, but thinking about who Willis is as a person I think they’d know that’s a pretty shitty direction and they confirmed below that that’s not what they were doing so. We’re good. If you’re worried that the symbolism is being used to set up a story like that, it’s not.

  24. Damn Willis, on Valentine’s day?

    That’s fucked up

  25. So many chars Willis could choose to be “Damn you, Willis”ed, and he choose specifically Asma…

  26. “Slaps roof of car”: This bad boy with external problems can only start if you kickstart it with internal ones!

  27. Wait, why do so many people think Asma’s in the closet? Has that been established? At the moment, it looks to me like she feels stupid for stressing on a crush, and putting so much effort trying to get with her, when there’s so many other more important things to stress about.
    Personally, I think that if she was in the closet, she wouldn’t have been so obvious in trying to meet Alice. I don’t think she’d have gone to the extremes of asking to hang out with Dorothy and Joyce of all people.
    That’s how I’m reading this.

    1. I can only speak for myself. Up to this point, I was assuming that Asma was OK with being gay, but today’s strip seems to suggest that things might not be so simple.

  28. “Set goals. Remember your goals. Don’t get sidetracked … ever.”
    https://www.dumbingofage.com/comic/asma/
    https://www.dumbingofage.com/comic/nexttime/
    Still wondering what protest goal involve ten pounds of bolt cutters. and whether they were unexpectedly sidetracked by Amazing Girl, Joyce and Dorothy.

    1. And yes, I’m connecting this to the “eternal problems”

    2. And yes, I’m connecting this to the “external problems”

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